sub4hire
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As everyone else has said, the big thing is to make arrangements beforehand if things are that serious. It's also good to let someone close know - like a sibling/parent/close friend - that you have someone that you are getting sort of serious with, just so they know that, should something happen, yes this person has a right to be there grieving with them. They do have a right, but the bottom line is living will's do not work. The reason I say this is, I buried my mother 3.5 year's ago. I had to go back and forth from the cemetary to my father too many times to count. He was after all her husband. Even though I was her daughter and he totally shut down..refused to do anything. Didn't matter, she had a husband. It was his responsibility wanting to or not to make arrangements. So, after about 15-20 trips back and forth through towns to get the proper papers signed with him and them. I could bury my mother. Because of this fiasco I had, when my sister was sick month's later. I knew there would be issue when I had to bury her. She had a husband who had been declared incompetant by the state of California. Which would make a person think they had no rights....well that could'nt be a more wrong assumption. Essentially an attorney or two told me that when she died. Even though her request was to be cremated...and he wanted her buried she would be buried. So, she was going to put her wishes in a living will. We were then told, if your husband wants you buried you will be buried. The way out was to actually take her to the cemetary and have her sign the papers for her own cremation. That was the only way I would have a leg to stand on is if the process was already put in motion by her upon her death. I'm not trying to sound cynical here but I've been through it a few times in recent year's. Living will's work for somethings but not for other's. Hence the Terry Schiavo case. There are way too many loopholes people will use.
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