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FangsNfeet -> RE: How to start getting into the lifestyle? (6/22/2005 4:45:37 PM)
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When I turned 18 and finally moved out of a dump of a Red Neck Hick town found in BEF of South East Texas, I began to experiment with partners myself in BDSM.
Reading, munches, scenes and such are always good for getting ideas. However, what really got me started in BDSM relationships was confidence. When I started making out with someone it never hurt to ask "Would you like to be spanked now?" and say "I have a blind fold and some rope in the closet" If they where never envolved in the lifestyle before they soon got a good piece of it.
As a submissive, confidence can still apply to you. Most Doms like having a fresh sub because we don't have to break bad habbits you learned from other Doms. We can teach you exactly how we want things done. Your goal is to be confident with your youth. When flirting it will not hurt to use phrases as "Did I just earn a spanking?" "To ride this youthfull bull you'll have to tie me down" "How fast can you take off my belt and spank me with it?" "I'm a horney boy, you sure you can handle me?" "If you can take me on you're allowed to try?" and whatever you can think of. Even if you end up dateing someone who isn't all that kinky to begin with, you can still introduce them to things you would like done to you. Buy some rope, a blind fold, cuffs, and some spanking stuff to keep in your closset. Just basic stuff. Fancy isn't needed. When making out with some one who may not be in the lifestyle yet ask for fingernails, biteing, and hair pulling. If it's working ask to be spanked a few swats. If she's getting turned on by it say "Your naughty self is driving me wild. If you tie me up I'll be all yours for the taking." If it turns out to being a couple the two of you can go to sex stores together, watch BDSM porn, and such to get ideas where you can say "oh oh oh, how about you try doing that to me?"
Ignorance is blis. Asking someone "how does this feel?" "how would you like it?" "How may I serve you this evening?" and "May I use your thighs to keep my ears warm?" will go a long way for you. Just remeber to be confident when you ask them.
As for being a guy in general, it never hurts to take a few lessons about giving massages, oral sex, and getting an exercise routine. Most women like guys who do those things.
Best of luck. I'm sure you'll be caught before you know it.
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