MistressZanthia
Posts: 88
Joined: 7/2/2004 From: Seattle, Washington, USA Status: offline
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I posted this almost two years ago on Bondage.com forums... in answer to the same question. It still holds true. ~*~ZAN'S RULES OF ENGAGEMENT~*~ Right off… Forget all you think you know about contacting a Domme when you write me... toss it out the window! Now... 1. Be human, be real, be sincere and tell me what about me interested you. Have a sense of humor. Leaving off the fantasy narratives, unless you like to see them in the hall of shame on my web pages? 2. No W/we crap. Be literate in plain English, not D/s English. It's annoying as all hell. The caps stuff too! I am not a chat room, don't treat me like one. And I recommend spell checking. 3. Please refrain from calling me anything remotely fantasy based (Mistress, Goddess, M'Lady, Ma'am, etc.) You don't know me, nor have you earned the right… and I don't accept those terms until you do and I tell you to call me by one. 4. Make sure your profile is complete. Not the checklists, the profile. Because when I first meet you I could pretty much care less what your BDSM interests are. You're a submissive or switch and that's all I need to know. These are things to discover about you later, if I like you. 5. Sins of Omission: You leave off anything on the profile for instance: cock size, marital status, experience level, name it, and I feel like you are hiding something. If you are… my first thought is, "What else could he be hiding?" And will just blow you off. I don't do "sins of omission". (NOT APPLICABLE ON COLLARME.COM) 6. As I have a photograph on my profile, I expect to see yours. And I won't beg or ask for it. Preferably one with a nice smile up close. Offer it in your first mail if it is not on your profile. 7. Keep it clean. Behave as if your 80 year old grandmother was in the room. I don't want to know your fantasies - until I care about you. And that could take some serious time and more than a few dates. 8. Chats, I simply won't do. Too much room for a boy to sit and try and bait me for cyber crap, which is a waste of my time. I have never, ever met anyone I've ever chatted with. Do you know why? Because I can't take them seriously. If your intentions are to truly meet a Domme, I expect you to go the extra mile to do so. Chatting isn't it, phone calls aren't either. Putting yourself physically in my presence is the only way you'll convince me that you're sincere in what you seek. I am sorry that I don't chat, but to me it is no way to get to know someone at all. Chemistry is critical so if you want the conversation to go beyond an initial "hello, I'd like to get to know you" you have to come here. I won't waste my time chatting or endlessly emailing someone. 9. Romance. I want the romance... all of it. Dinner out... things in common, little thoughtful touches and gifts, special times. So considering this doesn't work well in an online medium... you'll have to ask me out on a normal date. In the flesh and pretty damned soon too. I don't wait around for people to decide whether or not it's kosher, be real. I am basically an old fashioned girl. If you aren't local to me, and it's a good bet you aren't, I want to know when you are coming to meet me. If you're too afraid to hop a plane/bus/train or drive and put yourself in my presence physically... you aren't for me anyway. I don't like paranoid wussies to begin with. 10. I like men who aren't afraid to go after their dreams. Anyone can hide behind a computer screen. I am real, I am here and you be too if you want to know me. I am not afraid to meet people... why should you be? As I keep saying, there aren't any more whackos in the world then there ever were... they just have better Internet access now. Gee, sounds just like how you'd approach a vanilla date now doesn't it?
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~*Zan*~ www.zanthia.com
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