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RRafe -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/7/2007 9:43:25 PM)

This is what really kills the fantacizers when I say it......"Be what you desire, worth requires equal worth.



adoracat -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 4:10:09 AM)

hmm.  i guess i was funny, cause all i knew i needed was someone who was kind as well as stern, who would love me as well as discipline me.  all of the other "fitting together" would be trial and error, and conversations to see how well he and i suited.

at nearly 6 months later, Sir and i are still fairly happy together.  its not *perfect* but what relationship is?  i know the look of joy on both of our faces when i open the door tells me that we made the right choice.

kitten



bandit25 -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 4:19:41 AM)

I gotta agree with samba...(sorry too lazy to type the whole name).  This can be said on both sides.  Dom looking for barbie doll and sub looking for perfect Master.  Just not happening.



ehlovindom -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 7:45:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: labrat18610

I keep reading posts for subs seeking a "Master". Most have a fantacy image of a "Master". It's like they're shopping for a new car that has to have just the right accessories. The Master has to be a model 657-A, Version-Beta with the upgrade.
First, there ain't no such imaginary critter. And secondly, this is a relationship between two unique people.  The Master, who is the perfect Master for a particular slave, may not be that idealized, 6", blond, blue eyed, hung, super intelligent hunk.
The best Master I had was scrawny, 4 inches shorter than me, 35 lbs. lighter and wore glasses. But we emotionally clicked. Yeah, I could have taken him out any time I wanted, yet I never questioned his complete authority over me. That's why I think that subs who desire some fantasy version of a Master are missing the point. Your Master is going to be a flesh and blood human being, not some fantasy. It's the relationship that counts.
( getting off soap box)
Rick


And it gets even better when they write how “Master” now wants to add a sister to the family so that is what she must now seek.   And of course it goes the other way as well, with Master’s seeking that perfect slave, always young, always cooking, cleaning paying all the bills and of course, always ready to sexually serve.   Reality always has a hard time with our fantasies and projections.



Redoubt -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 11:55:55 AM)

I'd say the reason for this desire is seeing the owned submissives who post at CM, and how they speak of their masters. Because their masters click so well for them, the love they have shines through on their posts. What unowned submissive wouldnt want that for themselves?

So they begin to imagine what they would need to feel that way about someone, not realizing that the more they try and picture what they think they need, the more they shut themselves off from having it.

I'm sure many single Dominants do the same exact thing, they want a cute girl who feels the way about them - the way that the collared submissives do about their masters, and they search and only find women who don't reach the unrealistic standards that they have set for themselves.

After a while, often a long while, loneliness kicks in... maybe a bit of resentment that others have found their someone, and they decide that anything is better than just being alone - so they jump into the first thing that looks halfways decent, expectations are high, emtions are charged and of course, 9 times out of 10 it fails to come close. So then a lot of heartbreak and disappointments occur, and the hurt parties put their standards back up - even higher, and the cycle continues.

What's the solution?

Less haste, lower expectations, healthy respect, and a desire to enjoy life, safely... responsibly and courteously.

You never know what that stranger may bring to your life, if you're sensible, they won't be able to hurt you too bad. And if you're open minded, and take things slowly - you may be delighted with the result.



glassdoll -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 1:31:15 PM)

maybe there is no perfect model, but people shouldn't be afaird to ask for what they want.



MstrSkyWoIf -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 3:54:06 PM)

Well I am a model 1959-12 anyone interested I come with many upgrades lol.... Ok all joking aside the trouble I see with most wants is they are mostly based on fantasy a perception of what can be instead of what is... This perception even causes them to look past the obvious trouble ahead and ignore what common sense tells you will cause failure in the long run in that relationship and they move forward knowing in there heart it is destine to fail.

