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heartfeltsub -> RE: Getting behind closed doors (8/2/2007 3:43:55 AM)
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Hmmmm, i don't know if my experience will be helpful or not, but here goes. i currently serve two Doms, One as a house girl and submissive (not collared) and the Other as His submissive (also not collared). With the first Dom, because at the time that i met Him, He already had two slaves, one collared and both living with Him, i didn't get into any really intimate conversations with Him, didn't spend a lot of time talking with Him while i wasn't there as i didn't want too intimate a relationship to develop and i find i develop a sense of intimacy by talking with someone. With the Other, i spent a great deal of time talking about everything, because i did desire a close mentally, emotionally as well as physically intimate relationship to develop, and as i said, i do that with talking.
It sounds like you also use talking, sharing personal information about yourself as a way of creating intimacy, but it may be that the submissive you are talking with does not use words the same way. (Am talking about the different languages of love idea). It may be for her shared experiences build that intimacy and then after that intimacy is built, then she is more comfortable talking.
Based on what you said in your opening post, that may be part of it, but then you also said she just doesn't talk a great deal even about non-personal information. my other thought on this is to ask a question. Are these communications taking place over a particular medium, phone, IM, etc. For me personally, i am an unusual woman, i HATE talking on the phone, absolutely loath it and can't get off of the phone fast enough to suit my tastes. She may be similar, just a thought. Hope some of that helped.
heartfelt
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