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Mylee -> Pms and the submissive (7/11/2005 1:48:21 PM)

I love serving my Master, I live for it and normally do so with a beaming smile on my face. I'm always eager to please and I wait on baited breath to give Him anything that He is wanting or needing from me, but it never seems to fail, once a month I hit a day where I just turn into a brat, He can be giving me orders and all of a sudden I find myself acting up, doing things that I know will get me in trouble and I say to myself while Im doing them, 'why are you doing this?!?!? Stop it, behave!" This can be anything from touching without permission or not handing over a toy when told, I get no joy out of doing this, I try to stop myself then the next day it never fails I wake up with my period.

Now I've never been one to use PMS as an excuse for anything, so thats part of why this is bothering me so much...I'm wondering if Im doomed to get in trouble once a month or if I can somehow stop this and Im courious if this happens to others, or am I just really a freak??

Help?! Please,
my'lee



foxglove716 -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/11/2005 1:55:59 PM)

Does your master know that this is the reason you act up? I dont know if you can do anything about it, its probably out of your control, so why not take advantage of the situation? One last hurrah before the red tide comes! [:D]



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/11/2005 2:58:40 PM)

In my relationship it would be "one last hurrah before my ass gets booted to the street."

The fact is that you have a predictable cycle of behavior- hurrah you're already two steps ahead of a lot of people.

Now that you can predict the behavior and reactions, prepare for it! Make yourself sticky notes, put reminder pop-ups on your calender, do whatever you need to do to tell yourself "The day is coming get prepared!"

Now, you don't specify exactlyh ow it is you misbehave. Since your cycle IS predictable, is it possible to ask your dom to postpone certain things without interrupting his schedule? Is it possible to shift things around?

Obviously some women do have PMS and hormonal shifts that affect them physically and emotionally to a severe level, and this should be accommdated to a reasonable extent.

Otherwise, just try and remind yourself that your feelings shouldn't dictate your behaviors and see how you can change your diet/schedule/coping mechanisms to work through it.



Mylee -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/11/2005 3:12:16 PM)

That's just it Emerald, it isnt predictable, I'm very irregular, I never know from one month to the next when it will hit. As for PMS my symptoms are basically only that I just have one or two moments of pure brattiness. I dont get puffy or sore breasts or head aches or anything, I just get this very playfull brat that just doesn't wanna obey, it normally only happens for a moment or two, but thats long enough to get me in trouble


I will start watching for it now though. And try to recognise it for what it is when it's happening but.... I'm not sure any Master will belive the it wasnt me it's my Pms defense



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/11/2005 3:18:21 PM)

OK so you're only one step ahead of the game.

Have you honestly tried diet/hormones/pills to try and get you regular?

Otherwise I'd say just fess up and take the punishments as they were intended to be given and over the long run they will change your ways of thinking and reacting. It's the longer harder road, but it will work.



mossy -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/11/2005 3:45:17 PM)

mylee you asked if anyone else has had this problem? Yes i have.
You asked if you are a freak? no you're not....[:D] and some months i was better at controlling myself then others. It depended on what else was going on. If i was well
rested and eating correctly, and wasn't stressed then i had a better chance.
But when i didn't have all those things in place, it was as if the words came out,
before i had a chance to stop them! The minute they hit the air, i was sorry
i said them but it's too late. So i just keep working on it.[;)]



sudja -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/12/2005 5:41:07 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Mylee

That's just it Emerald, it isnt predictable, I'm very irregular, I never know from one month to the next when it will hit. As for PMS my symptoms are basically only that I just have one or two moments of pure brattiness. I dont get puffy or sore breasts or head aches or anything, I just get this very playfull brat that just doesn't wanna obey, it normally only happens for a moment or two, but thats long enough to get me in trouble


I will start watching for it now though. And try to recognise it for what it is when it's happening but.... I'm not sure any Master will belive the it wasnt me it's my Pms defense


If your Master does not believe you - then you are with the wrong Master. Trust is a two-way street.

