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Age Play - 7/10/2007 10:59:48 AM

SlND3R3LLA

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I will just be open in my writing, hopefully it doesn't offend.

I love ageplay. I love being a little girl with her Daddy and being used by him. I love the clothes, from the cotton panties, to the pigtails. The only problem I have is getting Master interested in it.

He will do it on occasion, but I would like to explore it a lot more and in-depth.

While Master and I have decent communication, I admit I am at a loss as to how to bring this all up with him. I do think there is a turn on factor there for him, and possibly a lot more than he realizes at this point. I would like to help him open himself up to it, so we can explore all of it together.

Does anyone have any tips that I can use to get the ball rolling? I know it's touchy for some people, that's fine..if it doesn't float your boat, it doesn't. I am more interested to hear from those that do enjoy it, or those that might have had to help their dom explore something they might not have otherwise.

Thank you.

~sin, Masters curious slave

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 11:01:59 AM

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Show him what you posted here.... Any good Master cares about his slave. That's all it should really take... :)

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 11:04:28 AM

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Sounds like a good dinner time or pillow talk discussion. It will take a leap, but just bring it up straightforward "I've really been thinking about age play with you lately and wanted to know how you felt about it"

Go from there. Asking him what his perceptions and ideas are will be great to get him engaged in the process.

And be ok with postponing the discussion if he asks for some time to think about it- but no more than a week.

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 11:10:04 AM

Bozlemman

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it can be a touchy subject but its how you approach it.
I agree with tulipgoose if he cares about you then he will listen

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 11:33:58 AM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

The only problem I have is getting Master interested in it.

He will do it on occasion, but I would like to explore it a lot more and in-depth

~sin,
Masters and Dominants have many qualities and traits. If you read the profiles you can see lists of them ranging from "strict disciplinarian"; to "sensual sadist". Some say they have great skills in flogging, single tail, canes or crops. Others speak of their ability to fulfill your fantasies with role playing. There are even some able to use hypnotism. However, with the tens of thousands of Dom profiles, I've yet to see one claiming to have the ability to read minds.

So yes, I'll add my agreement to the others saying you should bring this up with him, but I'd bet you really didn't need that advice. It is one thing to discuss any WIITWD activity or fetish here, relatively anonymous and quite another to do it up close and in person with someone you are sharing a relationship. You would think it would be easier, but the nature of the desire (your's specific or in general) doesn't make it easy.

Why? Your Master, your partner in the relationship, should be the easiest person with which to discuss fantasies and desires, no matter how dark or "perverted". But that is the crux of the matter. Somewhere, well really not 'somewhere' it is really society and our upbringing, we were told WIITWD is "wrong". It's was wrong to have these desires, these feelings, and these fantasies. Even with the ability to fulfill them sleeping in the same bed with you, there is some part of you that prevents you disclosing your desire. Well, trust me - you aren't alone in that feeling.

You seem to be applying societies prejudice and their associated 'perversion' to your desires and it's preventing you from talking about them. You are, on some level, afraid of his reaction, as you would be if you announced it on a PA system at Grand Central Station. I'm sure you trust your Master. Trust him to understand. Whether he acts upon your desires is, of course, his decision, but opening up the discussion shouldn't be troubling you. It is really more a 'you' issue than his.

Appreciate that most Masters would welcome hearing their slave's fantasies. Don't keep them secret. Peal off another layer, and get more 'naked' with him. It may bring you even closer than you are.

Take Care! Good Luck! Have Fun!

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 3:08:51 PM

ProfJoe

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If he's resistant to it, it would be a good idea to find out why. If he just feels foolish, you can make it playful fun ... but if it dredges up dark side demons, as it does for some people, I doubt there's a lot you can do about it, short term anyway. I'll tell you, for me it's quite the opposite.

Respectfully, ProfJoe

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 3:29:18 PM

SlND3R3LLA

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I do agree that talking to him or showing him this is a good way to open the subject up. He doesn't usually make me feel bad about the ideas I have, but I would agree with what Merc said about it having to do with a bit of shame I have on the subject. (I think you hit the nail on the head, Sir)

I guess somewhere deep down I probably feel it might be wrong, though in my head I know that is not the case. We are two consenting adults, very far from being in the young age group. Maybe a bit of me also feels a bit foolish because I am older now.. I don't know.

I can't think of any demons he would have, but I am not in his head. He will sometimes tell me to "tell Daddy what I like" or refer to himself in that way. I would like the whole scene though, from me being a child, to him taking advantage and the games we would play.

I have always been a bit uncomfortable with roleplay. It usually makes me feel a bit silly or something like that. I need to get over this myself and maybe that will ease things along a bit. I think when I am away for a couple of days next week, I might get a couple of things that put me more into the role. Maybe a short school girl skirt, some knee socks, and a couple of other things I can come across to get me in the mood. I like the idea of being between 8-10, so things that go along with that would be good.

Maybe I can just fix myself for the role and he will be intrigued, or turned on enough that he will come along for the ride.

Does that sound like it might work okay? Or should I first get his okay before even trying that?

