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financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 7:39:03 AM

gfhdtr

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Why do so many Female Dominants want sub men to give them money or support them? Why do Male Dominants never want money from a sub or to be supported by a sub? Is a Female Mistress who wants to be supported financially by a sub really Dominant?

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RE: financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 7:42:01 AM

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Cuz male doms prefer subs to give sex and looking sexy rather than money.

And trust me, plenty of male doms and masters insist that their slave give all income to them.

And no, a dom who wants to be supported is a dom who has a need for a specific type of sub to provide a specific type of service.

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RE: financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 7:49:32 AM

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He dips His lid;

There are many dynamics to which people relate to each other to fulfill their base needs. Yes there appears to be a gross difference between Male and Female Dominants and their expectations of their submissives.

It's the old adage that if there wasn't a market for the product, it wouldn't be marketed! (Yes I know in this modern world a Marketing Executive would be laughing)

In other words; it's all good for somebody else but accept that it's not for you. Many Female Dominants (particularly here on the boards) have similar views to Male dominants.

When you spend time reading other boards you will garner this and find your own perspective.

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RE: financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 8:32:08 AM

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So it's pretty normal for Dom's of any sex to want money from a sub regardless of gender? That's too bad. I came here looking for a sensual LTR with a consenting adult. One where they would enjoy me as much as I enjoy them. having to hand over money is a big turn off for me. I would never date someone in the vanilla world who demanded money as a condition of starting a relationship. If this is really how it is then the D/s world is not for me. I am a mature adult with a real job looking for another mature adult with a real job, not some woman who just sees me as income. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship like that?

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RE: financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 8:53:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: gfhdtr
So it's pretty normal for Dom's of any sex to want money from a sub regardless of gender? That's too bad. I came here looking for a sensual LTR with a consenting adult. One where they would enjoy me as much as I enjoy them. having to hand over money is a big turn off for me. I would never date someone in the vanilla world who demanded money as a condition of starting a relationship. If this is really how it is then the D/s world is not for me. I am a mature adult with a real job looking for another mature adult with a real job, not some woman who just sees me as income. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship like that?

It's understandable that this is a big turn off for you. But how would you feel about wearing an outfit specifically requested? How about cooking a dinner for someone? How about doing their laundry? Their taxes? Giving sexual pleasure?

Some forms of service turn you on, some are just things you do, and some turn you off.

But don't make the mistake that just because a type of service turns YOU off that people who engage in that type of service are somehow immature adults or lacking in a serious commitment to eachother. That would be as bad as a vanilla asking you "Why would anyone want to be in a relationship where you have to follow orders?"

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RE: financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 8:55:10 AM

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Not all female dominants are the same and in particular not all female dominants posing as dominants are in it for anything but money but even the female dominants looking for sincere relationships money is an attraction because they are human beings.

But at the risk of getting called cold and sexist even a female who is dominant is attracted to a man of means/power/money as a security thing that is pretty natural for the female human being that is prevalent in almost all cultures. The rules of relationships and societies do not get suspended in this life but just have things added on to.

Look at it this way there is a reason why very wealthy men date the beautiful women is because they have a lot of women after them so they pick what they are wanting. A female dominant that has the opportunity to have men fawn over her will have money/support/ security on her mind when selecting. Sorry but that is just human nature.

But to the OP do not confuse sincere female dominants wanting a sincere relationship but still want to see if the man has their financial issues intact from the women who are or just playing female dominants to anyone who will pay them money. Don’t lump them all into the same category.

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RE: financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 9:57:35 AM

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I was going to reply, but you'd probably get more out of reading LA's responses twice. Scroll up, read, repeat.

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RE: financial slaves? - 8/30/2007 11:34:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: toservez

Not all female dominants are the same and in particular not all female dominants posing as dominants are in it for anything but money but even the female dominants looking for sincere relationships money is an attraction because they are human beings.

But at the risk of getting called cold and sexist even a female who is dominant is attracted to a man of means/power/money as a security thing that is pretty natural for the female human being that is prevalent in almost all cultures. The rules of relationships and societies do not get suspended in this life but just have things added on to.

Look at it this way there is a reason why very wealthy men date the beautiful women is because they have a lot of women after them so they pick what they are wanting. A female dominant that has the opportunity to have men fawn over her will have money/support/ security on her mind when selecting. Sorry but that is just human nature.

But to the OP do not confuse sincere female dominants wanting a sincere relationship but still want to see if the man has their financial issues intact from the women who are or just playing female dominants to anyone who will pay them money. Don’t lump them all into the same category.

What toservez said.

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