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RE: being owned or being loved - 7/13/2005 5:18:13 PM

fastlane

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being loved is "never having to say your sorry", O.K. that was corny.
being owned is, asking how much you can get at the pawn shop, when you grow tired or broke.
I think there is a huge difference.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 7/13/2005 8:16:33 PM

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i'd rather be adored. so i don't get dropped off in mexico with no way back, like some unwanted dog.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 3:54:54 AM

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For me they are one in the same.
Of course I want to be loved, I think nearly everyone does. However, what I want is to be loved by someone who wants to be in control of me and my life. I want to be the most important posession they own.

i have to agree whole heartedly, i could give myself to someone i didn't love.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 4:22:27 AM

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NECROTHREAD! But a good one... Myself, I have a deep-seated need for ownership of my slave. I used to think that I'd value his enslavement, over his love. But it didn't turn out that way.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 9:54:13 AM

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when a slave is owned, there must be something the dominant sees in it. Not sure one could own a slave 24/7 without at least liking it.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 10:03:43 AM

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Despite the facetious notion that a submissive or slave has no other "needs" than to make Sir/Master happy, I need a Dom who can both own and love me. In that case and in my life, the two cannot be separate.

To be fair, though, and to answer the original question, I would have to choose love.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 10:33:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveOfPandy

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ORIGINAL: quietkitten

For me they are one in the same.
Of course I want to be loved, I think nearly everyone does. However, what I want is to be loved by someone who wants to be in control of me and my life. I want to be the most important posession they own.

i have to agree whole heartedly, i could give myself to someone i didn't love.

Just a suggestiong here. When a post is 4 years old it might be better to start a new one similar to the old one rather than add to a post that is so very old.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 10:47:06 AM

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i was married in a very vanilla relationship i thought i loved him and i wasnt in love with him , however, it wasnt until we separated and i met and feel in love with master that i found out the beauty of being in love not just loving someone i am owned and we are deeply in love and the happiest i hav ever been. could i choose i dont think i could have one with out the other.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 10:53:59 AM

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People can talk about being owned and how their only thought is to please Master/Mistress, but relationships are still about 2 people who have needs and those needs must be met for the relationship to be successful.
Personally, i need both.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 11:07:10 AM

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I think when you are deeply in love, you both own each other.

I would choose love because life is more than D/s.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 11:20:46 AM

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they're the same for me. I can't be owned by another without me being deeply in love with him. I can't do casual. It's not in me.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 11:55:42 AM

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Loved. While some may argue that the term, "owned," is just semantics, I've always bristled at it. Ownership, to me, indicates that the object in question can be bought and sold at the owners whim, and I wasn't born with a bar code stamped on my ass.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 11:58:36 AM

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how would I describe the difference? Uh... let's see...

ownership: that state in which a person has property rights over another.

love: that state in which the happiness of another is essential to your own.

I don't see them as even remotely the same thing. One is a fairly dry technical term and the other is a rich emotional word. Without even a moment's hesitation, Carol and I would both pick love over ownership.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 12:27:35 PM

RealSub58

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With responsibility there is an inherent ownership.

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as a master i find that love is what helps a sub/slave reach her decision ,as togiving total control over to her master, as they have to be sure they are in good hands and i for one wouldnt have it anyother way, hope this answer helps you.

Love can certainly HELP that...but how many people are in sucky relationships because they still LOVE eachother? Love doesn't mean a person is capable, able, secure, responsible or any of the things that really make a relationship WORK.

In other words, you do not need love to make a relationship work?

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 5:14:38 PM

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In other words, you do not need love to make a relationship work?

I don't think it is necessary. Having said that, it depends on the nature of the 'relationship'. If what the two people want is something more Owner/owned related and 'romance' is not as necessary as 'using' (sexually), then love is not necessary.

I can't say that's an end goal of mine necessarily. It depends.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 9:18:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: SlaveOfPandy

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ORIGINAL: quietkitten

For me they are one in the same.
Of course I want to be loved, I think nearly everyone does. However, what I want is to be loved by someone who wants to be in control of me and my life. I want to be the most important posession they own.

i have to agree whole heartedly, i could give myself to someone i didn't love.

5 year old thread?!

. Please don't revive threads this old, I know you are new, but it's frowned upon and the mods don't like it. Most of these people aren't even members anymore.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/28/2010 9:56:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: kisshou

How would you describe the difference between being owned and being loved?

If you had to choose one or the other, which/why would you make that choice?

Why am I even answering a thread this old? Oh well. I would say being owned is giving over ultimate authority to Him to do with me as He pleases. Being loved is an indescribably delicious emotional and physical condition. I will not choose between the two. I will hold out for both in the same person before I will settle for just one or the other. Right now, I have both in Daddy.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/29/2010 6:24:36 PM

CaringandReal

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ORIGINAL: QuirkyAnne

Loved. While some may argue that the term, "owned," is just semantics, I've always bristled at it. Ownership, to me, indicates that the object in question can be bought and sold at the owners whim, and I wasn't born with a bar code stamped on my ass.

And other people argue that being "loved" is just semantics (remembering some conversations on here from about a year ago). I think both terms represent absolutely real things. I think your description of ownership is right, though.

To answer the necrothread's original question, I'd choose owned, because I need it more than being loved.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/29/2010 6:30:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

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ORIGINAL: SlaveOfPandy

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ORIGINAL: quietkitten

For me they are one in the same.
Of course I want to be loved, I think nearly everyone does. However, what I want is to be loved by someone who wants to be in control of me and my life. I want to be the most important posession they own.

i have to agree whole heartedly, i could give myself to someone i didn't love.

5 year old thread?! . Please don't revive threads this old, I know you are new, but it's frowned upon and the mods don't like it. Most of these people aren't even members anymore.

I wonder why the mods don't like it? In Literortica forums, people who fill the role of mods get pissed at you if you start a new thread when there's a perfectly good on topic 10-year-old thread to post your thoughts to--how DARE you have the presumption to think your ideas deserve a new thread all to themselves! :D I'm sure there's a good reason for it here, but I'm also sure there's a good reason for the opposite at Literotica (Don't cut down fresh screens of pixels!--they are endangered?) but I don't know enough about how forums are run to understand why this is so important--one way or the other.

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RE: being owned or being loved - 8/29/2010 6:32:25 PM

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I wonder why the mods don't like it? In Literortica forums, people who fill the role of mods get pissed at you if you start a new thread when there's a perfectly good on topic 10-year-old thread to post your thoughts to--how DARE you have the presumption to think your ideas deserve a new thread all to themselves! :D I'm sure there's a good reason for it here, but I'm also sure there's a good reason for the opposite at Literotica (Don't cut down fresh screens of pixels!--they are endangered?) but I don't know enough about how forums are run to understand why this is so important--one way or the other.

Probably because people are responding to and asking questions of posters who posted five years ago and are most likely no longer active on this site.

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