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Kinkypupper -> RE: help to understand!! (7/13/2007 11:39:07 AM)
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You list yourself as a "switch" Which means in some situations you are "in control" and others you have given a level of control over to someone else.
A "Dom" is one who is in control, they have either taken or been given this control by another. They can be Domanant in a very vanilla situation. Most polititions are Domanant personality types, People at the head of businesses and corporations are also. An agressive driver has domanant tendancys. They often want things done "their" way .
Take 10 people at random ask them to sit in a room with an oblong table with one chair at the head the rest on the sides, Tell them to sit anywhere they wish all sets are available. Often the Domanant person in the group will sit at the head of the table, The submissives will sit at the sides.
Are these hard fast rules.. NO.
There is a difference between Domanance, Submissive and courtesy. I am one who tends Not to open doors at a store for a stranger, Does that mean I am not polite. No I do not, It means that "why should I open the door for you when you are capable of doing it yourself". If someone has their hands full, Yes I will and do open the door for them. Is this an indication I am Domanant, Perhaps so.
To me respect and courtesy is not necessarily automatic due to gender, it has to be earned.
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