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MzMia -> RE: Emotional Dimension of BDSM (8/19/2007 8:39:57 PM)
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ORIGINAL: charlotte12
For me it is not about the whips and chains but i wouldn't entirely discount them.
The way i always see it is that i could submit without chains and whips but i couldn't be whipped without the emotional submission. However, if i can have the mental bondage it never hurts to be physically tied up as well. [;)]
I think that for a lot of us humans the physical can be the reminder of the mental. We are not always encouraged these days to simply step back and "be" with another person, people always seem to need to be "doing" something. Generally i feel the most submissive in the most simple of moments, simply sitting at his feet or having a hand resting on me as i remember that that hand can do whatever it wants at any time, or choose to do nothing. I would not however want to entirely give up the ropes and whips as they add another dimension to it.
I guess what i'm trying to say is that once i am able to get down to the core of what D/s means to me then i can enjoy many of the other kinks that i thought never excited me. But it wasn't until i started finding the "mental bondage" that i could add these other things in. My mind jumps to a silly analogy of learning to dance. You can learn all the steps and do a million different steps over and over but if you can't feel and move with the music then it's never going to be beautiful.
Very well written charlotte.
It was not until I realized that it was possible to have a close romantic relationship and BDSM that
I became interested in this lifestyle.
I think many here are always focused on "doing" something, I enjoy the fact that when you have someone
mentally, you can just "be" without having to do anything or even be present in front of the other party.
The connection is always there, in your heart and soul regardless where you are or what you are doing.
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