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Sexual health; confirming health - 8/19/2007 7:02:11 PM

ToysAndTies

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So, I know most of us are aware at least of safe sex methods. However, even if someone agrees to practice it That time, one can't be sure of their sexual cleanliness. I know one response I've been greeted with when introducing this in conversation is simply "if you're at the point where that matters, you should know and trust the person enough to know by then". But even the sweetest girl may be unaware she has something.

Do any of you readers out there either request or require any sort of medical proof of cleanliness, when is it appropriate to ask, when isn't it...etc.

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/19/2007 8:27:20 PM

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Do you have a hospital gyn clinic near? Or Planned Paranthood?
They do tests ( not only, you know) They do health tests so you can be sure.

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/19/2007 8:28:02 PM

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Of course I do. I intend on being around for a long long long time. If a potential partner an I MAY have sex then I want PROOF that they are clean, its the responsible thing to do. The right time is BEFORE you meet,a nd each of you should have your test results when you meet, with the tests taken within a few weeks of meeting and NO contact with other people AFTER the tests, otherwise, they are useless.

With a few partners, I didn't worry because of their professions, at with all my medical tests, I get tested every 3 or 4 months, so I was the last of their worries.

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/20/2007 3:24:27 PM

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Actually, I'd want to add no contact with anyone for several months Before the test as well... Of course, contact with others afterwards voids the test, but also, many things won't turn up for some time; there's a grace period of a couple months needed before testing too.

But you bring those sorts of things to a first date / meeting? "Hi, I'll have the turkey club with an iced tea...oh, and let me see that..." I'd say before sexual contact sure, but how soon is too soon for a potential partner?

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/20/2007 11:35:50 PM

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One of my old flames was waiting for me to give him the green light. He got his full tests for stds, and the Big One, had them put his real name on the test results and not just an anon number. Then he wrapped it up with ribbon, and presented it to me as a present in a gold box.

I don't think we got any sleep that night, for all the right reasons.

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/21/2007 7:58:56 AM

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I always assume people are fucking everyone in sight with no protection- no matter what they say. Then I make my choice on how to proceed based on that.

It's appropriate to ask abut sexual history before you decide to have sex. It's appropriate to ask for screening tests whenever you want, but mostly only useful if you desire long term monogamy without any need to keep bodily fluids separated.

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/21/2007 12:34:06 PM

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I would insist on it and as I just got out of a 6 year relationship I will be making said appt with my own Doctor for just that reason. Knowledge is power.

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/23/2007 11:32:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ToysAndTies

Do any of you readers out there either request or require any sort of medical proof of cleanliness, when is it appropriate to ask, when isn't it...etc.

Thanx

When is it appropriate to ask about sexual "cleanliness" (what a wonderful euphemism for drug and disease free, btw): Before any exchange of bodily fluids.

When is it not appropriate to ask: Never

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/23/2007 6:12:37 PM

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Let me share this little story with you.

I went in to have my annual AIDS/STD test recently and the nurse practitioner was commending me on being so pro-active about my health and made a comment that she wished everyone was as conscientious.

Seems there was a 30 year old man who came into the clinic (she didn't say WHY he was there, but I can just imagine...). And during the health history the nurse asked him how many sexual partner he has had in his lifetime to which he answered 460. Yes, that says 460, that is not a typo. She asked how many within the last month, he said 24. She asked of the 24, how many did he use a condom with? He said 16. She asked why no condom with the other 8, he said because it was their first time (he works in some kind of travel/tourism job). So she was trying to get him to consent to an AIDS test, he read through the paperwork and declined the test. She asked him why... he said that he couldn't live with knowing that he had AIDS.

Ummm... BUT HE IS OKAY WITH LIVING WITH THE POSSIBILITY THAT HE MAY BE GIVING IT TO DOZENS OR HUNDREDS OF OTHERS?????????????

She said he was a very attractive, charismatic, personable guy. I'm sure all those poor women (maybe I should say girls) had NO idea about his past and the risk they were taking with him.

Nothing is foolproof. But if you don't ask... see above for potential outcomes.

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RE: Sexual health; confirming health - 8/23/2007 6:28:27 PM

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With a few partners, I didn't worry because of their professions, at with all my medical tests, I get tested every 3 or 4 months, so I was the last of their worries.

I'm curious what you mean by you weren't worried about them because of their professions. I work in healthcare -- we don't get routinely tested for anything sexually transmitted! I can't imagine, other than in areas where prostitution is legal, where there would be any reason a job would serially test you for crotch cooties or anything else (unless of course, you work for the CDC and were at high risk working with the pathogens on a regular basis.)

What's more scary? Through the course of my job, we do serologic tests on a large amount of people being evaluated for organ donation. You'd be stunned to know that at minimum, 15 to 20% of that little slice of population has some sort of communicable disease (and we're only looking at syph, HCV, HBV and HIV.) The frightening part of this is that most of the families, spouses included, have NO idea of the infectious disease AND the patient has little that would point to where they contracted it in their med social history. And just an aside, you'd be stunned at the amount of 70+ year olds that have syphillis!

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