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"As Is" - 7/12/2007 8:59:03 AM

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A Domme i have had the very infrequent (unfortunately) pleasure of serving has, She explained to me, "evolved" in Her thinking. She no longer makes a big deal of my visiting Her in terms of setting a mood, dressing, etc.; instead, if i do show up -- and a couple of months or longer can pass between my having an opportunity to be with Her, we'll play (on Her terms, of course). In essence, i will submit to Her as She is.

Our time together is typically in the evening, after both of us have had a full day. While She is a bit sadistic, more of Her pleasure comes from commanding me, and most of the way She uses me is orally, whether it be for foot worship, pussy worship, anal worship, or worship of Her body generally.

In our most recent conversation, She told me that She no longer showers every day and that She is eager to use my mouth "everwhere" on Her. When i asked whether this included worship of Her anus, She responded "Absolutely!" -- and sounded gleeful as She said that.

my question -- for both Dommes and submissives reading this forum -- is this: do You (or you) play this way? Does it make the play hotter?

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 9:53:18 AM

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Hello jonathan,

I am a hygiene freak I suppose, but I don't scene without washing My body first and I expect the sub I am using to do the same. Sometimes I make it part of the service - he bathes, dries and dresses Me. I would not expect a submissive to orally service Me if I hadn't washed in the last 12 or so hours. For Me it's not cleanly. I have had boys who don't mind a little "frouse" as we call it in the islands . I would just rather NOT have them service Me if I'm stinky/sweaty/just come from the gym or beach/just did #2! (blech)

Having said that - to each their own. Your Domina may feel that it's perfectly ok to have you orally service Her when She hasn't washed for several days. If you like humiliation, it may add to the service for both of you. For Her, if you are willing and ready to please Her no matter how She may look/smell/taste/feel...it could possibly be a huge turn-on. It may be your submission more than anything that arouses...not just the acts themselves.

Good luck to both of you and enjoy!
~Kara

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 10:01:48 AM

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Well I personally prefer to shower every day so that's not an issue for me.

But considering we live with eachother, it doesn't make sense to dress up every time for fun and play.

The real issue is this- this woman is saying "This is who I am, this is what you can expect out of our relationship"

You have to decide whether this works for you or not.

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 10:43:32 AM

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Dear toylet, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In the term 'As Is;' I would have to say that there should be re-negotiations if there is a portion of her behavior which isn't what you bargained for in the beginning.

Now, in every day relationships there will be times when body odor will be most obvious, for example when mowing the law, car repairs, hard work and or sports--even a very labor intensive scene--however, I wouldn't go out of my way to not clean myself and have you 'lick-it-de-split' per se in any gential area that hasn't been cleaned. But, that is just me. I could see bathing together as an activity, to which can be enjoyed.

It reminds me of one of Jerry Springer's really old show's on three guys who refuse to bath and had a triade of 'pigs' and proud of it. The men enjoyed each other's company--as well. So, if you consent to be in a relationship that mirrors the example by Jerry Springer's show--that is your right of choice.

I will defend those who wish to be --themselves as much as to defend a right to post and or anything else. It is on them --as for me, I could perfume a hand fan and mask the odor as the ladies have done in the historical past or, sit up wind and have a gentleman who is wearing a scent that is appreciated, e.g. Old Spice, etc., and or a cigar; as to make the other's odor less offensive to my senses.

Just some thoughts,
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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 1:01:27 PM

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Looking at your name, I get the sense that you've deliberately solicited our stories of how we manage our bodily functions with our subjects. Quite frankly, I think most ladies will use discretion and if they do that with a slave, it's THEIR business -- between she and the slave -- and most certainly not something to be blabbed all over town. We all have our kinks, and we must choose carefully with whom we share them with.

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 3:22:55 PM

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I am a definite take Me "as is" kinda person.

I do however have some things I wont do and some I will just for the
'ick' factor.Its My sick sense of humor.

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 4:10:26 PM

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It appears I have a sick sense of humour as well, Mistress...

And all this time I thought I was normal.. *pout*

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 4:14:16 PM

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It appears I have a sick sense of humour as well, Mistress...

And all this time I thought I was normal.. *pout*

No such thing as 'normal' where I come from...lol

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 5:01:00 PM

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With a stiff upper lip,certain standards should be upheld.......(cleanliness ect),.......or we are no better than the beasts.And then the little bird on my shoulder screams.........Ms,she who must be obeyed,with watery eyes we proceed.

