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Mercurialdame -> RE: fairly new domme wanting to punish (9/10/2007 6:36:24 PM)
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It sounds as though, you wish to use a play scene, to deal with a relationship issue?
Personally, id not chose that route. So can not advise on how.
Lying, is generally, by mosts standards not acceptable. You seem to have a issue with it for instance.
But lying could be, he said he liked a particular form of play, and you have later found out he has told another he doesnt like it when you.............
Lying could be, he has told you he has not played with another, and you find out he has.
Such a huge load of possible situations. Some id end my relationship stone cold dead for, others i would call for some plain open discussion to clarify where you are both coming from and if you can negotiate a path through it, that is of mutual benefit to you both.
Part of your original post, touched on the fact that you are larger than your sub. That you fear causing real harm.
Asking him to stand on one leg, until told to do otherwise, is not using your size, but your dynamic. He puts his foot down, and he gets whacked. Eventually, his own body will let him down, and his foot will touch the ground and you get to punish him. And have fun as you watch him try his best, to please you.
"stand absolutely still" neither uses strength, nor gadgets for bondage. But he is still standing where you put him. Bound by mental bondage you have put in place.
Try thinking outside of the square a little. Let your creative devious mind play around with how to punish him.
For real punishment, not being spoken to for 10 mins to 2 days, works wonders. With some written work on what they have done wrong. Depends on your dynamics as to what punishment would suit.
a bit all over the place, but you get the drift?
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