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ORIGINAL: ocilla

Okay -yall have to check out the viceroy hotel in Santa Monica and take a look at the pool picts  http://www.viceroysantamonica.com/spa/index.html.  OMG got to stay there on busness a few times and the pool is paradise.  These sexy tented rooms with sumptuous couches - all that is missing is a swarthy boy with a large fan.
I have to say - I did not get as much work done as usual the temptation to lol around the pool was intoxicating.

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ORIGINAL: ocilla

This sounds good to me. But in most of my life and I am the "doer", very much the energy and the person making things happen - so the part that I like best is being in the receptive role, where it is all about my desires and pleasure and restoration. Afterall, in my professional life I am literally trying to save the planet and create huge market, gvernance, culture and social shifts - thats a lot of responsibility and very draining at times. re-filling me up and restoring me, nurturing me, means that I am more effective in the rest of my life which is a role where I serve for the greater good. So I could easily do with the receptive, serving part alone - but do like a bit of kink spice yet not driven by it. If kink with me as the doer had a big effect on my sub/partner then I am more inclined to practice it but it is more about doing it as a gift rather than because I like to inflict pain etc. And at times being a doer or giver can be emensely satisfying. Also, I do enjoy the artistry and creativity and mastery involved in s/m and bondage but I could live without s/m and bondage with absolutely no angst as well. But being served, being the authority, being in the driver's seat, being catered too in simple, sweet, passionate and often sexual ways is what I long for, yearn for and crave. And for me that service component is not so much about cleaning my house or doing errands and tasks - it has more to do with satisfying my desires for pleasure and helping me accomplish goals.

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

My relationship with Fox is primarily about authority -- mine authority from him to make decisions and demand whatever in the areas that I desire.

In that sense "kink" things are like spices to a very good and healthy meal. We generally do something that resembles a traditional BDSM scene once every three weeks I think. However we have daily rules and rituals that help us maintain the authority or DS of the relationship. Fox has certain fetishes he likes to indulge in but all of them take hours of time (3 minimum usually to make them "worth" doing for him).

We wouldn't give up our kinky activity but it is not what drives our dynamic.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


If you are the femdom in your relationships, do you take an active and/or kinky role?  Or, do you desire to be catered to in a variety of ways, where the submissive is the more active partner, attending to your requests?

Without getting into semantic issues regarding "top" vs. "dominant," how often is your "kinky" interaction with your submissive - ie, bondage, strap on, smothering, chastity, cbt, spanking, flogging, etc. -- vs, how much is your relationship about "receptive" dominance, ie "foot worship, massages, cleaning, etc."

How often do you need a kinky release?  Could you enjoy your relationship, minus the "kink" part and just be dominant?  Does your partner have a higher or lower "need" for kinky bdsm?

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: Grlwithboy

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


If you are the femdom in your relationships, do you take an active and/or kinky role?  Or, do you desire to be catered to in a variety of ways, where the submissive is the more active partner, attending to your requests?

Without getting into semantic issues regarding "top" vs. "dominant," how often is your "kinky" interaction with your submissive - ie, bondage, strap on, smothering, chastity, cbt, spanking, flogging, etc. -- vs, how much is your relationship about "receptive" dominance, ie "foot worship, massages, cleaning, etc."

How often do you need a kinky release?  Could you enjoy your relationship, minus the "kink" part and just be dominant?  Does your partner have a higher or lower "need" for kinky bdsm?

Akasha

My Dominance is an offshoot of my sadistic, kinky top, rope fanatic self. I'd rather have an upturned bottom in front of me than a sink full of clean dishes. Life is short.

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

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ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

I'm a DO ME kinda Domme. In a perfect magical land, I'd be pampered, sexually satisfied, massaged and worshipped, all in a clean house, continuously preferably. I'm such a lazy girl

Come sit on the Do Me Domina couch.
We can sit by the pool and wait for our cute cabana boys to bring us
fresh margarita's!
Damn skippy I am with it.

Did someone say margaritas? And cabana boys? Let's make them dance. Although I think lounge chairs would be lovely with little canopies over them. I'm fair and I burn easily.

I'm there with you MzMia and SD!! I burn easily too, so I suggest a sexy boy each to rub sunscreen onto our bodies (yes, I know we're under canopies, but are you going to knock back a gorgeous boy rubbing you all over with something slippery?)

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I am a doer--that is how I came to realize I was what I was, I didn't like waiting and what I got was always disappointing, along with the fact that I simply lead and control life better----
 
so I do, I initiate, and I direct--when a boy delivers that--he gets the best as well.

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ORIGINAL: ocilla

Okay -yall have to check out the viceroy hotel in Santa Monica and take a look at the pool picts  http://www.viceroysantamonica.com/spa/index.html.  OMG got to stay there on busness a few times and the pool is paradise.  These sexy tented rooms with sumptuous couches - all that is missing is a swarthy boy with a large fan.
I have to say - I did not get as much work done as usual the temptation to lol around the pool was intoxicating.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


If you are the femdom in your relationships, do you take an active and/or kinky role?  Or, do you desire to be catered to in a variety of ways, where the submissive is the more active partner, attending to your requests?

Without getting into semantic issues regarding "top" vs. "dominant," how often is your "kinky" interaction with your submissive - ie, bondage, strap on, smothering, chastity, cbt, spanking, flogging, etc. -- vs, how much is your relationship about "receptive" dominance, ie "foot worship, massages, cleaning, etc."

How often do you need a kinky release?  Could you enjoy your relationship, minus the "kink" part and just be dominant?  Does your partner have a higher or lower "need" for kinky bdsm?

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: Privatedetector

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I am a doer--that is how I came to realize I was what I was, I didn't like waiting and what I got was always disappointing, along with the fact that I simply lead and control life better----
 
so I do, I initiate, and I direct--when a boy delivers that--he gets the best as well.

Hell dont all mistresses like to be the doer. Tell her subby to clean her house, tell him to kiss her ass out, tell him to draw her bath, tell him to rub her feet, tell him to run her errants, tell him to pleasure her orally, tell him to pay the bill, tell him to clean her delicate sutff in the gentle wash.

That's a doer alright.