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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 2:27:55 PM

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Well then blondeinky just take the good stuff and advice while ignoring the rest.
Many did give you solid advice concerning your profile and attitude.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 2:32:44 PM

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thanks to the people that actually helped.
I am done with the topic.
Sorry that I am not as perfect as everyone here.
"rolls eyes"

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 2:38:33 PM

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Maybe the answer to your question...is hidden somewhere in the way you've conducted yourself in this thread.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 3:12:47 PM

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Hmm,
do you guys have to be smartasses?

It's in the secret BDSM contract. Didn't you get one? No? You must not be real then.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 3:14:10 PM

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Fast reply to no one in particular...

Some (many?) people don't deserve to be taken seriously. So why do it?

John

Lol. Your profile picture matches your post so well (and a number of your posts on other topics too I might add). Inquisitively skeptical. Excellent.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 3:49:40 PM

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I will also say, you identify as a slave on your profile. However you say:

I am currently looking for a dominant, OLDER, classy guy to sweet me off my feet.

those are not the words that most masters seek from a slave. Those are the words of a princess.

That is not a character judgement, and I will not go where others have already gone. Not many "real" masters such as you seek are truly worried about sweeping slaves off their feet.

Just my .02

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 3:50:45 PM

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thanks to the people that actually helped.
I am done with the topic.
Sorry that I am not as perfect as everyone here.
"rolls eyes"

You have to realize, words have power blondeinky and how you use those words will reflect back on you. No one here is perfect, plain and simple. How you word a question and how you craft a profile directly reflects how you project yourself. May I suggest you reword your profile and questions you do post, you will find you will get the type of answers that are less snarky in the long run and more beneficial for what you're sarching for.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 4:30:52 PM

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*laughs*

if you're going to play games demanding that we take you seriously like an adult, then it's time for you stop acting like a spoiled UM when others don't play by your rules. BDSM, little girl, is not game to most here - we do take our roles quite seriously ...something you have yet to learn. so drop that attitude and start learning how to act like a "real" slave that any master would be proud to show off.

and that's free advice from a collared submissive who has a Daddy and a life way sweeter than yours

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 5:20:58 PM

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Since she is finished with this, this may never be heard, or read.
But here it is for what its worth.
If you are a slave, you need to make someone want you. Preferences are one thing, demands are another. You will not find someone who is both real and willing to succumb to all the whims and demands of a slave. If you want to turn heads of the "real", then the first thing you have to do is make yourself approachable. There is a lot of competition, and most of which make themselves sound a lot more likeable than you have. You get more flies with honey than you do vinegar.
If you want someone to want you, you have to make them WANT you. Telling everyone how much baggage you have, and how many demands they have to meet before they can even consider approaching you.... most will just move on to someone who sounds like a sweet slave. You dont sound submissive, and when you dont sound submissive, a real master or mistress isnt going to take an interest.
Rethink the profile, soften it up, and make it attractive, instead of standoffish.
And, spell check. If you want intelligence, they you have to project it.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 7:01:09 PM

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The question in and of itself was somewhat foolish, but hey, we were all newbies once (hey,I still am!), and sometimes we do ask silly questions. However, it has been my observation that if one presents oneself well (both in real life, and on forums), one is more inclined to receive more positive feedback than if one comes off snobbish and bratty.
You are a beautiful girl, and I am sure that your features get you a lot in life; however, most "real" people on this site would be looking for more than just a pretty face...they look for compatibility, chemistry, similar kinks, etc. It is probably going to be the "fakes" that are going to be more interested in you, simply because of your pictures.
I see nothing wrong with putting on your profile the things you don't want in a partner. However, that is the extent of your profile. It comes across as childish, and forbidding. The people that do meet your criteria and that are "real" are probably going to pass you by as a brat. You might want to write a blurb about yourself, your "life journey" so to speak, your hobbies and pasttimes, the reason for your interest in BDSM.
I wish you well, and I sincerely hope this was a simple newbie mistake and not representative of your personality.
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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 7:09:56 PM

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I think it's because here, there, or anywhere, for every ten or so people that claim to be something, maybe half of those are what they claim to be, and a lesser number that has even a few of the qualities that we'd wish for in a partner....so hang in there, and try to recognize the "right" person amongst all the wrong ones, when that person happens into your life.....

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 7:20:32 PM

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Amen to that. Dominant or submissive, those claiming to be something they aren't are a pain to deal with. We all have to be alert, both for those who give off all the wrong signs and to not give them off ourselves.

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I think it's because here, there, or anywhere, for every ten or so people that claim to be something, maybe half of those are what they claim to be, and a lesser number that has even a few of the qualities that we'd wish for in a partner....so hang in there, and try to recognize the "right" person amongst all the wrong ones, when that person happens into your life.....

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 8:38:26 PM

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My but you are awfully full of yourself aren't you blondie

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/14/2007 8:50:01 PM

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Okay, aside from the flame-fest that's started. ~kicks that to the side~

Why can't you find anyone real...
Well, I could go on about the fact that probably at least 65% of Collarme.com can't find anyone 'real' either...
Or that finding anyone 'real' isn't exactly a simple act. Takes time darlin', and you're 18. Give it a few years.
OR... I could point out the fact that you've made a thread named "Why can't I find anyone real?" That isn't exactly the method one would take to attract the best attention. I mean.. c'mon. Look at all the folks that jumped this thread like a bad habit. That spell it out?

And that aside...
Here's some tips.

1) Spell things correctly.
2) Don't be extremely specific about what you want. That's like asking for McDonalds to sift through all their krappy food for something that's good. Ain't gonna happen.
3) Be open. You're not going to find anyone, let -alone- 'the' one you want if you don't look around with a better frame of mind.
4) Grow up a bit. Most Dom's worth their salt don't want a legal infant for a pet/sub/slave. They want someone that has a few years of self-exploration under their belt. .... or maybe for their pet/sub/slave to be able to legally drink.
5) Avoid making threads with no meaning like this thread. That doesn't give the greatest publicity to your cause.

Pawprinted,
Wolf

(( Edited for spelling errors ))

< Message edited by BlackWolfSwitch -- 7/14/2007 8:51:09 PM >

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/15/2007 11:04:56 AM

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There's somebody for everyone. Nobody's perfect, but there can be somebody perfect for you.

It's a free world and people can have whatever criteria they want to set. However, everybody here is right that one must be aware of the image they present.

And, quite frankly, today's female youth have princess syndrome (generalization).

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/15/2007 11:13:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

If you are a slave, you need to make someone want you. Preferences are one thing, demands are another. You will not find someone who is both real and willing to succumb to all the whims and demands of a slave.

Yeah, DV, I had a similar thought. A slave who demands too much is begging for a Master who loves to break slaves.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/15/2007 11:24:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: blondeinky

:)

Because you haven't met me

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/15/2007 9:18:24 PM

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I have looked at your profile too, I see you are picky and that may be well and good, but seems to lend towards a more vanilla situation than a D's. How much real time experience have you had being only 18. I have a very young slave myself and have found that there are times that they have to grow up. It is usually all about them at that time of their life. Change profile and your expectations for now.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/16/2007 3:34:35 AM

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umm...not a racist, but you're not attracted to 'colored men'....this seems to stink of stupid or racist. or possibly both. If I was a racist, I'd at least have the common sense to mask it by not using the term 'colored men' when I'm getting defensive, sweetheart.

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RE: Why can't I find anyone real? - 7/16/2007 11:12:10 AM

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you yourself must be real, before you will find yourself a real one...grasshopper.

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