MaamJay
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MsOpal and Argent, firstly, wishing you both all the best with the addition of your third. Secondly, butterflies are definitely normal and to be expected, and I would be more concerned if you weren't feeling them! Thirdly, I know how you feel ... I currently have a sub staying for a week ... I was VERY nervous on Friday when she arrived (Master found that very amusing!), took Me a while to settle. she too has had an awful first experience of bdsm, and like you, I have been very motivated to not repeat that and in fact, to help her get over that and see things from a different perspective. So far, so very good! Now she's only here for a week, though with potential to work towards a 24/7 future ... but in a small scale, the issues are similar. I made it clear that this would be a "normal week" in O/our lives ... I have work to do, I spend some time here on collarme, there will be chores to do, some chance to play, shopping, Avon deliveries etc etc! she arrived knowing there would be times when she would be expected to "do her own thing" and also times when Master and I would need some private space without her feeling "left out". So far that has worked out well, last night she offered to go and watch TV in another room, but as she was planning to watch the same show as U/us, I told her to stay in the lounge! The dogs adore her, so she is very much part of the family which is amazing in just 4 days! I'm going to be so sad to say goodbye For your situation, you need to assure her that you don't want her to feel left out, and that she is to tell one of you when/if she feels that happening. Neither you nor Argent are psychic, so she needs to be ready to tell you! I really do hope it all works out! Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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