Stephann -> RE: R we just fundamentally Libertine? (8/4/2007 9:38:49 PM)
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Hi kiyari, I think there's a couple of basic reasons for the term switch. Your question is one of them; sensationalists (so to speak) or what I usually term as fetishists, though I know the term isn't very accurate, without the desire for the power exchange dynamic. There are, of course, folks who enjoy D/s, but also (depending on the person) enjoy assuming either a dominant or submissive role. I think goose and gander tends to be a somewhat selfish approach to relationships. In general, what is good for the goose, is not good for the gander. Different people have different needs and desires; requiring those needs to be exactly the same as my own, and only satisfying needs of my partner, if they are needs that I possess, seems to be an unrealistic approach. Not to say I don't appreciate the mentality that goes into a switch; just simple observations that I don't think it should be equality based, as much as it is equity based. Stephan
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