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What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:22:37 PM   
peesquig


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Status: offline 		It seems like I have send many messages to women wanting to be enslaved tpe and they don't reply. Is there a trick or something? They say be honest and respectful in their profiles, but is it respectful for them to ignore your message? They also say no one liners, but even if you write a book, they still don't reply. Not even a sorry sir, i am not interested. I would like to find a slave auction and see what is like. Does anyone know when/where one may be coming up?
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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:26:09 PM   
sadisticmaster11


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Status: offline 		they are just losers.  move on.  but I do know what you mean and yes it is frustrating.

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:30:56 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		No reply IS a reply.  Also, your profile states that you are looking for a 24/7 LTR.  Not everyone is willing to relocate.

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:31:26 PM   
SeeksOnlyOne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sadisticmaster11

they are just losers.  move on.  but I do know what you mean and yes it is frustrating.


or they looked at a profile and thought he lives to far away....

or they used to do a nice reply to each email and discovered one polite thank you means a follow up mail asking  what kind of sub/slave are you to not fall at my feet/font....

or they didnt have time to read mail yet.......

or theyre thinking of a thoughtful reply, which could take days......

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:36:52 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		peesquig,

First of all thank you for reading the profiles... good start.  Secondly... it might help to post in the Mistress section... but then again... you might get slapped around a bit.

You see... many of us get many, many emails in a day.  We have lives... we have submissives... we don't want to respond when maybe we have already said we are not looking... I could go on and on, but won't.  I think you can see that we may simply not be able to keep up with the demand.  What does one say to some things that are said to us?  There have been maybe four emails that I just could not respond to.  But that is out of many hundreds.

It does help to become known on the message boards.  Take your time.  If you are in a hurry... you might be presenting that in your emails and that will send many a domme walking the other way.  Search on the board search for this topic... you will find many answers there.

Good luck

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:38:15 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Your profile, in a word, sucks. Rewrite it, showing more of yourself, what you need and what you want.

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:38:49 PM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		patience.  Alot of women on this site, subs,switches and Domme's get quite a bit of email, and after a while it gets alittle tedious replying back to each one, even on auto-reply.  hang out in the forums, ask questions, post comments, connect with your local community. All these will help you find what you seek.

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:42:39 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Why aren't you asking why they are all rejecting YOU and not rejecting others?

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:43:44 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		lol guess I should have checked the profile... I went on the lower case... silly me!

Sorry peequig... I thought you were submissive.  Still... my answers for the most part apply... busy and what they said...

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:46:02 PM   
MercilessMarcy


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Status: offline 		The first thing I want to know is that they actually READ my profile.  Why should I reply to someone who hasn't? The next thing I look at is a clearly written profile by them.  What experience they have, what they want, who they seek.  If I read that and I'm miles from what they want....again, why should I reply ? Be specific.  It really helps when I'm sifting through bunches of emails and decide who I am going to reply to.

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:46:23 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		They are just losers?  hummmmmmmm could this be why you are still seeking? 

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:52:08 PM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		With all the attention that female subs get on here, a profile that has little to nothing in it and no picture is likely not going ot be taken terribly seriously. If I were a sub, and someone contacted me regardless of how well written the letter was, if they have a completely lacking profile I would not be interested. You give no information about what YOU offer them, what sort of life they can expect as your slave or even what sort of activities you are interested in. The idea of moving to be with someone for a LTR is already a major commitment, and doing so with minimal information is not going to interest many.
You would be well served rewriting the profile.  Sound interesting, get someones attention. You are just asking for what many other male dominants are asking for, so differentiate yourself. If you want someone to respond, they have to be interested.

My 2 cents
DV


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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 1:52:14 PM   
Faramir


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sadisticmaster11
they are just losers.  move on.  but I do know what you mean and yes it is frustrating.


Fuckin' awesome--looking good, sunshine!!

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 2:00:56 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		It helps to be world-famous like me.  Unfortunately, prominent and passionately desired doms like me don't leave much behind for y'all.

quote:

ORIGINAL: peesquig

It seems like I have send many messages to women wanting to be enslaved tpe and they don't reply. Is there a trick or something?

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 2:04:09 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		lol Lordandmaster... a gal could almost switch for that stuff... but those elephants are kind a scary...

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 2:21:26 PM   
Aileen68


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

but those elephants are kind a scary...


You have no idea what an understatement that is. 

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 3:36:49 PM   
slaveish


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Status: offline 		Your messages may end up in the bulk bin if you don't match what the receiver is looking for.

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 3:40:18 PM   
slaveish


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Status: offline 		And yeah, work on that profile. You get exactly one opportunity to make a first impression, and your profile is wholly underwhelming.

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 3:42:42 PM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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From: Rochester, NY
Status: offline 		Sending unsolicited email to strangers in not a very good way to meet someone in this medium.  Unless you have something very specific to say, most people you write to will treat your correspondence like the spam that it is and ignore it.  They do not owe you a reply, so get over any thought that they do.

I never send email to a person I do not know, unless I have a specific question or request, or I am really bored.  And when I do, I never expect a response.  However, when I am actively seeking, I post on the message boards and watch my "Who's Viewing You" and "Admirers" lists.  If someone shows an interest, I will make first contact.

Spend more time on your forum posts and your profiles, and stop sending out spam.

Taggard

< Message edited by TallDarkAndWitty -- 7/6/2007 3:43:17 PM >

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RE: What does it take to get a reply - 7/6/2007 4:38:51 PM   
Slavetrainer2007


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Status: offline 		Step 1: Make a profile.... a real one
1A) a description of you , what you are seeking,  what your not, etc. Grammar and punctionation is VERY  important as some tend to get all bent out of shape if everything isnt perfect( must work for the govt.) You need at least 2 paragraphs min. but  i would write at least 4-5.
1B) a picture. not of your  manhood, not of you in a group of 20 people. Just a pic of you. dont let women fool you. most are as superficial as the "guys"  at least thats how it seems to me.
1C)  fill out your interest section. Alot of people will look at a persons interest to see if it is similar to their own.

Step 2: associate on the boards. 90% of my messages come from people who saw a post of mine on the board.

Step 3:Log in at least once a day.  this puts your name near the top of the list when a persons last search would of brought you up as a match. your not only more likely to get noticed, but it shows you visit this site regularly.

Step 4: Messages are at best like playing the lottery. If you send them out make sure  they are compatible with you. Read their journals as well. Many subs use this area to bitch about what they dont want.  Send a message once.   you can check if its been read by going to your mailbox and going to "sent mail" . Messages should be polite. Its good to mention a common interest or something about their profile( try to stay away from  talking about their physical features or what you want to do with them in a scene, etc.). Messages should not be one liners but should not be long either. i would say maybe 3-5 sentances. You want your message to stand out as intelligent, respectful, and interested, as well as interesting. If you can write a message like this  you will be outdoing 90% of the doms that  send  messages. AND DONT USE FORM LETTERS or anything that resembles a form letter.



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