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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 2:30:06 PM   
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It's actually going to weed out a lot of the people you are going to go for. I wasn't kidding when I said I grew up in high circles. The women with your attitude provide a great deal of amusement at name-dropping parties.


I don't 'go for' anyone within your league.  No worries, I wouldn't be at parties that you would attend. 

Lying about sexual history, yeah, ooo oops that is the topic  forgot.

I'm a slut, an educated slut, I prefer someone who is MORE educated/powerful  and MORE slutty than me.  Hard to find. (the more educated part). lol

and NO, I wouldn't settle for some unemployed BUMM.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 2:45:28 PM   
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I don't 'go for' anyone within your league.  No worries, I wouldn't be at parties that you would attend. 

No you wouldn't. And it's not because my league is too low. The "league" I grew up was quite affluent. Several homes, many fancy expensive cars, more diamonds than a wife knew what to do with, husbands who worked all the time, time shares, so on and so forth. All that pointless, meaningless shit that doesn't amount to anything in the long run.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 2:55:21 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		You don't know what went on behind closed doors of those people. 

It was a different time and place to us now.  A different generation.  Maybe to those women domination was spoken in terms of 'shiney things'.  Those shiney things (at that time) were only bought by those in power obviously.  That is why the women stuck around, sad, happy, or indefferent.  It still had some power surrounding the factualities. 

It is the same now, to me.  I care that he has power, I care that he has aquired financial prowess.  He has proven in our world and economy that he is higher-echelon ape!  I will not make due with a lesser man who cannot be a top in the very system he adheres to.  Gotta love the lower man who claims because he is not suceeding that he is doing it for some 'cause' though. (aka, I have failed, so it is for a benefit of such like enviromentalism) It is sooo quaint. lol, cheezy, but quaint.

but back to topic...no, If I fuked someone of lower status, I would lie about it. I wouldn't count them as sexual experience.  They meant nothing. They were a temp.  They weren't a dominant., just a fuk.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:04:20 PM   
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You don't know what went on behind closed doors of those people. 


I grew up in that. It was my family. It was the families of my childhood friends, where I spent my sleepovers. I have a pretty damn good idea of what went on. You'd be amazed what people will say when they think their children and their friends are asleep.
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It was a different time and place to us now. 

I'm 22 and I still know these people. Nothing has changed.
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It is the same now, to me.  I care that he has power, I care that he has aquired financial prowess.  He has proven in our world and economy that he is higher-echelon ape!  I will not make due with a lesser man who cannot be a top in the very system he adheres to.  Gotta love the lower man who claims because he is not suceeding that he is doing it for some 'cause' though. (aka, I have failed, so it is for a benefit of such like enviromentalism) It is sooo quaint. lol, cheezy, but quaint.


Tell me: Exactly what position do you consider to be top of his system?

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:09:41 PM   
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I grew up in that. It was my family. It was the families of my childhood friends, where I spent my sleepovers. I have a pretty damn good idea of what went on. You'd be amazed what people will say when they think their children and their friends are asleep.


ohhhh

you are only 22, you grew up in that.

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I'm 22 and I still know these people. Nothing has changed.
 

haha, well, when you grow up and see them in a different light, you will see that all is not what you think.

come back to notify in about 10 years.


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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:13:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: came4U

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I grew up in that. It was my family. It was the families of my childhood friends, where I spent my sleepovers. I have a pretty damn good idea of what went on. You'd be amazed what people will say when they think their children and their friends are asleep.


ohhhh

you are only 22, you grew up in that.

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I'm 22 and I still know these people. Nothing has changed.
 

haha, well, when you grow up and see them in a different light, you will see that all is not what you think.

come back to notify in about 10 years.




Yes I'm only 22. Which means the bullshit, the cheating, the lying, the hatred, the divorces, the nelegct of children is suddenly going to be all right when I'm 32? Remind me to commit sucide when I'm 31. When I become that is the day I disgust myself.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:25:25 PM   
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came4u only wants powerful dominant men.  What the hell  is wrong with that?  What's all the projection about?  It's HER life.  Let go of the goddamn  bone.  Wasn't there a topic around page 5 or so? 

