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BittersweetLila -> Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/9/2005 8:59:45 PM)

Years ago I had a submissive relationship with a Man and his Wife. It lasted for two years, at which time the Wife decided that she didn't want the lifestyle anymore and I was made to leave. I was heartbroken and ended up in a vanilla relationship that over the past ten years has become extremely boring. I crave submission to a Master who can dominate and control me 24/7. I want to be made to do housework in the nube, obey my Master's every wish and live my life for His approval. I am finding myself very attracted to a Man who appears to have the qualifications of a good Master: wisdom, intelligence, nice body, control of himself and others, plus he denies me sex -- which is driving me crazy because all the other men I know want to have sex with me. Today, he and his Wife asked me if I wanted to spend the day with them, which was fun. His wife is pretty and seems very submissive. I'm not sure where this will lead, but I am so afraid that what happened to me in my last relationship might repeat itself. How do you tell if a "submissive Wife" might really be the person who is "in charge" of a Dominant Man ---- and if you get involved and committ yourself to lifelong love and service as a slave, how do you know that the wife won't get sick of the situation and throw you out in a couple of years?



stormsfate -> RE: Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/9/2005 9:28:08 PM)

I think I can understand your train of thought, but here's another that may or may not be relevant. In the first relationship you described, I feel it would be a mistake to blame it all on the wife. Obviously, for whatever reason, the man chose to release you. This doesn't necessarily mean the wife controlled the relationship, but more that he made a decision based upon his own desires. Had he desired that you remain a part of the relationship, he could just have easily chosen to release and divorce her if she was no longer accepting of the relationship the way it was. Its tough when someone decides they want something else, but I don't see it as any different than the woman who is sick of being married after two years and wants a divorce....or the guy who dumps his wife for his 20 something secretary, etc.

In this last relationship you speak of, how do you know that the man won't get sick of the situation and throw you out in a couple of years or that you won't get sick of the relationship and dump one or both of them in a couple of years? No one going into a relationship can know what the future holds, whether it be vanilla or kinky, monogamous or polyamorous. Relationships often end regardless of the dynamic.

Good luck with whatever you decide.


best regards,
fate



BittersweetLila -> RE: Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/9/2005 9:35:29 PM)

thx -- what you say makes good sense.

Lila



teapaw -> RE: Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/9/2005 9:40:49 PM)

SOmetimes I worry about that too....my Masters wife (though we are all to be handfasted in Oct, they are married by law) SEEMS to dominate by submission...(topping from the bottom) so to speak. Its something I dont stress over but I worry about it.....He is still master and I have spoken to him about my fears of this, not stating excatly who but putting it as a fear of MINE. He understood but didnt ease my fears of this, he doesnt see it happening. So I keep an "eye" on the relationship, I am going to just flow with the relatiohship......it will all work itself out eventually.
pamela



BittersweetLila -> RE: Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/9/2005 9:57:10 PM)

In my previous relationship there were children involved and I think that was the biggest reason why my Master let me go to please his wife when she got religion (she joined a church and had a "born again experience" and didn't want our relationship or lifestyle anymore.
Now that I'm older (I'm 42), it gets scarier to take a leap of faith and trust that it all will work out --- I'm tempted to stay in my vanilla relationship for financial security, friendship and safety, but lord or lord am I dead and dull instead from this boring marriage that I'm in -- I want to risk it all for love and a life living close to my true nature. Three in a bed is perfect for me ----- if I'm sleeping with my Master and his Wife. (especially if he makes me make love to her for his pleasure every so often!)

Lila



perfection20005 -> RE: Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/10/2005 9:09:30 AM)

I think you can compare this to any relationship. If you get hurt, you don't want to do it again. But you have to take chances to be happy in life. Sometimes you get hurt, but its finding the right one that makes it all worth it. Good luck.

perfection



slave4mzpatti -> RE: Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/10/2005 3:06:08 PM)

When mistress decided to collar me it was not taken lightly and i do believe it is for life. This was made clear and talked about and i trust her. However, how many people get married and make a solum promise before God to stay together for life only to divorce? It is the same thing. There are no guarantees in life.
PS Master is looking for a female sub/slave for a permanent live in position and i can safely say he is very honorable and would keep her and care for her.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Choosing to be a slave to a Master and his Wife (7/10/2005 4:38:24 PM)

I'm more concerned about the sex issuea dn lack of compatibility. Please don't make the mistake of ignoring one (likely major) thing just because everything else is so great right now. Or perhaps the lack of sex "drives you crazy" in the happy controlled way in that you know you can't use your sexual allure to control him.

Just work out compatibilities. You can't know that the wife won't be fulfilled anymore in a few years, any more than you can know that the dominant or yourself will be. You can know if this situation is right for you and SEEMING to be right for who you will become.



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