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RE: a dom showing his girl that she is a treasure - 7/15/2007 3:33:54 PM

HeavansKeeper

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... I'm going to keep my sexist statistical outlook private, but I will say this...

Maybe you are not his treasure. Maybe you are his sex doll. I see no problem making such mean and straightforward comments because I feel every submissive should know where they stand. I'm certainly not trying to be a homewrecker, though. I wouldn't want some guy asking My Pet "Does he deserve you?" and "Do you think he just uses you for sex?" The questions are slanted, and don't come across as fair. I would expect, however, that My Pet stop, think, and answer honestly. I've seen her do such a thing. I've allowed her to answer a man who ask her 'He says you his ho, that tru?' (With inferior spelling and grammar) Why? Because I don't mind people testing her faith... The heat and pressure of such hard questions forces our souls to forge love as strong as steel, or to destroy what we have. I know the heat and the hammer are tests to strengthen our love.

Now back to you... The questions are rhetorical. You may answer them publically, as it may help others see what you mean, but they are personal, hard to answer questions to test your heart.
"he is very busy" What is he so busy with?
"I am his pleasure slave" What else does he call you?
"I am deeply in love with Sir" Why?
"unless he is at the virge of yelling at me I don't know what I have done." Is yelling the only teaching he gives you?
"the past he showed more of himself" What has changed?

There is a 'right' answer to every one of these. Just because I ask you why you love him doesn't mean you don't. Ask any submissive who loves their dominant, and they should have some sort of answer, even if it's a rambling notion. This exercise is not easy, but essential in determining if you are in a bad situation.

On the happy side, I know life can get hectic, and often times the ones we love the most get the most grief for things they didn't do. He could be stressed out, and the only outlet is treating his treasure like junk. If I were your master, I'd want you to ask if we could speak freely, and then you voice your concerns. I would not want to hear such choice gems as "Talk to me.." and "What's wrong?" or "Am I not good enough for you?" Don't add stress. Explain that you have a situation with him and offer suggestions. Finish your plea with something like "I know you're busy lately, so please take some time to think about this whenever you have a moment. I don't want this to go before your other responsibilites." Even though you do.

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RE: a dom showing his girl that she is a treasure - 7/18/2007 12:46:50 PM

yankeebabe

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wow, thank you for all the input your posts had me in tears as I realize what a mean and hatefull girl I am for complaning.
A bit of history;
I have been Divorced for a month and my X husband put my Sir and I through things that would make anyother man run for the hills, and my Sir has a small repair shop, and working so much now. Things are so much better I did talk to him and explain that, when we met I told him that I was a mess and no shape to have a collar of any kind. Well looking back right now he really stuck it out all my anxity and breakdown (emotional) I just need to be reminded from time to time that I am a better person as a girl his girl, not as the woman I was before.

to answer some queston;
he works and is very busy fixing cars makin' money
he always calls me "My Girl"
I am deeply in love with him becouse I respect him, and love to see him smile.
his training for me has been limited to just serving him and his oppinion of how I should handle my Divorce and child coustdy
what changed? well me I think, I became upset by what my Xwas doing and it made me crazy.
I will look at my clinggieness as that is not who I want to be, I am able to handle my day quite well with out adding to his stress, I love to serve him and don't ever see myself able to serve anyother Master, I came to the thread to get a slap and a wake-up call, thank you

I have made a list of daily reminders for my Sir and it includes,
-kissing him all over and thanking him for allowing me to serve him.
-when calling him be mindfull of who I am (no need to know how he feels about me)
-smile and be happy

the list has a few other things but, this is what I have forgotten

thank you to all that have helped
yankee

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