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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/19/2004 10:59:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: EStrict

I have to agree with what I have seen Iwill and Volare to have said about this comment, but I would like to clarify my veiw. Actually, I find the comment very true, but only if you add something to the effect *if she has already informed you she doesn't not have sexual relations with subs*.

Sandy,

Quite right, I should have made that caveat. If the relationship is strictly 'service oriented' and this has been agreed to before hand, etc etc etc then naturally it would be no more appropriate to ask about the Domme's sexual interests then for me to ask a female coworker if she got laid last night. I suppose we answer from our own perspectives, and in truth I would take very little pleasure out of a 'casual' submissive who just wants to get her kicks by massaging my feet or washing my dishes - though by no means am I suggesting there is anything wrong with that form of interaction for those who enjoy it.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/23/2004 6:33:37 PM

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Im personally repulsed by female subs/slaves...as a Domme it goes against eveything I beleive.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/23/2004 6:44:35 PM

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so clueless about the lifestyle they couldnt get a clue if they got naked, smothered themselves in clue pheremones, and danced the ritual clue mating dance in the middle of a field full of horny clues

*sulks and wanders off to take a shower to get the pheremone spray off*

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/23/2004 7:53:45 PM

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Im personally repulsed by female subs/slaves...as a Domme it goes against eveything I beleive.

Don't sweat it Because, they probably aren't too thrilled with you either. Honestly, I don't understand the mentality of male submissives since it goes againt my own beliefs of what *I* need in a man, or why I woman *wants* control, but I can't say any of them repulse me. They are all more than welcome to their beliefs as I am to mine.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/23/2004 8:54:18 PM

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Im personally repulsed by female subs/slaves...as a Domme it goes against eveything I beleive.

I personally am not really repulsed by anybody. I have revulsions towards certain behaviors (like child abuse) and those who practice them.

What fascinates me are motivations. Why would a grown man go to a bathhouse and allow 100 or so anonymous sex partners to have homesexual sex with them? Why would a woman (or man) allow somebody to chain them to a St. Andrews Cross and beat them silly? I dont really understand the motivations myself.

As Harlan Ellison once wrote: Writers take tours through other people's lives. It is not my life or anything I have interest in doing, but good gawd, the motivations of those who do it fascinate me.

I suspect that some Dommes will be repulsed by slaves/subs, but your question is an infinitive; You asked if ALL Dommes are repulsed... Infinitives can be proven incorrect by the existence of one contradictory piece of evidence. Be of good heart, you will find the One who suits you.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/23/2004 10:38:44 PM

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It depends on the sub. Their attitude. Some of them do come across as extremely needy, clingy and desperate. How could that not be a turn off really.

I think most women, whether Domme or Switch, are looking for a man they can respect who happens to be a sub too.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/26/2004 11:33:30 AM

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First posting, but I truly felt I had something to throw in here. :)

I do not find either gender of submissives repulsive. What I do find repulsive is the behavior and attitude that proceeds them as they enter im boxes uninvited, and seem to forget that I am a Domme, and not their long lost friend. Real time I've never encountered this problem, and for that I must be lucky. As far as Dommes wanting Dominants as their mates, I think that is up to the individual. My mate is a Dominant, in fact he's my Grand Master, the marriage was more for the House than anything, though the respect and all that goes with it is there. I am one of those weird types who doesn't combine vanilla emotions with my property or BDSM relations. I think over all the worst thing that I've encountered as a Domme are male slaves or submissives who once they are told that they won't have sex with me and that I'm more lesbian than bi have to start insulting me. I simply place them on ignore, but the assumption that all Dommes are lesbian is wrong, many prefer men. Don't hold it against those of us who don't if we prefer women :D.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/26/2004 5:31:19 PM

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Sandy,

This is hard to say without the possibility of being misinterpreted as insulting.

Anyway I'm honored that I don't repulse you. I'd like to say you do not repulse me in the least.

(Gee, I hope she knows what I mean...)

< Message edited by iwillserveu -- 6/26/2004 5:39:50 PM >

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/26/2004 5:46:06 PM

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Infinitives can be proven incorrect by the existence of one contradictory piece of evidence.

- Sinergy

Without suffient limiting one can go so far as to say a universal statement is wrong. If someone claims no unicorns exist They can be disproven by some in the Andromeda Spiral dicovering the unicorn quark. (Of course by limiting it, it ceases to be a universal. "All universals are wrong - especially this one,"should be tattooed to inner eyelids.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/26/2004 7:06:45 PM

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I obviously made a mistake when asking abut a Domme's attraction to male Doms..

I am not a Domme, but I dont think you made a mistake asking a question.

The only stupid question is the one the person does not ask...

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/26/2004 7:47:12 PM

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I'd like to say you do not repulse me in the least

::laughing:: well I HOPE you are saying I don't,, but I like you as a person no matter what Iwill. Actually, the truth about me and male submissives is they tend to bring out my sadistic side. And yes, I learned the lifestyle as a female dominant sadist, but enjoy it most as myself.

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RE: Are Dommes actually repulsed by subs/slaves? - 6/27/2004 11:38:55 PM

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Absolutely not, unless they really are not certain of what they want, and it's just about sex games........
I'm attracted to sub/slave types, because I like people who are sweet and trusting (Ideally they are, if not too F'd up or afraid of intimacy), and because am a Dominant personality, and don't want power strugles.
Hope that reply satisfies something...
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