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will he come back? - 7/21/2007 9:52:20 AM

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my Masters vanilla girlfriend found texts he had sent to me on his phone. he has called things off with me to try and get her back on side. i am heart broken. i know i should have found a single Master to avoid this happening and he doesn't blame me for what has happened but can a Master/ Dom live with out being such?

RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 9:55:26 AM

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You may want to consider that a man who is dishonest in his relationships is probably not a man you should honor with the title of "Master".

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 9:55:31 AM

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my Masters vanilla girlfriend found texts he had sent to me on his phone. he has called things off with me to try and get her back on side. i am heart broken. i know i should have found a single Master to avoid this happening and he doesn't blame me for what has happened but can a Master/ Dom live with out being such?

In a word, yes.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 9:58:42 AM

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He's doing it, isn't he?

Um hello? Your profile indicates that you're married...the last I looked, married isn't single.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 10:04:22 AM

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i know i should have found a single Master

When you chose a man who was in another relationship, what did you really expect?

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 10:07:19 AM

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Well, since you're married as well, I don't see what the big deal is. Plus it sounds like this was an online relationship.

I don't think online domination even counts as an affair-- I'm assuming you're not seeing each other or fucking.

And since you're married I dont' see how requiring your partner to be single and exclussive to you, especially for an online relationship, makes much sense.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 10:10:50 AM

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I agree with bandit's comment...

what in the world are you thinking whining about HIM being in another relationship when you are in another as well?

In my opinion, i think you both are pretty senile to the repercussions of living two lives.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 11:26:10 AM

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This situation sounds like a mess, but my one thought is this: if he was stupid enough to send you text messages that his wife could find, maybe deep down he wanted to get caught.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 11:48:17 AM

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no, he's not coming back for you.

should you be looking for a single dom/master? that's up to you however it's a double standard since it seems you're seeking something more than mental submission ...and you're married.

does your nilla husband know about your alternative activities?

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 7:03:32 PM

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A better question might be, "should he come back?" You used the word "heartbroken." That sounds as though you were getting into territory where the fabric of your marriage was about to be compromised. Honestly, it's time to take a step back and look seriously at what's going on with yourself and your marriage. If you are getting emotionally involved elsewhere, then you're standing at the top of a long slippery slope....

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RE: will he come back? - 7/21/2007 9:55:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: plzyou

my Masters vanilla girlfriend found texts he had sent to me on his phone. he has called things off with me to try and get her back on side. i am heart broken. i know i should have found a single Master to avoid this happening and he doesn't blame me for what has happened but can a Master/ Dom live with out being such?

Based solely on the information here, I wouldn't give him the title of "master" but yes, some doms and subs live very happily outside of the lifestyle. You have noticed some supposedly vanilla friends have an unspoken power dynamic in their relationships. That can be just as fulfilling as one that is spelled out.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/22/2007 6:17:35 AM

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His girlfriend's back, and you're gonna be in trouble...

Hey la, Hey LA! His girlfriend's back.

If I were you, I'd take a permanent vacation..

Hey la, Hey LA! His girlfriend's back.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/22/2007 6:45:39 AM

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,,,Sure he may come back...the vanilla girlfriend may not meet his needs, or his hunger may grow again. Do you want him back? Why?

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RE: will he come back? - 7/22/2007 10:45:26 AM

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You are married and he has a girl friend, I don't see any problem with that.
Do you expect most single people to be satisfied being in a relationship for a long
time, with someone that is married to someone else?

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RE: will he come back? - 7/22/2007 11:23:08 AM

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i try not to get involved with men who are attached in any way

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RE: will he come back? - 7/22/2007 11:26:02 AM

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So do I, for some it does seem to work.
I am monogamous and seek the same trait in a partner.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/22/2007 11:27:14 AM

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Many people will do things that create drama, hardship and self denial in their lives. "Humans are cowards in the face of happiness." - Kamakazi Girls.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/22/2007 6:39:09 PM

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You may want to consider that a man who is dishonest in his relationships is probably not a man you should honor with the title of "Master".

Exactly!! Well said.

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RE: will he come back? - 7/23/2007 12:35:32 AM

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You may want to consider that a man who is dishonest in his relationships is probably not a man you should honor with the title of "Master".

Exactly. If they won't tell their girlfriend, they're not going to tell you the truth. It'll be just one lie on top of another, on top of another.

i know this isn't what you want to hear, but it's the truth.

Well wishes

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RE: will he come back? - 7/23/2007 2:52:02 AM

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I think the advice I've given to my kids their whole lives works wonderfully in this situation. (It worked at 7 when they loaned their toys out and didn't get them back. It worked at 16 when they were beginning to date and had to sort out the girlfriends and those who just wanted to use them, and it works at 23, when they're faced with the girls looking for marriage partners.)

"Don't do what you can't pay for."

He did. He got caught. He was unwilling to pay the price. He's gone.

You did. Is the price that you're paying worth what you got (are getting)?

If not, the next time you're getting involved with someone simply ask yourself, based on what they've told you about themselves, are they worth what you'll have to pay? (And no matter how good the relationship, you WILL have to pay a price.) If not, walk away. Somewhere along the line, you're going to meet someone who's priceless.

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