Valentyne
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fast reply I have had a sort of similar problem, when in the heat of the moment, I cannot verbally communicate other than whatever noises moans and sighs come out... I have had a partner that needed that, and it was a huge clash for us. We would get each other all worked up, even talking about all sorts of things leading up to that moment, but once I really was there, I would fall silent, and he would say "talk to me" and it would just totally take me out of the moment, what the hell is there to talk about when you are in that space? It was like being woken up from the best dream ever, just because someone wants a running commentary... and how frustrating can that be?!?! Granted I am referring to having sex, not just a play scene... so maybe this doesn't apply. That said, sometimes talking can be a great turn on, but at the wrong time can be a total mood killer too. My point is, make sure you are allowing her her own headspace to enjoy your play in, and start slow maybe have her write you a kinky note, so that she can think about it a little and not worry about it coming out silly... and work on building up her self confidence if you can, then just be patient. :) best of luck!
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