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topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:32:35 AM

yessir105

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My master wants me to top him today. i don't really want to (i am submissive for a reason) but, i have to do what i'm told to do. Any ideas on what I should do with him?

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:34:10 AM

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Beat his ass. 8)

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:39:44 AM

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Make him perform oral on you. For hours.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:43:46 AM

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i really know where you are coming from - i would have a real hard time with that too. But maybe if you remember that you are doing it because he has told you then you are only obeying another order. i would have no idea what to do to him - tie him up and tease him, never letting him finish? Actually that sounds fun. Best of luck!!!

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:43:51 AM

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i'm afraid that i will end up making it seem very vanilla...any one has any kinky suggestions. i'm sure i can't beat him, it's not in my nature.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:44:16 AM

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Tell him he's your fucktoy for the day and then order him to Dom you!

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:47:49 AM

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i can't order him to dom me, then i wouldn't be carrying out his order to me. i did start by telling him to by condoms, i know he hates to to so.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:50:46 AM

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Before you even do this, I would suggest asking yourself if you'll ever be able to view him in the same way after you do this.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:54:05 AM

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i was saying that tongue-in-cheek. my former Master would order me to do the same thing on occassion and i really tried, but i sucked so bad at it, he stopped telling me to do that. i felt bad, but honestly i did the best i could. It is just not in my nature.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 8:54:15 AM

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i'm not worried about viewing him differently. he still has the control and the right tostop me at anytime.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 9:06:26 AM

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yessir,
Can see where you feel nervous about doing this with him. Maybe you could start by asking him what he would like to try. That way you can at least have an idea to start and you can make up a scene in your head. Perhaps can start by not having him do anything sexual. Strip him down, inspect him and tease a little, assert that you will be taking charge. Tell him that you want to see how well he is willing to obey and that he will be rewarded if he does well. Have him do a few chores. Might be good to start off slow in that nature so your nervousness can slip away as you watch him. Maybe have him serve you something..a drink or etc. Then come have him serve it to you on his knees. Lots of ways it could go, just remember to have fun with it. I think it is great that your fellow is comfortable enough in his Domhood to have you Top him.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 9:12:46 AM

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I think it is beautiful. He wants to give you the same trust that you give him constantly as his slave/sub. This doesn't make him less of a Dom or lose his control of you, it makes the connection between you deeper, remember that. Take pleasure in the trust he is giving you to allow you to top him for an occasion. Think of the release and pleasure you enjoy through trusting and surendering to him, and try to bring that to him, not as a true power role change, but as a way to strengthen your bond with him. I don't know what would work for you specificly for techniques, but maybe this way of thinking of it will help you with it mentally. Remember, you are growing from eachother, this is pushing you in a new and unexpected way and it will make you even more deeply His.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 9:25:13 AM

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Oh my.. I don't think I'd ever be able to do that..

I'm so glad my Sir doesn't like submitting.

I wish I can offer you some good advice or suggestion but... all I can say is, best of luck to you, sincerely!

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 9:33:36 AM

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Being a top and being the dominant is not the same thing, so being a top and being submissive are not incompatible.

I think it would be a good idea to find out what exactly he means when he says he wants you to "top him".

There are times that my Lord likes for Alandra and I to do cupping on his back. I find it fun, but there is little doubt who has the authority. I am told where to put the cups, how much suction to use, when and how to take them off. If I were given the instruction to top him, there would be little doubt that I would know what, when, where and how he wanted that done. I would not have the authority within the play, he would.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 9:35:37 AM

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He doesn't like submitting at all either...he knows this is a challenge for me, it's a way that he is pushing me. A couple times i joked that i wanted to top him and he told me that he didn't think i could do it and he wants me to know that it's not always so easy to stay in control. now that i have thought about it, i'm starting to look forward to it.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 9:55:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yessir105

i'm afraid that i will end up making it seem very vanilla...any one has any kinky suggestions. i'm sure i can't beat him, it's not in my nature.

do oral on him... but use listern breath strips or spray on his cock...... things will be hot for him.. not vanilla that all.

ps... the cinnamom flavored is the best

editted to add.... after you have him nice and hot..... spray his cock with cinnamon spray and get on and ride him...

and get HOT together...

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 10:33:22 AM

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Not being sure what your sir is looking for, I suspect it may be something as simple as wanting a session off where he doesn't have to control what is going on.

A simple solution is to restrain him, (if you have easy on easy off leather cuffs, that would be perfect so you don't have to worry about knots and cutting off circulation) gag him (this lets him know that he doesnt get to direct). Put a roll of unwrapped pennies in his hand to use as a safe gesture, put on some soft music, candles and incense and then tease him from head to toe with your hands, mouth, your breasts, and your pussy taking plenty of time. Get him to climax, release him and hold him... don't ask if you did ok, just let him know it was your pleasure serving him without his need to instruct.

Be careful though, dom burnout is very real and the next day you need to talk to him very openly about how he is feeling and how his request made you feel - or this could end up being the start of a change in the relationship dynamic.

Alternatively, chain him up and paddle his ass... he'll come after you when he's free :)

Good luck either way.

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 10:37:04 AM

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I get upset seeing no capital letter on a Dom's nick lol, I can't help you, but I couldn't do it........although have been accused of in the past in the learning process. Good luck to you :)

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 10:39:09 AM

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KnightofMists response is pretty good too :) lol

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RE: topping my master - 8/18/2007 12:32:48 PM

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quote:

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He doesn't like submitting at all either...he knows this is a challenge for me, it's a way that he is pushing me. A couple times i joked that i wanted to top him and he told me that he didn't think i could do it and he wants me to know that it's not always so easy to stay in control. now that i have thought about it, i'm starting to look forward to it.

That's awesome of him, really. And sweet. So do a good job.

Tie him down, wrists and ankles. Tease him orally but don't finish. Straddle his face. Use wax. Use ice. Do the things to him that he's done to you that you've enjoyed. Pretend you're him and he's you. Get into the scene. Make him proud of you. As Kyra pointed out, he's still the Dom - if he doesn't like something you're doing, he will let you know.

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