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shyguyuk -> my first munch (6/24/2005 8:30:08 AM)
Hello folks Im going to my first munch this weekend, and im rather nervous as i don't know what to expect. anybody care to share there experiences from there first munch? were you scaried? did you go alone? what did you wear? Thanks for reading. michelle x

RiotGirl -> RE: my first munch (6/24/2005 8:32:09 AM)
Cant remember ever going to one.. LOl but it doesnt mean i havent. i think its pretty casual and laid back, in a public play. Just be respectful and polite and dont throw food! ( i remember the thread...) Act like any adult.

stormsfate -> RE: my first munch (6/24/2005 8:34:28 AM)
They are usually quite casual, and often held in vanilla places, like restaurants, etc. Just dress vanilla, be polite and smile and you will be fine :) Enjoy! best regards, fate

shyguyuk -> RE: my first munch (6/24/2005 9:10:45 AM)
Thank you for the advice (dont throw food lol) im really looking forward to it. i'll post how it goes :) michelle x

sub4hire -> RE: my first munch (6/24/2005 12:50:47 PM)
quote: anybody care to share there experiences from there first munch? were you scaried? did you go alone? what did you wear? Everyone is always nervous their first munch. You really don't know what to expect. Freaks or normal looking people. Leather or lace...etc. Basically a munch is held in a very public place. So much so you cannot say you are BDSM. Therefore you must dress the way you would if you were just going to meet a bunch of friends. Only difference is...all of these friends have bondage in common. There is no play at a munch. As I said, it is public. Families and kids. Hopefully the munch you are going to is in a semi private space within the restaurant. That way you can talk a bit about your kink. Think of it as a blind date but with 20 people.

Rascalyrabbit -> RE: my first munch (6/24/2005 1:23:00 PM)
I've never been to a munch either. Are munches basically for making friends? I would love to meet people that have the same interests as I do.

sub4hire -> RE: my first munch (6/24/2005 1:28:01 PM)
Why explain yourself when you can have someone else do it for you? Hehe... Go to this site. Follow the meet people link...and it will tell you what a munch is. Part of the definition is below but not all. http://www.drkdesyre.com/ What's a "Munch"? What's a Social? What's a Slosh? What's a POS? A munch is a casual lunch or dinner with other local people who have an interest or experience in BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Dominance and submission, sadomasochism) and/or Fetish. Munch groups have many different characters depending on locations of where they meet. Some are held in locations where a demonstration can be given on different techniques, but most are held in family restaurants or bars where 'play' or fetishwear is not permitted. A munch is a great atmosphere to meet like minded locals, discuss a variety of topics, and make friends and get validation without people behaving 'in role'. Following are some frequently asked questions regarding munches. I don't have a partner.. Can I come alone? Will I be safe?

shyguyuk -> RE: my first munch (6/24/2005 2:39:54 PM)
Thanks everybody for the information, i feel a lot better going to the munch now im so looking forward to it :) This munch is in a pub so im going to have to watch my drinking lol ive been known to be a little crazy when drinking. singing, dancing er pole dancing lol (dont ask) well i am a student, its allowed right? hehe michelle x

ProtagonistLily -> RE: my first munch (6/25/2005 4:28:32 AM)
quote: Thanks everybody for the information, i feel a lot better going to the munch now im so looking forward to it :) This munch is in a pub so im going to have to watch my drinking lol ive been known to be a little crazy when drinking. singing, dancing er pole dancing lol (dont ask) well i am a student, its allowed right? hehe michelle x I lived in London for a year when I was a student a million years ago. What I wouldnt' give for a decent Ploughman's right now you have no idea... ~grin~ I actually had an odd experience at my first munch. First, I ran into somoene I knew vanilla, which was quite unexpected. Bob and I had known each other from another organization and it was a little awkward for me but he approached me and reassured me that I had nothing to worry about. The other organization we knew each other from had a discrestion component and I knew him for years, so it really wasn't much more than a suprise to see that he's kinky. Secondly, I met the woman who was to become my best friend to this day at my first Munch. She and her husband started the local organization here and I had spoken with her a few times on the phone and was of course anxious to meet her. She was a little late, sat next to me, and about 5 minutes later turned a shade of green and said "Sorry I have to go, I'm going to throw up." And bolted out the door. Her Master/Husband explained the situation as she was pregnant with their first baby. It was all good. So good in fact they just christened their second child. Lily

