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Before becoming "intimate" with someone.... - 8/13/2007 8:26:38 AM

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I started posting this in response to the lovely woman planning a gangbang- and I realized it should be a conversation of it's own... I never see this information anywhere. Perhaps we all think it's so basic.   It's something we should do, and we should be open enough about it to do this with everyone.

Before you have sex or any intimate physical contact with someone, you should actually look at them. In the light. Look at their beautiful mouth- and look at their genetalia.

If there is a power exchange going on, have someone you trust do this for you. Before any sexual contact take a moment and examine what is going to be near or inside you.  Not just the genetalia, but the skin as well While quite a few of the nasties which are out there can be transmitted in their dormant phase- most of the really wretched social diseases carry with them physical symptoms such as rashes, warts, pustules, and other visible signs.

Also Smell. Yep, smell. If your partner has any kind of rank or foul odor, that a sign that there is something wrong- and that sex with that person could mean something wrong with you. This gets harder when you are connecting after clubbing, any hard physical activity or after alcohol/smoking/cigars. But it's important to take a moment and "smell down there".

And finally, stroke a bit and see what comes out. Clear precum- fabulous. Something not clear (and particularly not clear and smelling unpleasant or GREEN/YELLOW) means that under no circumstances should that be inside you- condom or no condom.

This is gross, yes. For the gang bang babe, I realize it's not very sexy to have your perspective group line up for inspection- but neither is dealing with herpes, hpv, or many other things. It also doesn't have to be clinical. I don't think my sexual partners really know what I'm doing when I explore them and look at them. But I owe it to the partner I am with now, and any partner I would share with in the future- to be cautious and careful.

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RE: Before becoming "intimate" with someone.... - 8/13/2007 8:47:51 AM

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Actually almost all (if not all?) STIs can be carried and contracted with NO physical symptoms at all.

Of course one should take a look and if there are any symptoms, obviously take that into consideration. But one should never use the LACK of symptoms as proof of anything.

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RE: Before becoming "intimate" with someone.... - 8/13/2007 9:17:16 AM

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Very sensible advice indeed, Alison.

Since these days ignorance can be deadly as easily as blissful, I expect potential partners to provide evidence of medical exams, and there is no chance of any fluid bonding for a considerable time after their last bonding with anyone I am not also fluid bonded with.

If the initial exam is OK and the one after 3 months is also good, then we can go further into fluid bonding.

Of course many lovely orgasmic things can happen safely in the meantime.

As an exchange of fluids means that one is also sharing the bodily fluids of all of our new partner's former (and current) partners, the honest discussion of our past and future play intent is important to me. I have friends who are victims of HIV, and I do not want that (or penicillin shots) in my life.

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RE: Before becoming "intimate" with someone.... - 8/13/2007 12:40:22 PM

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I ditto LA.

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RE: Before becoming "intimate" with someone.... - 8/13/2007 12:52:45 PM

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Actually almost all (if not all?) STIs can be carried and contracted with NO physical symptoms at all.

Of course one should take a look and if there are any symptoms, obviously take that into consideration. But one should never use the LACK of symptoms as proof of anything.

Absolutely. But many do not look. It's sort of like making certain the taxi you are getting into has someone at the wheel- in my opinion- but it happens, and it happens a lot.

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RE: Before becoming "intimate" with someone.... - 8/13/2007 12:54:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: fungasm
Absolutely. But many do not look. It's sort of like making certain the taxi you are getting into has someone at the wheel- in my opinion- but it happens, and it happens a lot.

Sounds more like making certain that no one threw up in the taxi before you get in!

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