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AquaticSub -> RE: Mentoring from the bottom? (7/24/2007 5:41:59 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds
Imparting wisdom or advice for someone is easily enough done, what interests me more is, if you are involved in a power exchange with someone, and you're on the bottom half of it, how well does that work for mentoring?
As long as they are secure in their dominance it works very well.
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Do you set aside times when you can sit down on equal headspace to have your discussions, or can they be done still without stepping from the power exchange?
When needed but that has never had anything to do with the mentoring.
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Ideally, if a less experienced dominant seeks advice or wisdom from their bottom or sub, they can simply accept the opinions and suggestions for what they're worth in a mature fashion, but does power exchange make it more difficult or complicate the issue at times?
Only if the people involved make it an issue.
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Inexperienced subs seek out experienced dominants to be a guiding force more often than not, so how well does it work if inexperienced dominants would seek out the mentorship of experienced subs? It seems logical to me but I may be missing a complication somewhere.
I've gotten the feeling that many experienced subs don't really want to mentor inexperienced doms. It can feel too much like the dreaded "topping from the bottom" or somehow takes away from the dominance of the person they are with.
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Any first hand experience and stories would be appreciated!
In the begining, I mentored Valyraen. I showed him how to flog (though not on him), taught him tricks with the drip candles, told him where was safe to hit and where wasn't. It's worked out very well for us.
Edited for clarity and better word use
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