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how to ask this?? - 7/14/2005 7:07:48 PM

dominmd

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OK I have a question or rather a few questions.

I was reading the thread toothpast on clit, http://www.collarchat.com/Toothpaste_on_Clit/m_123447/tm.htm

And it got me to thinking these questions?

1. What would a person use on a woman who's clit is sensitive to very sensitive?
2. There have been many suggestions as to the variety of things to use on a woman's clit. How would you rate them in order from least powerful to most powerful?
3. For the women, what would you use in combination with other forms of stimulation?

Keep in mind, I am a guy that is not psychic, hence I need to ask questions. Besides which I was always told the dumb question is the question that is unasked.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/14/2005 7:27:52 PM

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The only problem with these kinds of questions is that, invariable, the answer is "It depends on her". Helpful, right? LOL

Personally, I like a menthol rub like vick's vapor rub. But, I've heard that some can't handle it. I know first hand that some men can't. Try it on yourself and see what you think, especially if you'll be having sex with her while it's on! I would bet that most could stand the KY Lubricant that "creates a warming sensation on contact". Edible oils are warming oils, too. http://www.condom.com/oilsoflove.html

There's various oils that give sensation, too. For example, there's an oil that desensitizes. http://www.condom.com/od-100.html

Or, if you go the other way and use ice, be sure not to hold it in place. A frost bit clit doesn't sound like much fun.

Hope this helps!

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/14/2005 7:32:22 PM

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By all means post what works for you. I want all opinions and views. Really I am looking for a starting point.

I have heard about that oil. It is a great idea. We all know us guys can get off and fall asleep after we have gotten our jollies. But, I am not in that selfish mode anymore.

I have used ice before but never on a girls clit. I thought it might hurt more than anything else.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 12:53:32 AM

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Hi there,
I posted on the toothpaste thread, and I've had quite a bit of experience with stuff used down there... the thing is I have a rather high tolerance for pain, and I don't think my clit is that sensitive. But from my experience: rubbing alcohol, liqours, nail polish remover, anything to that extent is very strong. I can take it and enjoy it long enough to orgasm, but once I'm done I better have something to wash it off with! I just tried a "mint mouthwash" from some unknown company, and felt absolutely nothing - though that might just be the brand.

Toothpaste I think might be your best bet. Use a very small amount, let it sit for about 10 to 15 seconds and then wipe/lick it off... it should only mildly tingle and takes about 20 seconds to reach it's full effect. So wiping it off a bit before that is just precautionary. It continues to have an effect even after it's been washed off for a few minutes. So if she starts to get uncomfortable, get it off fast because it still builds up a bit afterward. I like the feeling, because it's not too strong, and afterward makes my clit feel cool (probably because of the mint in it) which is refreshing.

Hope that helps!
Cheers,
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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 1:07:15 AM

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Ice is nice, but can be painful on the clit.

Swallow the ice and treat her to a cold tongue.

Besides yourself, you don't have to put anything on the clit...okay toys are fun.
Here's some ideas for play.

If she's very sensitive, a soft gentle touch works well and move your finger, tongue, toys in slow circles.

Let her push into you / your toy to increase the pressure or speed up the pace.
This way, you're letting her decide on much friction she needs.

Tempted to pick up the pace on your own, if she pulls back, let her.
The clit can get very tender, especially after a few orgasms, and she may need to breathe or rest.

"There have been many suggestions as to the variety of things to use on a woman's clit. How would you rate them in order from least powerful to most powerful?"

Now there's a personal preference area and can be a dangerous question to answer. The same finger that is pressing soft and gentle can change from hard to cruel in seconds. So I'm gonna skip this one.

"For the women, what would you use in combination with other forms of stimulation? "

Oooh... so many choices.

A tongue on the clit, a finger in the pussy, the other hand playing with a breast.
A finger on the clit, a mouth on a breast, with a hand on the other breast.
A tongue on the clit, a finger in the pussy, another finger in the anus.
A finger on the clit, a hand on the breast, your mouth on hers.

Two hands and a mouth, so many combinations.

We haven't even mentioned toys. Oh my!
A vibrator in the pussy, your mouth on her clit... yup, back to those combinations.
Only this time, you can add toys that attach and are hands free:
nipple clamps, butt plugs, a vibrating dildo or egg...

