littlesarbonn
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Joined: 12/3/2005 From: Stockton, California Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha I am always shocked and surprised at how few questions I get about my wiring, my desires, how I got this way, what pushes my buttons, etc. A good sub will want to get into a femdom's head. Maybe this is too much of a proposition that seems like controlling, manipulative? I dunno.... Personally, I think it has a lot more to do with a submissive being scared to death of pushing away the one person that has indicated an interest. I don't think people really understand that because when you deal with the number ratio, a submissive male is way down on the totem pole of having statistical odds of being successful. First, just getting someone interested is a herculean task. Then you have to continue to keep that person interested without totally screwing up by indicating you like this or that, something that might be the straw that keeps you from being successful. And the biggie for me: Submissive males (even though women won't admit this, but I TRULY believe this) are somewhat expected to have to be thankful for WHATEVER they can find because a woman has so many opportunities and choices, and the potential submissive guy is just one of the many who has to somehow break through the chaff to be the one that interests her. I can't tell you how many times a woman has gone off on me because I indicated after a certain amount of time that I didn't think she was right for me. No woman is ever going to admit it because there's this illusion that has to maintain itself, but they get REALLY upset at me when I say, "I'm sorry, but that's just not for me. I was looking for something a little closer to what I actually put in my profile." We always hear about the guys that get rude after they've been turned down, but I've been the recipient of this as well; people tend to not believe it actually happens because there's this expectation I get even from other guys that's essentially "You should be glad to get whatever you can get because your odds are so dismal." It's a lot like the music industry stating that their numbers are dwindling because people must be downloading the music for free. The idea that the music sucks is never a variable, nor is the idea that people don't buy CDs because there's nothing all that great to buy when it comes to that area. I know that when I post here on collarme, I often have submissive guys and dominant women writing to me, indicating that I must be in error because I don't respond with the norm as a response. Had someone in a recent thread tell me I was obviously wrong about an opinion I had. I guess the other person's opinion was better than mine? So, I'm not surprised that when someone actually gets you interested that they then become very guarded in what they say next. It's a path dependent model that has lots and lots of closing functions and a difficult process to get to an actual payoff. So, no, I'm not surprised.
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