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What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 1:30:35 PM   
grforfunca


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Status: offline 		I am a new member within this group.I am  bi male seeking to either serve men or women.Happy to meet there requirement either way.I sense that the dom person discriminates to the bi scene.Somehow.Haven't figured it out.If anyone within this group could fill me in as to what a serious dom is actually looking for.I would be more than willing to accomodate there needs.
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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 1:38:48 PM   
szobras


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Status: offline 		A compatible relationship.

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 1:41:29 PM   
Alumbrado


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Status: offline 		Perhaps Shel Silverstein said it best:

Ever' mornin' want you you wake up early cook me great big T-bone steak
Serve it to me in bed go on the street and hustle bring me back all the money you make
Won't you rub my body with sweet scented oil, cool me with a 'lectric fan
Run to the church fall down on your knees say "Lord I wanna thank you for that man"

And I'll call that true love, true and sweet
That ain't the kind of love I'm gettin'
But baby that's the kind of love I need

I wanna come home every evenin' to a great big meal of wine and roasted pheasant
I want you to say to me "Ray, hey this is Susy, this is Kay, I brought 'em both home to you for a present"
When "The Man" downs the door and find my stash, want you tell 'em it belongs to you
And when you're sittin' in the slam tell all the other chickies when they get out they should look me up too


Some guy accuses me of foolin' with his wife threatens to take me apart
Points a gun at me, I want you to jump in the middle and take the bullet in your own heart
And as you're lyin' on the floor and dyin', I want you to look up at me and say
"Hey Ray I'm sorry I messed up your rug, just roll my body out of the way"


Hollywood calls you on the telephone I want you to turn down the part
And when we're ballin' baby, ride on top so I never ever strain my heart

And I'll call that true love, true and sweet
That ain't the kind of love I'm gettin'

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 1:59:55 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		yeah, I don't think it is that you are bi.  I am bi and have no troubles.  I would suggest clean up your profile a bit.  It is poorly written.  And stop thinking in terms of "true" because well, keep reading, you'll learn.

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 2:02:15 PM   
bandit25


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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 3:24:36 PM   
grforfunca


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Status: offline 		You say I see things clearly.Then I have to remove the cloud infront of my eyes.All that I want to do is serve my Dom.However if I don'y really know he/hshe wants

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 4:06:28 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		First thing you need to know: There is no such thing as "true" slave because no matter what kind of slave you are, some group in the BDSM world will think you are fake.

Be yourself. Be the true you. Don't worry about what they want, figure what you want and what you can provide.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 8/14/2007 4:07:35 PM >

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 5:30:20 PM   
beargonewild


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quote:

ORIGINAL: grforfunca

I am a new member within this group.I am  bi male seeking to either serve men or women.Happy to meet there requirement either way.I sense that the dom person discriminates to the bi scene.Somehow.Haven't figured it out.If anyone within this group could fill me in as to what a serious dom is actually looking for.I would be more than willing to accomodate there needs.


For starters, each Dom's wants and needs differ. I believe your best bet is to se what qualities that best suit you and use that as a guideline to meeting a Dom who has simular qualities. Not every Dom has the same wants, needs and desires. Find one that is fairly compatible with your wants, needs and desires . After that the Dom will refine your qualities to suit their needs more completely.

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 5:50:27 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		You bieng bi isnt necessarily a turn off or a turn on. If your profile is lacking, then that will be much more of a problem. And there is no answer as yo what "A Dominant" will be looking for. An example, since I knew her well.
EarthyCouple and I are both Dominant women. We both keep slaves, and we both know exactly what we are looking for. She thinks my taste in males is ..um.. questionable at times, and she doesnt enjoy the majority of my interests.  I do not share many of hers either.  My boys could not serve well under her, and hers couldnt have served me.  Now, in asking what a Dom wants, which of our opinions would you prefer?  They are going to be vastly different, but both are exactly what you wanted to know.

