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labrat18610 -> Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 5:32:29 PM)
When the Master and I were living together, He was supposed to bring my car home by 2:30PM. I needed it to drive about 60 miles to work. His car was in the shop. Well, he never showed up till about 5. I had to call in to work with an obvious fake excuse. I was angry as hell. I confronted Him. I'll never forget what He said to me. "You're not going to do anything. And you know why? You're afraid of me". And He was right. While I wasn't physically afraid of Him, I was afraid of the authorty He had over me. Yeah, I had given Him that authority, but it was His to what He wished. His use of that authority scared me. BTW, just so you know that Master wasn't some irresponsible turkey, He thought it was my day off.

michaels4evr -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 5:49:35 PM)
still sounds emotionally abusive to me..i don't do well with threats..and while its arousing to me to have a "fear" of the unknown of what Michael might do with His authority..I have no real fear that He would misuse His power. I know He would never purposely harm me in anyway.

natureschild -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 5:51:29 PM)
Well he gets a very small excuse for that one, and he did think it was your day off. But all the same, I would feel you had the right to be mad with him about it. Did you ever try getting in contact with him, to inform that it was getting late? I would hope that if you had, and your "not my day off" status had come up, that he would have brought your car back. Or next time maybe you should just rent-a-car for a few days.

mmb1 -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 6:00:11 PM)
Well if you fear your Master, there is a problem.

nephandi -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 6:18:54 PM)
Hi i would recomend you and your Master sitting down and talking about this. i will not neccesary say he is abusive, i know nothing about your relationship. But if this bothers you, you and him should have a chat about it. It bares saying again comunication is of uttermost inportance in an M/ relationship. i wish you well

RRafe -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 6:30:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labrat18610 When the Master and I were living together, He was supposed to bring my car home by 2:30PM. I needed it to drive about 60 miles to work. His car was in the shop. Well, he never showed up till about 5. I had to call in to work with an obvious fake excuse. I was angry as hell. I confronted Him. I'll never forget what He said to me. "You're not going to do anything. And you know why? You're afraid of me". And He was right. While I wasn't physically afraid of Him, I was afraid of the authorty He had over me. Yeah, I had given Him that authority, but it was His to what He wished. His use of that authority scared me. BTW, just so you know that Master wasn't some irresponsible turkey, He thought it was my day off. I disagree. You were afraid he'd withdraw the authority. That's a Tops biggest card in a consensual society.

KatyLied -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 7:11:27 PM)
Hide your car keys where he won't find them.

YourShyPet -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 7:17:24 PM)
Just a thought of mine concerning fear..... the only thing that fear results in compliance not submission... and truly has no place in this lifestyle beyond the excitement fear of the unknown.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 7:20:13 PM)
I am at times intimidated or awed by my Master's power and authority, but the one time I told him I feared him (ie; his use of his authority) he turned that ship around post haste. He does not want me fearing him. He prefers my motivation coming from a place of love, respect, submission and devotion, not fear. I lived most of my life in fear. I am glad to be rid of it.

AquaticSub -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 7:42:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labrat18610 When the Master and I were living together, He was supposed to bring my car home by 2:30PM. I needed it to drive about 60 miles to work. His car was in the shop. Well, he never showed up till about 5. I had to call in to work with an obvious fake excuse. I was angry as hell. I confronted Him. I'll never forget what He said to me. "You're not going to do anything. And you know why? You're afraid of me". And He was right. While I wasn't physically afraid of Him, I was afraid of the authorty He had over me. Yeah, I had given Him that authority, but it was His to what He wished. His use of that authority scared me. BTW, just so you know that Master wasn't some irresponsible turkey, He thought it was my day off. Valyraen would apologize for making me miss work. He may not be an irresponsible turkey but he fucked up and IMHO he should own up to it.

RRafe -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 7:48:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YourShyPet Just a thought of mine concerning fear..... the only thing that fear results in compliance not submission... and truly has no place in this lifestyle beyond the excitement fear of the unknown. Or fear of loss-which is emotional blackmail.