I tend to get very emotional/insecure about 4 days before my period. It took me awhile to recognize it, but now when I do I pop a couple pieces of chocolate, and I'm good to go. :)

It's a lovely excuse for some chocolate, too.

sudja




Aleycat -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/12/2005 2:03:27 PM)

Hey guys have PMS too, makes us all moody ...[:@]... especially in this heat!!!



naughtinicki -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/12/2005 2:13:55 PM)

I am like you too, I get extremely emotional leading upto my period, and it can take many different forms.

The big thing is that I have been with my Master long enough now for Him to read the signs, as well as having a good memory as to when this time is. And He has adapted to deal with me at these times, and as He is one who has never let me get the better of Him in any way, His dealing with it also doesn't change, but He does alot to make sure that each evening as I go home my head is where it should be.... PMS or not!



junecleaver -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/12/2005 8:16:57 PM)

I have absolutely horrible mood swings before my period. I'm not in a relationship currently, but I'm talking to someone that I'd rather not act like a complete brat infront of. I usually just avoid him on days that I feel particularly instable and moody.

I guess that would be a bit difficult for you. Maybe that time of the month is when you should go to the spa for a day. Lol.



quietkitten -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/12/2005 8:35:49 PM)

There are medical conditions that can really exacerbate PMS ( yah I know damn nurse yakking again)
It certaiinly doesn't hurt to go see your physician about dealing with bad PMS, there are treatments that can help some people.[:)]



nonuts4thshoney -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/12/2005 9:39:05 PM)

i am starting to realize this (i never had before..lol) that i am EXTREMELY emotional during ovulation. i am a complete mess. Anything will set me off into a crying fit that may last an hour or more sometimes. i get to the point where i start to hyperventilate. i want major comforting during this time. i am not regular myself so i never know when i will be starting. Chocolate doesn't really seem to work for me and i'm not quite sure what will. i just know that i'm usually fine after 2 days or the next morning. i hate that i'm like this because Master really dislikes it when i am like this, but i have no clue how to stop this behaviour.



babebirdy -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/13/2005 2:08:45 AM)

I tend to get really clingy, and need to be held a lot more around this time, but being on the pill I know when to expect it. I also get really emotional, and even a slightly displeased look from Master can start me crying.



mossy -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/13/2005 7:23:23 PM)

Yes babebirdy....i know the feeling well you speak of....and the many box's of tissues i went through....[&o]
i was so grateful master used to tease me me about the tissues, all the time, to kinda take my mind off the way i was feeling, and show me he had a sense of humor about things. It was sweet, and i really appreciated it.[:D]



HalloweenWhite -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/19/2005 6:23:34 AM)

Hello....Shouldnt the Dom just be more understanding and just deal with it calmly?. Not to be patronising,Im led to beieve periods can be fairly painful. So wouldnt a bit of comapssion once in a while be acceptable?.



HalloweenWhite.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/19/2005 6:29:18 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: HalloweenWhite

Hello....Shouldnt the Dom just be more understanding and just deal with it calmly?. Not to be patronising,Im led to beieve periods can be fairly painful. So wouldnt a bit of comapssion once in a while be acceptable
HalloweenWhite.

For some people periods are fairly painful, for a grand majority of people they are simply uncomfortable, and for some people they aren't any issue at all.

I think the dominant should always be understanding of the subs situation, but to expect the dominant to pause obedience and respect for a few days every month is just ridiculous unless it is the rare person who actually is incapacitated.

Should it be dealt with calmly? Absolutely.

I think one is easily stepping into the world of "topping from the bottom" when they start to imply that dominants aren't being compassionate when they expect the submissive to obey and respect their dominants orders.



Mylee -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/19/2005 6:48:31 PM)

Thanking you all for your responses!

I have to agree with Emerald, I want my master to continue obediance training even when I'm going through this, my post was NOT a complaint about His treatement of me by Him, the BEST thing He can do for me when this happens is be consistant with me.

