itzelwing
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Joined: 7/14/2005 Status: offline
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Bigeyes, Don't sweat it. As a bisexual switch, I've heard all that stuff before. I like to joke that I'm only like this because it makes it easier to find a date. A little more seriously, though... People switch for lots of reasons. The Yin/Yang concept has been so overused as to become sadly cliche, but the truth is that we all have that aspect of our psyche. I believe that a switch is more truly in tune with that than any other "role" in the scene. Not that it makes us "better" or more "evolved" than any other role... it certainly doesn't... but only that we are living on a different level... in a different world of experience. Why switch? For some people it's curiousity. They're just searching for identity. They may eventually find a call to one side or another... or they may find that playing both sides is just what they need and settle right in. For some people it's the conflicting need to have the control of a top but also to be the center of attention as a bottom. Their id and ego are looking for equal time. For some people it's a need for different sensation. As a bottom, you receive intense physical, psychological, and mental sensation. As a top, it's the sensation of energy... your own and your bottom's as you transfer control back and forth and drive their experience. Some of us thrive on variety. I don't believe that an insatiable appetite for experience, sensation, or emotional exploration equates to greed. It only means that your journey is, itself, the destination. Tops have a set route to get where they want to go. Bottoms likewise. But as switches, true switches, we step outside the door and never know where the road may sweep us. I'm very comfortable with who and what I am, and I hope that you can come to be so as well. All the answers you'll ever need are found inside yourself. True enlightenment is not in knowing all those answers, but in knowing where to look for them. True courage is found in the willingness to look there. Good luck on your journey.
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Master, Friend, and Lover of ItzKat
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