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musikman1 -> RE: Fao submissive men, who like to be humilated etc.. (10/10/2007 5:54:17 AM)
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Interesting inquiry. I'll post my answers first, then see what others have added..
> If you are comfortable doing so could you please describe your relationship with you mother.
She was the love of my life. And she spent her entire life loving us kids. There was never a moment that I didn't feel unconditional love from that woman. She WAS able to surprise me, like when I moved in with my aunt after aunt's father passed away (she was a little slow and needed someone to live with her). At 19, I volunteered to move into the house with the grand piano (I'm a pro musician), and a 45 yo woman living with me who only lived to cook my meals, wash my clothes, and when I brought "dates" home, I say, "Aunt Mazie, go to your room now," and she'd run in, shut the door and turn on her TV. (Dang I was spoiled!)
Just prior to moving in with her (the day grandpa passed away), she complained to my saintly mother, "He's going to be bringing girls over here to do who knows what!!"
My saintly mother (whom I always ASSUMED thought that I was a pure virginal child), said to Aunt Mazie, "No, honey, if he wants to do that, he'll take them somewhere else.."
All I could do was cough and sputter, "MOTHER!!" (looking agog!)
Egad, I miss that woman.. (sigh)
> Have you ever been hurt by her?
Never. She was strict, but ALWAYS in a loving way. I still remember her loving reminder to me when I got married and moved out to live with my new wife, "I will always love you, you will always be first in my heart, I will support you in whatever you do in life, (pause) but don't EVER ask me for money."
And I never did. (grin) And for 20 years, whenever she had me go to the store to pick something up for her, I had her "reimburse me" ("oh honey, you can't spend that much on me, you need it for your family. Here, let me give you the money, or I'll never ask you to pick up anything again..") by writing me a check.
I have a big box with 20 years worth of checks in it to this day. (big smile)
> Or witnessed anyone close to you getting hurt by her?
Absolutely not.
> What are your general feelings towards her (be honest)
If you ask my wife, she would tell you what I always told her: She had better hope that mom and her were not in a burning building and I could only save one.. (only half kidding?) Mom passed away a few years ago, and wifey tells me that she now feels safe. (grin)
My father passed away when I was a young teenager, and stay-at-home-mom was forced to go back to work to make a living for her three children. She worked through arthritis, she worked through a blood clot that blinded her in her right eye, and through at least one abominable boss.. She never allowed we kids to feel that we ever wanted for anything.
When we were in school, the first couple of years after dad died and things were tight. Mom was giving us really weird looking quarters to pay for our school lunches. It wasn't until many (20+) years later that I realized that she had used her coin collection to allow us to eat lunch every day. It was only after some hard reflection (and once I became a coin collector) that I realized that back in my youth, we were paying for lunch with Seated Liberty (1838-1891), Barber (1892-1916) and Standing Liberty (1916-1930) silver quarters.
I would have walked through fire for that woman.
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