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WatchDogg -> RE: profiles that are too Dominative. can it be? (6/29/2004 11:23:55 AM)
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LoveLady is right. There actually is no such word as Dominative. It could be that the original one who posted the message referring to this may have meant Dominant, Dominating, or Domineering. Even so, the meaning of the post is easily understood despite the grammar.
Having said that, I would go on to say this. All people are different, coming from different regions, backgrounds, upbringings and experiences. Far too many of the ones who gravitate toward the BDSM lifestyle really have no clue as to what the D/s lifetyle really is, just as it is the same with ones who are repulsed and stigmatized it and those of us who live this way. The fact is, those who truly are dedicated to the lifestyle we have chosen understand this and try to "overlook" or to enlighten others who are not educated to the level of knowledge and understanding that many have. I freely acknowledge that I don't know all there is to know and never will, but I do strive to learn more and educate Myself every day.
I have recently met and am currently envolved with a very sweet, albeit "bratty" sub and I consider Myself very fortunate in that regard. I like brattyiness in My girl....lol
We met for the first time and started out in a vanilla environment just to get better aquainted and "feel" each other out. The others in that particular establishment didn't quite know what to think because W/we openly discussed D/s and our own thoughts and opinions without shame and were quite comfortable with each other before W/we went home. There has been little play so far since W/we are both still building the level of trust and respect which will be comfortable for U/us to progress further and that works for those who are not into D/s just for kicks or kinks. For others less knowledgeable, just going out to try and find someone to dominate or be dominated by, works, but it's dangerous and unpredictable, and I doubt those people truly "live" in a D/s relationship full time or want to.
To say that a peofile is too Dominant or not Dominant enough reall boils down to personal preferences, or what an individual percieves BDSM to be in the end. The truth is, one cannot be forced to submit to another unless she or he chooses to if they've done their homework and educated themselves. Please, people, the only way to obtain the knowledge required for anything in this world is to seek it out, study it, experience it, and decide if it's what you really want. But be careful what you ask for. You may just get it, and then what?
Just My two cents
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