~sin, Masters slave that wants to do this the right way

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To hell with diamonds, lube is a girls best friend ;)

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 3:44:56 PM

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my best advice on the subject, educate yourself...so you can get over any taboo issues you have and be able to address any taboo issues he might have...
do a google search on age play..you'll find quite a bit...i recomend Little Girl Lost's page...it helped me a lot and has some scene ideas...
as for dressing up and trying to get him involved...i don't know...do you already own these things? do you have free reign to buy them if you don't? will he see it as being manipulative (it could be seen like being dissobedient to get spanked)? just a few of the downsides to look at as well...
good luck...and even if you do go with the that plan, discuss it afterwards...like it was said, he's not a mind reader...
chelle
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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 4:03:44 PM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

I think when I am away for a couple of days next week, I might get a couple of things that put me more into the role. I like the idea of being between 8-10, so things that go along with that would be good. Maybe I can just fix myself for the role and he will be intrigued, or turned on enough that he will come along for the ride.

Does that sound like it might work okay? Or should I first get his okay before even trying that?

~sin,
Fist thing - never feel "silly" about anything that the two of you enjoy. Never be embarrassed about having fun together. Seek it out - be as silly as possible, laugh about it together. When is comes right down to it, looking "silly" is fairly common in WIITWD.

The only thing to consider in answering your question is; does he like surprises?

There are some Masters/Doms who would say that your are "topping from below" with your preemptive costume, but there are others who wouldn't be more pleased.

Speaking for myself when it comes to answering questions like; "what do you want?" or "what do want to do for your birthday?" I usually respond something to the effect; "I don't want to be involved with the planning." Anything else, surprises especially, always are enjoyable, and I'd don't consider them a form of the evil "topping from below".

You know him, how does he react to surprises? Use that information and previous experience and/or knowledge to make a decision.

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 4:08:15 PM

SlND3R3LLA

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

my best advice on the subject, educate yourself...so you can get over any taboo issues you have and be able to address any taboo issues he might have...
do a google search on age play..you'll find quite a bit...i recomend Little Girl Lost's page...it helped me a lot and has some scene ideas...
as for dressing up and trying to get him involved...i don't know...do you already own these things? I don't own any of them, maybe some dolls and crayons with books..that's about it. do you have free reign to buy them if you don't?I work also, and I am the one that budgets the money, so I am pretty much able to do as I like. will he see it as being manipulative (it could be seen like being dissobedient to get spanked)? I don't think he would see it that way, I just don't want to pressure him into something he might not like. It's more my hope he will see it as something sexy and fun, not me stepping in where I don't belong.just a few of the downsides to look at as well...
good luck...and even if you do go with the that plan, discuss it afterwards...like it was said, he's not a mind reader..
chelle
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To hell with diamonds, lube is a girls best friend ;)

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 4:20:16 PM

SlND3R3LLA

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

quote:

I think when I am away for a couple of days next week, I might get a couple of things that put me more into the role. I like the idea of being between 8-10, so things that go along with that would be good. Maybe I can just fix myself for the role and he will be intrigued, or turned on enough that he will come along for the ride.

Does that sound like it might work okay? Or should I first get his okay before even trying that?

~sin,
Fist thing - never feel "silly" about anything that the two of you enjoy. Never be embarrassed about having fun together. Seek it out - be as silly as possible, laugh about it together. When is comes right down to it, looking "silly" is fairly common in WIITWD.

The only thing to consider in answering your question is; does he like surprises?

There are some Masters/Doms who would say that your are "topping from below" with your preemptive costume, but there are others who wouldn't be more pleased.

Speaking for myself when it comes to answering questions like; "what do you want?" or "what do want to do for your birthday?" I usually respond something to the effect; "I don't want to be involved with the planning." Anything else, surprises especially, always are enjoyable, and I'd don't consider them a form of the evil "topping from below".

You know him, how does he react to surprises? Use that information and previous experience and/or knowledge to make a decision.

Thank you for the advice, Sir.. it's appreciated.

I don't think he would mind being surprised at all. I was just concerned about the topping from the bottom thing. I think he would look at it like you do, that it's just part of sharing something that I enjoy, not trying to make him do something he doesn't want to.

I suppose I have this fear that he will feel like he isn't measuring up to the things I want out of our dynamic. That isn't true, it's just that I have more of a fantasy/imagination about things than he does. I think about different things we could do, or I would enjoy him doing all of the time. It's like when we were talking about making a St.Andrews cross in the bedroom the other day (my suggestion). I sort of got the feeling he was trying to figure out why I wanted one. My evil mind can come up with a million different scenes we could do with it, but now I wonder if he will feel pressured to use it at all.

I love my Master very much, but sometimes it just seems as though we differ on things of this sort. I have always been a very passionate and sexual person, that is something I have not been able to tone down a whole lot. Since I discovered the slave part of myself almost two years ago, it's gotten so I feel more free than I have in my life.

I want to always make sure though that he knows I would never push ahead or suggest anything that wasn't what he wanted, or found pleasure in.

