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ORIGINAL: mons

greetings to all

i have my profile written , and i do have what i wish for. but its just really surpsie me that so many bisexual man writte to me. this is something i found why do you write when i state i do not want this. it is not written on my profile but it say i want stright males. and i also say other things i do  not want . so why do biseuxal man chase someone who does not want to bother . there is nothing worng with you but you not for me. many men who are submissive think that all dommes want them to serve a male as puishment i do not want to or care to do this. so bi male i am not up for the taking .

mons

I understand where you're coming from, believe me I do.  I also understand and appreciate what the others have said regarding those who appear to have completely ignored anything written in their profiles at all.  In the latter circumstances, I think they have a very strong case. 

If a man being Bi is a hard limit for you, then perhaps you need to state it as such.  I suppose there's also the question of whether you make any distinction between him being "Situationally Bi" and "Emotionally Bi".  If you don't but others do, then perhaps that's why you continue to be approached by some who are the former as opposed to the latter; those who are only able to bond emotionally with a woman, but could situationally be sexual with a man.  (Please, let's not debate the entire issue of forced homosexuality here once again.)

That having been said, I have to wonder how realistic we are when we place labels on others and use them to create a shopping list of what we seek in a sub or Domme.  If a person meets 80 or 90% of what we seek on our list, is that close enough, or do we keep seeking until 100% of the list has been met?  I once saw some very wise words written by someone on Alt. It went something like: "A person would be foolish to pass on a nearly perfect match when only 1 or 2 of their kinks didn't match". 

I think the same applies to many things other than just shared kinks in this lifestyle as well.  Compromise in general to at least some degree, at least to me, is what helps makes the world go around.  I see the idea of finding a partner that fits someone's list to a "T" as being highly unlikely.