A good example of this I had someone tell me not so long ago.. "you and I just seem to flow and your so consistent, the others I am speaking with don't flow and are on and off" the next thing I know they went off with one of the other ones..... What can you do life goes on everyone must make a choice....  Some chose to be alone rather then with someone others chose to set there goals so high they can never be met. and then others chose to keep choosing the one who can not quiet work out because if it did they would have the chance of being hurt if it dose not but in reality by choosing the one who will not work out long term they have failed before they started........

I hope that all made since it has been a tough week ...... Scratches head ....



MzMia -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 8:55:17 PM)

MstrSkyWolf, it made perfect sense.
You were to decent and sincere and real for that submissive.
Many people prefer dishonet people, abusive people,
bums, deadbeats, liars, losers, gypsies, tramps and thieves
instead of consistent and honest people.
You were to good for her, you are better off.
Can ya tell I like Cher?



pitbull2799 -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 9:29:06 PM)

Kellendra, love the post. I have an ex-wife that looked at my flaws as a curse, is the flaws that do make live interesting, cause you will never know what will happen next.  Well those people looking for PERFECTION will never be happy nor will they ever find TRUE life. they will keep living in the "FANTASY WORLD" i think that is why im still single...."IM NOT THE RIGHT MODEL". I have read some of the other post on this subject and i am happy to see others that think the way i do......"TAKE THE BLINDERS OFF JUST LOOK" there is more to the person in front of you, than just the cover. i know what they see with me isnt what they think they want or looking for. so it goes back to "WHAT MODEL ARE THEY LOOKING FOR"

  To end this on a good note, i live but this "Life is to short not to enjoy everyway possible, if it wont kill me i am game to at least try it once."   this is the first time i had to check out some posts and im loving alot of the responses. and Heavenskeeper had some good points too. Love the name. Hope i wasnt off track here. and i will just keep check out the posts, and keep looking for my sub/slave.



MzMia -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/8/2007 9:42:34 PM)

Congratulations on your first post PitBull!
I hope you will post a lot more, we have some lovely
submissive ladies around here that would adore a nice
big strong Dominant man like you.
[:D]



MstrSkyWoIf -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/9/2007 1:58:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mzmm

MstrSkyWolf, it made perfect sense.
You were to decent and sincere and real for that submissive.
Many people prefer dishonest people, abusive people,
bums, deadbeats, liars, losers, gypsies, tramps and thieves
instead of consistent and honest people.
You were to good for her, you are better off.
Can ya tell I like Cher?


MzMia I thank you for your words and I do not want to get off subject here but I must reply. With all due respect you do not know the whole story and I do not want to leave you with the wrong Idea. I do not feel I was to good for her in fact we are a very very good fit, I think the trouble was more one of timing. She is a good woman and is just doing what she feels is best for her. I wish her no ill will and in fact should her chosen path bring her happiness I will be happy for her and should it not and I am still alone I would welcome her back. We must all make choices in this lifestyle and in doing so we do not always make the correct choice's, this is how we learn and grow.



littlebitxxx -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/9/2007 2:26:55 AM)

In my search, I didn't really have a specific model in mind but I sorta knew what kind of accessories I wanted.  I tell ya, the test driving got to be a real drag and the salesmen!...well!...most just wouldn't shut up about the advantages of their chassis over another.  Having in the back of my mind a sporty speedster type, I took a real chance on stopping by the Hummer dealership.  Lo and behold!  The perfect model, colour, and accessories was right there to be snapped up.  Big, strong, tough, and dependable, this one comes with built in seat warmer and massager.  ;)    He can get me from 0 to 60 in nothing flat and pull a squeak in all positions of the stick. 

So yes, there is such a thing as perfection...perfect for me.  (Sorry, no passengers)



crouchingtigress -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/9/2007 5:42:26 AM)

beleve it or not it is your right to ask for and to recieve every thing you want in this life.....there is no request too outlandish or that you are not worthy of.

and the truth is the more specific you are the better.