I hope this makes sense somehow.

~sin, Masters somewhat confuzzled slave

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And in that moment, everything I knew to be true about myself up until then was gone. I was acting like another woman, yet I was more myself than ever before. ~F

To hell with diamonds, lube is a girls best friend ;)

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 5:31:02 PM

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Sin,

I agree with Merc and the others.

One of the things I treasure about my girl is that for the first time I really REALLY feel like I don't have to censor myself when we talk. Think about that for a second. I am the dominant in our relationship...

Remember that many of us have our own fears, "are we too harsh or not harsh enough" or "will she freak out if I want to force her to do X" or whatever. Age play IS taboo, that is why it is both hard and hot. Make sure he doesn't see your hesitance as YOU objecting to it, make it clear it makes your cunt wet and I bet he takes to it like a duck to water.

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 5:40:32 PM

SlND3R3LLA

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Sin,

I agree with Merc and the others.

One of the things I treasure about my girl is that for the first time I really REALLY feel like I don't have to censor myself when we talk. Think about that for a second. I am the dominant in our relationship...

Remember that many of us have our own fears, "are we too harsh or not harsh enough" or "will she freak out if I want to force her to do X" or whatever. Age play IS taboo, that is why it is both hard and hot. Make sure he doesn't see your hesitance as YOU objecting to it, make it clear it makes your cunt wet and I bet he takes to it like a duck to water.

Very good idea, I will just go for it and see what happens. I am sure he will see that I am turned on, and that will have to do something to him.

I am just going to have to turn my head off..let my cunt take control and let the moment move me.

Hopefully it all goes good......any more advice or ideas are still appreciated, I will check back on this thread on and off.

~sin, Masters horny slave..thank goodness he is home

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To hell with diamonds, lube is a girls best friend ;)

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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 6:03:33 PM

LadyHeart

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If you're interested in Age Play, you might be interested in Googling "Gothic Lolita" - it's a Japanese phenomenon, not well known outside of Japan. Like zentai, it started outside of the Fetish scene, but has crossed over. You could show him some of the photos and get his reaction - it's exactly the "age" range you are interested in playing out.

:))
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RE: Age Play - 7/10/2007 8:22:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlND3R3LLA
Maybe I can just fix myself for the role and he will be intrigued, or turned on enough that he will come along for the ride.

Does that sound like it might work okay? Or should I first get his okay before even trying that?

~sin, Masters slave that wants to do this the right way

I think it's your way of avoiding something you find difficult and a very good way to be disappointed. Even if he is open to the idea, just throwing it at him and saying "OK now deal with this" is really not a great way for him to fall in love with it.

Though I can see you're determined to become the new poster girl for "Open honest mature direct communication? Who needs it!"

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 7/10/2007 8:23:35 PM >

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RE: Age Play - 7/11/2007 12:05:32 AM

SlND3R3LLA

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I am going to broach the subject with him tonight. We had a session last night fit into a very short time, so it wasn't quite good for it. I am going to read some websites today so I have a better idea of what I want and what I am looking for, then discuss it with him this evening. I am not going to tell him exactly what I have in mind, being I do want to surprise him with my interest a bit, but I will make sure he is okay with the play that it will involve.

~sin, Masters open and honest slave

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To hell with diamonds, lube is a girls best friend ;)

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RE: Age Play - 7/11/2007 4:57:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlND3R3LLA
While Master and I have decent communication, I admit I am at a loss as to how to bring this all up with him. I do think there is a turn on factor there for him, and possibly a lot more than he realizes at this point. I would like to help him open himself up to it, so we can explore all of it together.

I think the most important thing is to stop being at a loss. In other words actively discover ways that you can bring it up and communicate your desires to him. If you can't communicate them it is unlikely he'll get the message from outspace or from dungeon fairies.

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RE: Age Play - 7/11/2007 2:05:58 PM

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Hi Sin,
Telling my boyfriend/dom that I wanted him to be my daddy was the hardest thing I ever did. Like you, I was afraid how he'd react. Like your Dom, he had sometimes referred to himself in that way, and been willing to play at it a little, but he was also ambivelent about it. The thing that finally made me tell him was, well, it's a long story, but at one point, I planned to leave him because I was so unhappy and I felt I had nothing to lose by telling him exactly how I felt and exactly what I wanted. I figured that if he thought it was sick, it wouldn't matter anyway.

Well he thought it was the most wonderful thing in the world and he *loves* to be called Daddy and loves to act like my daddy. Being completely open to him was terrifying, but the freedom it gave us to be open about *everything else in our relationship* has been incredible. I never realized the depth of his love for me until he became my Daddy and no one else in my life has ever loved me unconditionally as he does.

For your own happiness, I say go for it - tell him exactly what you want and how it makes you feel. From the sound of it, he is not totally opposed to the idea. Maybe he is like my Daddy was - completely in love with the idea, but hesitating because -you- are hesitating. (Someone else mentioned this already and it was the case with Soquili and I.)

I wish you luck with it and I hope it turns out for you as it has for us.

Soquili's Girl

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