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A dilemma, a question... - 2/9/2004 1:38:48 AM   
fantasyconnect


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Status: offline 		I need some advice. A Mistress who has her profile on this site contacted me, writing me an unsolicited letter. The letter was very derogatory, and I was somewhat taken aback. I wrote to her, gently and respectfully defending myself. She answered, again with venom and anger. However, in her second letter she said a few things which made it clear she was confused regarding my identity. She quoted a few words from my profile which don't appear anywhere in my profile, and she mentioned entries in my journal, which has no entries. She then proceeded to block further email from me, so I can't even write her back suggesting that she has confused me with someone else. I honestly don't understand how such confusion is possible on this site, it's so easy to always verify the profile of the person with whom one is communicating. Nevertheless, it has happened. What should I do now? I've never met her, and I suppose for that reason one might be tempted to forget the whole affair, but as a submissive who respects and adores Dominant Women it disturbs me to leave it as it stands. Any suggestions?
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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 2/9/2004 2:15:18 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Status: offline 		actually fantasyconnect I am to also guilty of confusing one subs name for another and responding to ones email when it should of been the others here online. It may of been possible that like Me there is another out there with a name close to yours and the Domiinant was responding to sumthing They had recieved from this other person, and this could of been the problem as this is what happened to Me inocently enough and the slaves I were addressing made Me aware of it. We as Dominants are not infallable and I had a problem with the two names SheStudentforDomme and ShezStudentforDomme, and sent the wrong person of which both had a desire to learn more from Me to serve Me a email which confused them both as well as Me........... We all had a good laugh in the end and I HOPE that the words here will be read by the Dominant and your answers will be addressed by Them. Since you are blocked you have done all that can do here in addressing the issue and stateing your delemma. So move on from it and remember right or wrong We Dominants are always right * wink~

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 2/9/2004 10:52:42 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		My suggestion is just let it go. You did nothing wrong. Maybe she will see your post and realize her mistake. I doubt that you would be interested in her after the way she has behaved anyway.

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 2/15/2004 7:09:50 PM   
iwillserveu


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Status: offline 		As a fellow male sub that knows we out number Female Dominants so much that you hate to accidentally piss one off. (Accidentally) It is unfortunate, but there is nothing you can do.

In the end, if you explained everything to her she would have the choice of facing her mistake or seeing one of the ten male subs that know nothing of it. (Note: This is not a Domme or woman only thing. All human beings tend to avoid things they are not comfortable with, and being wrong is one thing no one is comfortable with.)

Just take Aesop's advice and decide those grapes were sour anyway.

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 2/15/2004 8:41:28 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		I've always believed that a person who cannot confront another person. Handle themselves in an adult way...(down to blocking someone) Is not something you would want in a Dominant anyway.
Obviously they already have issues. Do you want someone so issue ridden that they cannot even control themselves online?

I agree with iwillserveu, this is not somebody you should be wasting any of your valueable time on.
Move on to the people who matter.

Gloria

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 2/17/2004 8:33:03 PM   
MistressMarielle


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Status: offline 		fantasy c....Goodness pet, this One did impress you enough to get way under your skin. I am wondering if the stern and rather ruthless way that you were treated was actually in some small way appealing to you. How delicious if the Woman were to see these posts and take the block off from you. I am sure that your approach, now, might be a bit more strategic. Do enjoy your discussions...I wish you very well.

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 3/11/2005 10:00:12 AM   
ujfrt


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Status: offline 		you r lucky to get one to talk at all, i just cannot get one to even consider takeing me on, guess 53 over the hill. Well its not! oh! all the best! hope you sort it out,just move on consider it one of lifes little lessons & learn from it!

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 3/11/2005 10:33:34 AM   
Sundew02


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Status: offline 		fantasyc, One of the joys of computer communication is the access to people all over the world. One of the disadvantages is the multitude of miscommunications it can generate. Blocking someone is a tool, as with any tool it can be misused. My suggestion, which of course is MY opinion, is to put a brief note in your journal section. Simply state (without a sn) that you are concerned that some or a Domme has confused your sweet little self with someone else, and that you wish her well in her search. This will allow you the feeling of closure and if she is viewing profiles yours will again pop up before her eyes. Stay safe and as always, enjoy the road to submission as well as the goal. Sundew

< Message edited by Sundew02 -- 3/11/2005 10:34:18 AM >

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 3/11/2005 11:05:29 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		One of our potentials had the same problem recently, fantasyc- only the couple that contacted him thought that they were contacting their collared sub who was in trouble LOL ... even someone that is contacted often can be mistyped when writing a message, you know?

I'm with everyone else, a Dominant that cannot look at his/her actions and say "whoops, sorry about that, made a mistake" doesn't deserve the title that they have claimed - and the apparent petulant, childish nature of the messages says a whole lot more about the 'dominant' in question. I say let it go - if by chance she happens to get a clue from this post, then great ... there is always the hope of redemption... but don't count on it.

< Message edited by ModeratorFive -- 3/12/2005 10:35:23 AM >

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 3/11/2005 7:58:07 PM   
MsSilvie


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Status: offline 		Don't take it personally. It's not your duty to keep every wacko that identifies herself as a dominant female happy. Honestly, it's the internet. It's thick with wackos. Do the mature thing and put the darlin' lil' wacko on block. She's probably a escaped male convict of the ax murdering varity impersonating a female dominant, if that makes you feel any better.

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RE: A dilemma, a question... - 3/12/2005 4:52:46 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I've had that happen to me. Someone send me an email that seemed to imply that they knew me but seeing as how the name wasn't even slightly familiar I simply replied asking if I knew them? The answer came quickly, no they didn't know me and apologized for the mix up.

This says a lot about that person, as sub4hire said

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Handle themselves in an adult way...(down to blocking someone) Is not something you would want in a Dominant anyway.



Jewel

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