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RE: Day to Day Inner Struggles - 9/5/2007 5:40:22 PM

littleone35

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It was a bit eaiser for me oh when my late Master died it hurt. It was 9 months before and a year before i found my Master. And yes i did feel unfufilled without having a Master to serve. I am more grounded and settled and yes happier now. Not that i was unhappy before just am happier now than before.

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RE: Day to Day Inner Struggles - 9/5/2007 7:04:53 PM

RRafe

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Have you see a doctor to ascertain if you have a nervous disorder? A surprisingly large number of women have wanted me to Dom them in the past..........long term. The reason was lack of focus and direction. They all had ADD.

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There is a missing component in my life that I can't add.

I find without a dominant I tend to bounce off walls emotionally and mentally... I can't ground myself, contain or stabilize everything all at once. (Mind you, it does not mean I am not successful or that I can't handle what life throws at me... since I can and do) But I was wondering does anyone else feels a bit lost without having a dominant in their lives? Do you ever feel slightly out of sorts because you can't fully provide your own day to day structure? Do you ever get frustrated?

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RE: Day to Day Inner Struggles - 9/6/2007 8:46:06 AM

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I find I opperate better when I have a Dominant figure as a stable fixture in my life. I tend to feel inspired, and achieve more. But that could be said in general from just being happier and more fulfilled for having a close companion. I don't think it's a D/s thing specifically, though I might have believed it was a year or more ago. Thinking on it more closely now, I think it's simply that, people opperate better when in a happy relationship.

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RE: Day to Day Inner Struggles - 9/6/2007 9:03:11 AM

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i understand the Op. i got myself and kids out of the ghetto of the bronx. worked at menial job not for the money ,but for the self respect. i became selfsufficient , a role model for my children and family. but many a days i found myself not knowing what was wrong. just a feeling of emptiness , some days a deer caught in the headlights feeling. i decided that whatever it was that i needed didnt exist. and resigned myself to feel incomplete for the rest of my life. when Master came into my life. everything fell into place. i still live most of my life independently, but all my actions are geared to be pleasing and correct. whether He's present or not, and this makes me very satisfied with my life . that empty feeling is gone.

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RE: Day to Day Inner Struggles - 9/6/2007 10:06:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: ACryFromTheSoul

There is a missing component in my life that I can't add.
I find without a dominant I tend to bounce off walls emotionally and mentally... I can't ground myself, contain or stabilize everything all at once. (Mind you, it does not mean I am not successful or that I can't handle what life throws at me... since I can and do) But I was wondering does anyone else feels a bit lost without having a dominant in their lives? Do you ever feel slightly out of sorts because you can't fully provide your own day to day structure? Do you ever get frustrated?
thanks.

May I ask is this a recent problem? Is there anything going on right now that is putting you under unusual pressure?
If it is, then maybe a current unpleasant or stressful situation is the cause and this will pass.

If you always find that you can't provide your own day to day structure, then maybe you could be checked by a doctor to see if there is an underlying problem?

A master/ lover/dominant/submissive/ friend - whoever - can be a positive influence to anyone. "Stability" is valued by the kinky and the vanilla. Mutual and balanced...

To repeat what other's have said - no one can "fix" you....

I have to add: even if you do discover you have ADD or such - you can live a balanced, happy, successful and fulfilled life.
It is easily treatable and managed now.

Every single person on earth gets thrown a curve ball now and then. Its all in how you handle it and how you grow and become stronger and better by working on yourself today - for tomorrow and always.

Wishing you all happiness...

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RE: Day to Day Inner Struggles - 9/6/2007 9:54:13 PM

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there are so many nights that i wonder this very same thing.....is it possible to be whole w/o having Someone there to share and guide me....i can't say i am whole w/o this...but i know i am content for now with what i have....if i weren't i wouldn't be able to be the good friend, mother, and sister i am.....in time i know that i will find what is needed to fill that space...whether it be Dom or sub....or neither.....but i am not going to trip out trying to find it.....let it find me.....

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RE: Day to Day Inner Struggles - 9/6/2007 10:49:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ACryFromTheSoul

There is a missing component in my life that I can't add.

I find without a dominant I tend to bounce off walls emotionally and mentally... I can't ground myself, contain or stabilize everything all at once. (Mind you, it does not mean I am not successful or that I can't handle what life throws at me... since I can and do) But I was wondering does anyone else feels a bit lost without having a dominant in their lives? Do you ever feel slightly out of sorts because you can't fully provide your own day to day structure? Do you ever get frustrated?

thanks.

Yes and sometimes my soul cries.
This week I needed what he gave me mentally and emotionally..... he gave because he is dominant over me and knew I needed it.
and yes, my soul cried.
I describe my want this way..............

"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued, fucked, and possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding." ~Anais Nin

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