RaynaSub -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/9/2007 9:25:42 AM)

My Master is perfect for me.
I am not sure what model he is, he is not perfect and I am not perfect.
Our relationship works because we love and expect each other, in spite of our
imperfections.
When I was searching, I looked closely at the inside and less at the outside.
I wanted a Master that I could be proud of and respect, that was what was important to me.



rmanrr -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/9/2007 11:48:40 AM)

Greetings My Woman
Further to that about the exterior and the options....all of which I discovered about you after we came to know each other first as friends and people, yep yep, you are the sleek roadster but with the guts of an Indy Car, the drive of a Semi, and the fortitude of the Land Rover. Perfect for Me, enough differences to make life interesting true, but our commonalities in thought, and action fit just right. I love you.



MzMia -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/9/2007 11:53:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrSkyWoIf

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mzmm

MstrSkyWolf, it made perfect sense.
You were to decent and sincere and real for that submissive.
Many people prefer dishonest people, abusive people,
bums, deadbeats, liars, losers, gypsies, tramps and thieves
instead of consistent and honest people.
You were to good for her, you are better off.
Can ya tell I like Cher?


MzMia I thank you for your words and I do not want to get off subject here but I must reply. With all due respect you do not know the whole story and I do not want to leave you with the wrong Idea. I do not feel I was to good for her in fact we are a very very good fit, I think the trouble was more one of timing. She is a good woman and is just doing what she feels is best for her. I wish her no ill will and in fact should her chosen path bring her happiness I will be happy for her and should it not and I am still alone I would welcome her back. We must all make choices in this lifestyle and in doing so we do not always make the correct choice's, this is how we learn and grow.


No problem MstrSkyWolfe.
I sort of hijacked your post and got carried away.
I was making more of a generalization about many of the submissives out here.
Not so much, your situation.
Many here both Dominant and submissive are seeking model 657's with upgrades
that they will never find. 



MstrSkyWoIf -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/9/2007 7:36:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mzmm

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrSkyWoIf

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mzmm

MstrSkyWolf, it made perfect sense.
You were to decent and sincere and real for that submissive.
Many people prefer dishonest people, abusive people,
bums, deadbeats, liars, losers, gypsies, tramps and thieves
instead of consistent and honest people.
You were to good for her, you are better off.
Can ya tell I like Cher?


Mzmm I thank you for your words and I do not want to get off subject here but I must reply. With all due respect you do not know the whole story and I do not want to leave you with the wrong Idea. I do not feel I was to good for her in fact we are a very very good fit, I think the trouble was more one of timing. She is a good woman and is just doing what she feels is best for her. I wish her no ill will and in fact should her chosen path bring her happiness I will be happy for her and should it not and I am still alone I would welcome her back. We must all make choices in this lifestyle and in doing so we do not always make the correct choice's, this is how we learn and grow.


No problem MstrSkyWolfe.
I sort of hijacked your post and got carried away.
I was making more of a generalization about many of the submissives out here.
Not so much, your situation.
Many here both Dominant and submissive are seeking model 657's with upgrades
that they will never find. 


No trouble just wanted to be clear it was not anything to do with dishonesty or deception.



SirCache -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/12/2007 11:00:30 AM)

I've seen this on both sides of the fence, and I think the biggest problem with it is that people are so desperate to 'try out' the lifestyle that they have no real understanding of what is involved.  Some people are looking for vanilla relationships thinking that BDSM means you score more often.  Far too often, though, people are looking for what they think looks good on paper, and don't take the time to understand that every relationship involves some degree of comprimise.  I completely avoid these people when I find them.



QuietDom -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/12/2007 11:16:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: shyinini

Yuppers, they want their version of God
 


I don't see why this couldn't work... if someone's willing to pretend I'm God, I'm happy to pretend that I am God.  I like worship![:)]

Of course, this requires a certain deliberate rejection of reality.  But everyone is guilty of that to some degree.



liorsnava -> RE: I'm seeking a Master, model 657-A, with up grade (9/13/2007 8:07:53 AM)

my Master has always, always, always said... " its not the packaging that matters but the gift inside "



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