FTopinMichigan
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha Has anyone been to any event of this kind? Would it be interesting, or do you prefer to know right out of the gate who is dominant and who is submissive? Are there any people that think they could not "hide" their dominant or submissive role at a "no reveal" party? It would be rare to "know" what someone's orientation is, until they are asked, or they reveal it themselves, through their words or actions. In my experience, many of our local gatherings are found to be attended by those that feel the need to self identify by their "role" immediately. At some parties, the style of dress can be a giveaway, although not always obvious, as I've seen Dom/mes with collars too. I've noticed many Doms introducing by "Sir" or "Master," and many Dommes using "Mistress" or "Lady," and other derivatives. I have never heard a submissive person adding their orientation to their name, during vanilla intros. We have one local party group that has name tags, at play parties, that clearly show the "orientation" of the person, as Top, bottom or switch, as well as "observer." While I think this helps some, many people ignore the tags, just as many don't read profiles. HA! I enjoy getting to know the 'person, over the player,' and would enjoy having a social gathering where "roles" or orientations were put aside, for those that seem to only identify by their role. While I could refrain from identifying as a "Top," I could not hide my personality at a "no reveal" type party. In the past, I ran a BDSM orientated singles group that had the sole purposes of vanilla social events, for bringing like folks together. The group was an alternative to other BDSM oriented groups, to offer an opportunity to get to know the person, over the player. The first time around, the group was VERY successful with many happy relationships resulting from the brief period of time we were together. The second time the group went around, the people seemed more interested in the player, over the person, and it became just another "role" oriented group, with no interest in vanilla social. Too many wanted to "play" with little having interest in the person. The group folded. I like figuring things out, on my own. I enjoy talking and getting to know others, not just one group, or people within on "role" or "orientation." I think a "no reveal" type party, would be quite interesting. K
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