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 5:02:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66
No such thing as 'normal' where I come from...lol

Perhaps We are the standard..? :-)

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 5:03:44 PM

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I think MisPandora hit the nail on the head. Something smells fishy.... No pun intended.

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 5:54:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think MisPandora hit the nail on the head. Something smells fishy.... No pun intended.

I thought I could resist the urge to reply...butt(hehe) it seems I cant...

So here goes...I know lots of people who just adore fish...I like it too.
Tuna,Salmon,Cod,Haddock...yummy

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 6:00:35 PM

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Sometimes, part of the fun for me is the dressing up, setting a mood, making an event of playtime. However, yes, sometimes the intimacy and ease of playing "as is" is nice, too. It's certainly lovely that you're okay with the bunny-slippers dominant as well as the thigh-booted one, and it's nice to have that option of comfort in a relationship.

On your specific question, I'm not big on oral worship, and I like to shower daily (or more often, depending on the day's events). I don't think it would be worth it to me to forego bathing, even if it did make the submissive feel especially debased or humiliated (and thus, made the play hotter for me).

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 6:07:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

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I think MisPandora hit the nail on the head. Something smells fishy.... No pun intended.

I thought I could resist the urge to reply...butt(hehe) it seems I cant...

So here goes...I know lots of people who just adore fish...I like it too.
Tuna,Salmon,Cod,Haddock...yummy

Ok. Have to do it...........

Yes, but if YOU were going to 'eat' a fish.... Wouldn't you clean it first?

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 6:45:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think MisPandora hit the nail on the head. Something smells fishy.... No pun intended.

I thought I could resist the urge to reply...butt(hehe) it seems I cant...

So here goes...I know lots of people who just adore fish...I like it too.
Tuna,Salmon,Cod,Haddock...yummy

Ok. Have to do it...........

Yes, but if YOU were going to 'eat' a fish.... Wouldn't you clean it first?

Oh hell no ..up here in Maine we just spear it and eat it raw with the dirt and everything...lol

Okay I may give it a rinse,but it doesnt take away the fish smell.
I'd rather have fish smell like fish and not Lilacs...hehe

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 7:56:51 PM

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For me, when a sub is coming over for service, they get me "as is" - I don't make special arrangements, I don't worry about makeup or outfit, I don't worry about grooming or how neat the house is.
However, when I play, part of getting into the mindset of wanting to play is getting all dressed up. So I don't "play" as is very often. I prefer to make the process of picking an outfit, showering, shaving, setting my hair, doing my makeup all become an elaborate ritual to slide my head into my game, and leave me ready for a willing victim.

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 8:14:54 PM

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I saw frouse and had to stop and check to see where you are from. We use the same term in the Bahamas. Off topic but what the hell.

quote:

ORIGINAL: KaramelGoddess

Hello jonathan,

I am a hygiene freak I suppose, but I don't scene without washing My body first and I expect the sub I am using to do the same. Sometimes I make it part of the service - he bathes, dries and dresses Me. I would not expect a submissive to orally service Me if I hadn't washed in the last 12 or so hours. For Me it's not cleanly. I have had boys who don't mind a little "frouse" as we call it in the islands . I would just rather NOT have them service Me if I'm stinky/sweaty/just come from the gym or beach/just did #2! (blech)

Having said that - to each their own. Your Domina may feel that it's perfectly ok to have you orally service Her when She hasn't washed for several days. If you like humiliation, it may add to the service for both of you. For Her, if you are willing and ready to please Her no matter how She may look/smell/taste/feel...it could possibly be a huge turn-on. It may be your submission more than anything that arouses...not just the acts themselves.

Good luck to both of you and enjoy!
~Kara

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RE: "As Is" - 7/12/2007 9:57:21 PM

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I allow my naughty to come see me early in the morning so I can wake up with a cup of Starbucks and a smile, he enjoys the the overnight smells that accumulate.
I am usually dressed in a corset at least when I play-it puts me in a wicked mood. Of course I am not dressed when I wake up, but I make naughty pick out a pair of shoes and put them on me, I just LOVE wearing shoes.......speaking of which stinky feet play is one of my favorites, straight from the gym no shower into the nylons and heels then pressed against a nose intoxicating him.

if this is jerk off material for you more power to you, have fun!

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RE: "As Is" - 7/13/2007 8:52:39 PM

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ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

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RE: "As Is" - 7/13/2007 9:09:54 PM

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