Want to dazzle her with a new position:

You stand next to the bed.
She lays on her back, head off the bed, shoulders on it, her body spread as desired.
Your erection goes into her mouth.
You are looking down and now have a variety of ways to practice the above options.
(Afraid you'll cum too soon? Then let her kiss/lick your balls while you play.)

Have fun!

< Message edited by Rubyb -- 7/15/2005 1:09:18 AM >

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 1:44:36 AM

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You might find some interesting suggestions on this site:
http://www.bdsm-education.com/food.html
It focuses a little more on insertables, but I imagine most of those could also be used on the clit.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 2:26:41 AM

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Aftershock. It's a cinamon liquer that has the sugar crystals forming on the bottom. A little swig of that in your mouth, yum. It has a very interesting combination of sensations, be cause it goes from warm to cool and back again. Some ladies enjoy it from an atomizer or a little spray bottle squirted on their parts of choice (nice on the nipples too) and if you refrigerate it the sensations are even more intense.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 7:34:20 AM

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I posted on the other thread and mentioned ginger root on the clit. In my opinion, it's a nice warm feeling, not too intense at all. You could put a sliver on her clit, cover it with a small vibrating toy and do a number of things...fingers inside her, you inside her, etc. I'm one that likes ice, just not right on my clit. So, if you use it, you might want to avoid direct contact with her clit if she's sensitive in that area. I've tried other things like listerine, some liquors, and benaca. There have been times when I was too sensitive to these things and at other times, they were great. So, you might want to keep that in mind when you experiment.

But with whatever you try, have fun!
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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 11:11:03 AM

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if toothpaste is too strong and she's really really sensitive, try this

go buy a tiny paint brush, when suitably attired/restrained/reclined to your satisfaction, dip the brush in hot water and paint her clit.

variations: use a little food dye to stain the water, and subsequently her clit, so that for the next day or so, when she looks down, she's reminded of the occasion.

And yoghurt, if refridgerated is cool, though not too cool, then you can eat it off. The temp difference between your mouth and cold yoghurt is wonderful

Up the anti with ice if she can take it.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 12:18:48 PM

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I just changed one of my classes in the fall semester to Painting 101.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 12:31:28 PM

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Thanks Ladies, keep the coming. I wish I had 4 arms and 4 hands sometimes.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 3:12:18 PM

fp2012

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Oh haha, I forgot poprocks! Those certainly have a unique sensation. They don't burn or tingle or anything like the other stuff mentioned, but I just love the feeling. Some guys like it too. Just put some in your mouth and have some fun! I think she'd enjoy it.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 7:12:58 PM

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a tongue always works best for me.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/15/2005 10:23:38 PM

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Try Altoids (the curiously strong mint) in YOUR mouth. Let your saliva cover her clit, it gives a mild icyhot sensation without being too intense. (works great for BJ's too if you don't accidentally swallow them whole!)

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/19/2005 7:43:40 AM

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A very popular item here for insertion and on the clit is Tiger Balm..I has an interesting tingle!

Respectfully,
sultry

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/19/2005 8:58:50 AM

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Blush brushes are the bomb for this type of thing, and for luxuriating use guinness and champagne..........followed by a good bath or shower (to prevent yeast infection)

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/20/2005 12:03:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pandoravampire
And yoghurt, if refridgerated is cool, though not too cool, then you can eat it off. The temp difference between your mouth and cold yoghurt is wonderful Up the anti with ice if she can take it.

I've used yoghurt instead of chocolate when doing a little oral worship, it works great, and unlike chocolate it isn't so rich that it gets sickening after just a little bit. ::grin::

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/20/2005 7:03:58 PM

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Hey Y'all-
I just wanted to remind everyone that sugar in a warm, dark place makes yeast and yeast in your vagina causes a yeast infection.
It proabably wouldn't be a good idea to use poprocks or toothpaste internally. Flavored lubes aren't made for internal uses, either, due to the reasons stated above.
Have fun!
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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/21/2005 9:46:00 AM

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A fem sub friend of mine who finds toothpaste a bit mild swears by clove oil.

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RE: how to ask this?? - 7/21/2005 1:27:51 PM

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and clove oil will straighten you out for anal sex as well! my, my, my......it's a dessert topping, it's a floor wax............lol

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