ExquisiteFeline
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My personal understanding and from observation and communication with others, is that a submissive is someone who values them self and seeks a Dominant who will value her as much if not more than them self. In this case the Dominant adds value to the submissive. Meaning they are highly rewarded when the Master is happy with them, yet firmly put into place, when needed. Pleasure/pain is a part of this, as well as wanting to keep the Master happy and nurtured. A slave however, (and this is a personal opinion, and not of all cases of course,) is someone who has no boundaries, will do anything their Master will tell them, they have no strength of will, and if any, will allow it to be broken. But there can be also great strength in being a slave, and i am sure there are some that value themselves but learn from the lessons of humiliation and degradation, as in a humble and humility experience. There are some that call themselves submissive, but i would beg to differ on their self opinion, i spoke with one recently, and she was clearly a slave, in a very negative sense, she said she would do anything for even a small amount of affection. She explained how she had been taken advantage of Dominants, who forced her to do things aboe and well beyond her physical/psychological/emotional pain tolerance, and she is clearly psychologically damaged. It is all learning, a very personal journey, into the well of your being, you have a jewel inside you no one has the right to damage, being submissive is opening yourself to expose that gift to your Dom, and any respecting Dom would not damage that center. Listen to yourself, your body, mind and heart, push your boundaries if you have to to work out where they are. And if your say you are Married to your Dom, then you need to be sure to take time to understand yourself, and process, dont communicate about things you are not sure about, and i dont mean avoidance, just communicate the things you are sure about. For me personally my Master values me, cares for me, and spoils me senseless, however he can be firm and hard, and even a bit Sadistic at times. He allows me to top, but in doing so it is an illusion in a sense, as he will pull me down when he feels appropriate. This is where we play with top and bottom, however, being naturally submissive and him naturally Dominant he still holds the power, over the energy, and our roles allow us to charge each other in the freedom of our natural expression. But there is nothing that tops the feeling of being splayed out, no restraints, and saying "i am fully open to you right now Master..." It is breathtaking for a Master to witness such beauty, to touch the very depths of your essence and caress your inner diamond... Every journey begins with one step, tread safely, and surely...
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