He is very understanding, however this comes without warning and sometimes we dont recognise it for what it is, but even still I don't want to stop our training or my serving of Him because of this issue...and when I'm punished for acting up, I except this with grace

I feel badly for Him that oncea month His well mannered happy girly turns into a 13 year old brat for a moment or two, I seem to go out of my way to push his hand at these times and all the while wondering WHY I'm doing this ..lol

I've started taking vitamines and a few other herbs, we'll see if those help..LORD do i hope so, my bottom is getting raw from spankigs!

my'lee



tinkJH -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/20/2005 5:02:53 AM)

I will admit I am the same way. It usually hits me about 2 days before my period. I get irritated easily, very edge, impatient, and clingy and emotional. I end up feeling lost, useless, insecure, dirty... its just a bad, horrible time for me.

I've gotten myself in trouble over it. Luckily. Master understands that this time is going to be trying for me. However, I am usually able to stop, catch myself feeling this way, and know that.. "Great. Here I go again" I take a deep breath, let Master know how I am feeling and what I am feeling. If I stop getting too out of line or start "acting up". He will stop me. It doesn't matter what I will be doing. He will stand in the doorway, look at me very firmly and just go "tink..". Its a warning. It tells me that if I keep up, I will be punished. The entire day is an uphill battle for me, and I thank Master imensly for being there to help and correct me struggle along.
Granted, the next day all the emotional issues fade off and I got back to being myself. Like anything else, the clouds come thundering in and there is suddenly the calm before the storm. The only thing I am left with for the next 5 days then is cramping pain, which is usually at its worst the first 3 days, then eases up. I am one of the few that nearly get bed ridden from cramping pain.



HalloweenWhite -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/21/2005 2:23:56 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2


quote:

ORIGINAL: HalloweenWhite

Hello....Shouldnt the Dom just be more understanding and just deal with it calmly?. Not to be patronising,Im led to beieve periods can be fairly painful. So wouldnt a bit of comapssion once in a while be acceptable
HalloweenWhite.

For some people periods are fairly painful, for a grand majority of people they are simply uncomfortable, and for some people they aren't any issue at all.

I think the dominant should always be understanding of the subs situation, but to expect the dominant to pause obedience and respect for a few days every month is just ridiculous unless it is the rare person who actually is incapacitated.

Should it be dealt with calmly? Absolutely.

I think one is easily stepping into the world of "topping from the bottom" when they start to imply that dominants aren't being compassionate when they expect the submissive to obey and respect their dominants orders.

I see what you meant,I didnt word it properly I guess. All I meant was I personally (But then Im new) would take things a bit slower. Im not happ with the idea that you just demand,demand,demand every few minutes when you know that someone who has given so much of them selves to you is feeling ill,often,as you say,in a lot of pain.


HalloweenWhite.



nonuts4thshoney -> RE: Pms and the submissive (7/21/2005 7:17:34 AM)

Ok, so last month i had crying fits during ovulation. THIS MONTH...LOL!...better, i didn't have the crying fits because i decided to arm myself with chocolate. [:)] Well, it sort of worked. Master and i were on our way to the movies and we packed alot of chocolate and candies. On the way i kept sneaking chocolate (i was so happy happy) when Master says don't eat the chocolate because we wont have any for the movies. She had this shocked look on her face because i was licking the reeses peanut butter cup wrappers. i try to sneak a bite of a liquorice stick and Master catches me red handed. So the rest of the stick goes back in the bag. Right before we got there (bad me) i want more chocolate, so i grab the mini bag of M&M's and start to open the package. As Master was about to say "Don't you dare", it was too late because i had the M&M's including the WRAPPER in my mouth before she could finish her sentence!!! i was a physcho chocolate freak that day. i actually didn't get into trouble. Master was actually laughing so hard. i guess it's better to be a psycho chocolate freak than have crying fits. LOL!!



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