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MySweetSubmssive -> RE: So you've all seen the wonderful; please help with the not so wonderful (7/7/2007 11:57:53 PM)
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I don't have suggestions, but an observation.
When I was in school a few years ago, I was talking to the head of the program. She mentioned that when people graduate, it's not uncommon to experience depression. You would think they would be thrilled to have achieved their goal, but that is precisely the issue. Students did an awesome amount of work juggling fulltime jobs and full-time studies, often with families. There is an intense drive to achieve what they wanted. But when they got there, that striving and that goal (because they've achieved it) is gone. The tiring, but exciting, fertility is at rest, waiting for the next goal.
The courtship between you and robert on the boards has been incandescent, sometimes even frenzied. As intoxicating as it was/is, it's not something that can be sustained indefinately. You're at a new place in your relationship! Instead of the hot courtship, you're in ... homebuilding. Instead of dreaming and striving, you're bringing it together in realtime.
Of course, there's also the whole life stress thing for robert. I believe the four of the most stressful things that you can do in your life are move, change jobs, experience the death of a loved one and start a new relationship. It's normal that things might not feel entirely blissful at the moment.
MSS
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