SirDraco7 -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 8:06:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labrat18610 When the Master and I were living together, He was supposed to bring my car home by 2:30PM. I needed it to drive about 60 miles to work. His car was in the shop. Well, he never showed up till about 5. I had to call in to work with an obvious fake excuse. I was angry as hell. I confronted Him. I'll never forget what He said to me. "You're not going to do anything. And you know why? You're afraid of me". And He was right. While I wasn't physically afraid of Him, I was afraid of the authorty He had over me. Yeah, I had given Him that authority, but it was His to what He wished. His use of that authority scared me. BTW, just so you know that Master wasn't some irresponsibl turkey, He thought it was my day off. Isn't the fact that he thought it was your day off when in fact it wasn't, in some small way irresponsible? The way he responded, in my opinion, was wrong. He made a Mistake, he should fess up. He cannot just sweep such under the rug, he needs to make it up and fix it and be sorry, not just shrug it off as it didn't matter. If he put himself in your shoes for that moment maybe he would've understood your reaction more and not have been so abrasive with his reply... Just my thoughts.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 8:11:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labrat18610 "You're not going to do anything. And you know why? You're afraid of me". Whether or not you are, this is about the lamest excuse for not apologizing for a mistake I have ever heard of. A Master should not feel it necessary to pull this sort of thing, just becasue he made a mistake. Thats way up there wiht the "Becasue I said so" as a reasoning approach. DV

celticlord2112 -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 8:13:34 PM)
Your master chooses to rule through fear. That is his choice. If you submit out of fear, that is your choice. I prefer to rule through love. I desire my slave to fear only my displeasure. Thus, I have only scorn and slight regard for your master. That is my choice.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/15/2007 9:09:11 PM)
the part i am curoious about though is the part where he said you wont do anything...did you threaten him with something?

heartcream -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/16/2007 12:14:18 AM)
when i got my puppy i dint know much at all about how to train her. she came from the worst 3mths of her life. her mother was dying as she was giving birth in a not so great home in harlem. think crack. the 10 puppies were immediately abandoned. a woman who 'rescued' animals took them. they lived outside in the winter with abandoned pitbulls, rottweilliers, 40 dogs in one small yard. she was already old when i got her off the street in manhattan. she peed everywhere. i got like 10 books out of the library and tried everything. one book said to hit her on the nose with a newspaper. i did. she ran in the closet. i realized i would never do anything to make her afraid of me. i apologized to her profusely. it is only now after 10, years (the first 6 we lived in manhattan) that i feel comfortable to lean down close to her ear and low growl. it cuts me up --it makes me laugh. but i would never have done it before. she is my delicate dog who went from being the most skittish thing in the world to a girl doggy who sleeps on the couch outside on the porch and feels safe.

Babybass -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/16/2007 2:59:50 AM)
I do not think that fear has any place in the lifestyle - at least for me - I know that while Master might cause me physical pain (which i love) he would never do anything to hurt me and he will always love me. If i were to ever feel fear towards Him i think it would be time for me to leave, for i do not think that He would love me at that stage. But that is just how i feel and, as celticlord - your Master chooses to dominate through fear and you chose to submit through fear that is the choice you both made.

angelic -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/16/2007 4:45:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: labrat18610 His use of that authority scared me. From this one line, it sounds to me like he was an irresponsible turkey. If he was not using his authority in a responsible way and it caused you fear, umm... yes irresponsible.

Focus50 -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/16/2007 5:17:24 AM)
I can see the misunderstanding about him thinking it's your day off. Buuuuuuut...... He was still sposta bring it back over 2 hours earlier then he did? And his "reason" was not a reason but a statement of menace? Being empowered doesn't justify abusing that power and I can sense trouble building here. Sounds like a "God" in the making here - watch out....! Focus.

SirCache -> RE: Afraid Of The Master (9/16/2007 5:20:18 AM)
Fear can be useful in some scenes, but ultimately you should respect him, not fear him. The thing that sticks out to me is that he's willing to cause you professional problems on what is little more than a whim.

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