DV


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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 6:39:28 PM   
grforfunca


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Status: offline 		Your statements make alot of sense.Thank for your comments.All well taken.

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/14/2007 6:49:11 PM   
Exquemelin


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Status: offline 		Someone who doesn't say "true slave"

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/19/2007 6:47:25 PM   
Kinkypupper


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Status: offline 		Many do  however some like myself do not.
I am sure you can find what you seek if you look tho.

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/19/2007 7:03:02 PM   
SlaveSoul


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Status: offline 		greetings all,
greetings grforfunca,

grforfunca, mia would suggest that you ask the potential dom/domme/Master/Mistress what they wish from you.  This way you are certain to always please them, which is the goal of most (if not all) slaves.  If you do not have a dom/Master in your life at the moment, seek to *become* pleasing to dominant people in general, by learning as many different skills and ways of relating as you can.  Try learning a second language, learning the traditional english tea service (or chado, the Japanese tea ceremony, if you think that will be more use) learn secretarial skills, and full body massage, use a buttplug to train your body, exercise, so as you are fit and healthy for service, learn wine or art appreciation....there are so many skills that may help you. 

mia hopes she has not displeased with her reply.

mia wishes all well,

mia{L}
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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/19/2007 7:06:05 PM   
CelticPrince


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Status: offline 		grforfunca,

some good comments before this. Clean up your profile and spend some time doing os. being bi can be an asset to a male dom and is certainly is one for a Domme.

Just take it slow and explore.

CP

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/19/2007 7:13:07 PM   
ProfJoe


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Status: offline 		Bi would be an asset for me.

There is no such thing as "true slave" --- that's for fiction. You have a real dominant ... ask! EAch has his/her own priorities.

My top two priorities are obedience and communication.

To obey, you have to know which means you have to ask.
To communicate, you have to ask.

Should I say it again?

I hope this is helping.
(Prof.) Joe

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/22/2007 9:25:00 AM   
MasterMataeo


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Status: offline 		every one is differnt,,
as for me a compatable relationship, the willingness to do as i ask or demand,,
the ability to comply, the ability to accept  said punishments,, and the four basic cornerstones,,, honesty, communication, trustworthy, and respect

MM

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/23/2007 6:39:14 PM   
DarkDaddyZ


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Status: offline 		I'm glad others caught the "true" part, when I read that on profiles I move along.....

what actually dictates true (or is this hijacking)?

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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/23/2007 9:15:00 PM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		GR,

You're actually in pretty good shape being a bi submissive male.  Many female dominants want/expect a slave to be bisexual; something that no small number of heterosexual male slaves simply can't fill.

You also open the door towards a male owner.  Seek out some of the leather groups in your area; if I was even remotely curious about bisexuality, that's the first place I'd look for a male to experiment with.

Good luck,

Stephan


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RE: What a dom seeks in a true slave? - 8/24/2007 7:29:28 AM   
EclipseAbove


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quote:

ORIGINAL: grforfunca

I am a new member within this group.I am  bi male seeking to either serve men or women.Happy to meet there requirement either way.I sense that the dom person discriminates to the bi scene.Somehow.Haven't figured it out.If anyone within this group could fill me in as to what a serious dom is actually looking for.I would be more than willing to accomodate there needs.


I think I'm echoing what others have already said, but I think you have the cart before the horse.  You are asking what a dominant wants from you before you have found a dominant.  It would be like asking what women want without having a specific woman in mind.  The straight ones want men.  The homosexuals want women.  The bisexuals want both.  Without knowing the specific woman, it is impossible to answer question beyond saying "it depends".  Likewise with your question - it depends.  My advice is be yourself and try to find someone who wants someone like you.  If you conform to some ideal rather than being yourself, you are likely to just end up not being very happy.

On a side note, I'd avoid getting into the serious/not serious/true/false/etc labeling that some people engage in.  It isn't very descriptive as the labels are completely open to interpretation.  One person's idea of serious may be a joke to another.

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