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RE: First kiss - 9/14/2007 4:24:02 AM

MadameMarque

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I had the oddest experience, not too awfully long ago.

I don't mind making the first moves; I enjoy it. However, this is balanced against allowing the other person to court and pursue you, as well.

The first time necking with this "person of interest," we spent a long time at it. The one thing I noticed, which I wondered if I imagined, at first, was that every time he might have kissed me directly on the lips, he seemed to avert his mouth. Yet, other than that, he was avid.

At first, because I had been rather forward, at the beginning of our acquaintance, and because things were moving rather quickly, I wanted to allow his desire to overcome his inhibition, and for him to dare to kiss me, on the mouth. But this didn't occur, during quite a long session. I felt, if he has an aversion to kissing on the mouth, let him tell me, or perhaps it's so intimate to him, that he's not ready. Or maybe he's trying to tease me, to induce me to be more forceful, with him?

I just proceeded as intuition dictated.

It was only after we stopped, for the moment, and calmed ourselves, a bit, and talked, later, that he told me. He had been advised by someone else never to be the first one to kiss (to kiss the dominant, I presume).

I said, "You mean we're suffering someone else's bad advice?," which was funny, to realize.

I notice constantly, on this forum and on the main CM site, that people tend to underestimate how hard many other people are trying, doing their best to navigate new waters, to understand what is expected of them, and what works.

It's all about love. Even the lust, the perversion, the power and the torture-in that moment, you share yourself with someone, they share themselves with you.

And kissing is divine.

"G. caught the ruddy, laughing face, in his hand, and suddenly kissed him, before he could be shrugged off.

Releasing him as quickly, G. watched the smile fade from the blushing face, and his gaze lower, as the shyer boy absorbed his attention."

- from Untitled, by H.M.

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RE: First kiss - 9/15/2007 1:39:32 AM

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In romantic situations, as a femdom, what's your experience with the first kiss? Has it been initiated by you, or by the man? What feels more comfortable and how do you decide how you will handle it?

Akasha

Sheesh Akasha, you are always soooo limited to who may answer your questions????!!!

If you would have directed your question to a wider scope I may have told you about the most juicy, lovely erotic story of my first kiss. toooooo bad I wasn't included.

Missy.

P.S. I think you are a fake "FemDomme". In CM talk...are you really twue??

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RE: First kiss - 9/15/2007 3:17:08 AM

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If you would have directed your question to a wider scope I may have told you about the most juicy, lovely erotic story of my first kiss. toooooo bad I wasn't included.

Missy.

...But the rest of us want to know.

M

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RE: First kiss - 9/15/2007 7:16:35 PM

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I expected to be head of my household and felt that those who couldn't let me take the lead in something as mundane as kissing wouldn't be comfortable "taking the back seat" long term.

Majik has said that my responding without hesitation to her telling me to kiss her was what clinched it for her and let her know that I would make a good submissive for her. It was early January and I even had a really nasty cold at the time. It would seem the two of you share something of the same thought process about establishing a D/s dynamic.

- pixel

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RE: First kiss - 9/15/2007 7:58:10 PM

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I grabbed my current sub by the shirt and pushed him up against a wall and kissed him. He said that blew his mind because he had always been the Dominant in all his prior relationships, but when my lips touched his that was it, his knees turned to jelly.

He's been my sub ever since.

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