MistressJadeMTL -> RE: my first munch (6/25/2005 6:13:12 AM)
You might want to keep an eye out for a bunch of people predominantly wearing black -- that's usually an easy way to spot your munch group if in doubt... (Hey, I'm not kidding!) I've had great luck at munches and sloshes here in Montreal. In the past 3 or 4 months, I've met one of my most recent play subs, jon, who recently had to return home to Germany -- but he was wonderful while he was here in town. I also met one of my new best friend Dommes, we hit it off so well that we often will "Double-Domme" on subs together, and even did so with my sub jon. I also met a sub last weekend with whom we had a great session with just this week and will be seeing him at a local BDSM club again later on tonight. Yup, munches have been great to me and that's why I highly recommend them to newcomers. It's a great source to meet other fellow kinksters...

sub4hire -> RE: my first munch (6/25/2005 8:09:03 AM)
quote: What I wouldnt' give for a decent Ploughman's right now you have no idea... ~grin~ "ploughmans are homemade try this.... crusty roll, small amount of salad, as many types of cheeses, pickle onions, pickle, an apple and home made coleslaw add mayple syrup to it its fantastc." I had to look it up to find out what you were talking about. Sounds simple enough to make.

KittieSummers -> RE: my first munch (6/25/2005 2:15:45 PM)
I'm in England, which I find is crap for both munches and BDSM clubs, as i can't find A SINGLE ONE! Not anywhere near me anyway. I live in Nottingham. Anyone know of anything near me??? I can get to both Nottingham city centre and Derby fairly easily. Also other places nearby, but not so easily ;-)

subrob1967 -> RE: my first munch (6/25/2005 7:18:22 PM)
No I wasn't scared Yes I went alone Dockers and a Polo shirt It was a a local Pepe's mex restruant, and I had a very good time. The group was easy to find, because the Hostess set up small red mylar balloons on the tables. You should be able to expect a typical social gathering, with a lot of vanilla topics being discussed.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: my first munch (7/10/2005 4:39:46 PM)
Kittie, Im afraid I dont know your neck of the woods too well but I am at least in the same country-I live in Shropshire,in the midlands. Anyway, have you looked on the "Informed Consent" website, there MUST be a few clubd near you. Check it out,there may be other places you could get too with reletive ease. Good luck,hope this helps. HalloweenWhite.

dominmd -> RE: my first munch (7/10/2005 6:54:50 PM)
Yes, Munches are where you meet people and get to know them. They are a great place tobreak the ice. Especially with someone who is shy (like me). They will begin to take your shyness away (like me) and you will become part of the group. I have so many positive feelings when I leave a munch that it is hard to describe. Be open and honest and always respectful. This will build your reputation, earn trust, and respect. The group I belong to here in Baltimore, Maryland is very nice. Full of nice and knowledgeable people. Great group of people that make you feel welcome and at home. This is how I found my first munch. My first munch was odd, like everyone else's. I am a naturally shy person until I get to know you. But there were many people and 3 specific people who brought me out of my shell of shyness. Now I feel I am part of this group. Everyone is very accepting there, and many are willing to teach. My 2 biggest suggestions now having learned what I have learned are this: Join a local group that is SSC, then go to a munch as often as you can. After that the play parties and socials.

onceburned -> RE: my first munch (7/10/2005 11:42:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shyguyuk Thank you for the advice (dont throw food lol) im really looking forward to it. i'll post how it goes :) So Michelle.... how did it go?? [:)]

pandoravampire -> RE: my first munch (7/11/2005 12:08:01 AM)
Kittie, this info is 3 yrs out of date, but look out for bi monthly bdsm/fetish clubs held at the colluseum, plus, Cocolatte do one, check out the gay papers, as the leather crowd go to many, from there you can search for a local munch, plus the sex shops will have details in store of local groups.

onceburned -> RE: my first munch (7/11/2005 4:07:31 AM)
Kittie have you looked at the listings on: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/uk/

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