And came4u...have to agree with you, but then again I'm almost 40 so the love on a hungry belly thing doesn't appeal to Me.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:29:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Exactly, you were perhaps raised around and with the affluent, that doesn't imply that those men were powerful.  Power does not only imply money, it implies ethics, morality and virtue.  Even if very little of it is given within the office, a powerful man compensates by having a better marriage, or he only feeds his children bran cereal and no sugars.  The power is divisional, not just from the top.  I know a lot of losers (in my books) who have high finance occupations.  They are there because they bullshit well. Yet, I know some bullshitters who are in lowly crap jobs.  They bullshit within their echelon on knowing how to and when to. It is like 'Trading Places'.  Anyone can trade for a few days, but truth is, it won't last long.  They are out of their element. 

I know when someone is in their element, or if they are bullshitting.  Honestly, if you were raised around such bullshit, you should know better than to associate with that type. Someday. 


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And came4u...have to agree with you, but then again I'm almost 40 so the love on a hungry belly thing doesn't appeal to Me.  


omfg LOLLLOLLOL



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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:35:36 PM   
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Exactly, you were perhaps raised around and with the affluent, that doesn't imply that those men were powerful.  Power does not only imply money, it implies ethics, morality and virtue.  Even if very little of it is given within the office, a powerful man compensates by having a better marriage, or he only feeds his children bran cereal and no sugars.  The power is divisional, not just from the top.  I know a lot of losers (in my books) who have high finance occupations.  They are there because they bullshit well. Yet, I know some bullshitters who are in lowly crap jobs.  They bullshit within their echelon on knowing how to and when to. It is like 'Trading Places'.  Anyone can trade for a few days, but truth is, it won't last long.  They are out of their element. 

I know when someone is in their element, or if they are bullshitting.  Honestly, if you were raised around such bullshit, you should know better than to associate with that type. Someday. 


I don't. I associate with hard-working honest people and almost completely forgo the fancy, "powerful people", now that I am old enough to have a choice as to who I associate with. But obviously, I can not control who my parents associate with and since I still choose to associate with them I am still in contact with some of the people I used to associate with.

But now I have a better idea by what you mean by powerful. Good luck to you in finding what you want - just be careful. I know you probably won't believe me that I know what I'm talking about, but be careful.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:39:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would be upset that someone could not be honest about their background with me.  I don't need to know the mistakes, the one-night stands, or anything else.  I don't put any faith into the number, either--I just want to be certain of a clean bill of health beforehand.  If someone asks I don't mind talking about it--if you ask me about the last ten years, I've only had 1 partner.  From ages 14-27?  I had 22. 

I don't lie about it, I'm don't recite names, or boast/take pride in it.  It is a part of me, however, and if someone wants to get to know me better, I believe in telling the truth and making certain that the answer is provided in context.  At no point do the feelings and adventures I had at age 14 affect my decisions at 37.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:45:47 PM   
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But now I have a better idea by what you mean by powerful. Good luck to you in finding what you want - just be careful. I know you probably won't believe me that I know what I'm talking about, but be careful.


Be careful? lol

I know what I am doing kiddo.

I know of and have lived the life of  being of of these people of power. The ones I know now just happen to not be of dominant nature in my liking (they are only job-dominant, home/society wusses).

I know what I want, I won't likely find it.  No matter to me, I will still survive with or without cock. lol 


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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:49:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

On another thread someone said that "most" women lie about how many partners they have had. Do you lie about your sexual past, number of partners, experiences, etc. and if so what is your reason for doing so? Would you be upset if you learned your partner had lied to you about their past?


I don't lie in fact I tend to be blunt and in your face to start off with. Get the details right out there so I don't waste my time if someone has a problem with me in the past, me now, or me in the future.

Any lie in my opinion undermines the very foundation of an intimate relationship. I consider Ds to be an intimate relationship.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:55:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps I missed it, but did anyone in this thread ever explain why, besides the ever popular STD question, the topic even matters?


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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 3:57:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		So mention every partner or every bdsm partner? Depends on the question. 

is there a difference? yesssssssss

is it lying to mention only every kink partner? no.

How many times you were kissed? How many times were you sucked? How many times you were felt up your shirt in highschool??? geez.  Who cares.

No need to lie, but no need to ask.  At my age, no one I know is a virgin. Have safe sex or none at all.  Have bdsm with someone who trust or none at all.  Have both at the same time.  The only reason why anyone would want to know the actual number is for possible pussy/cock intimidation reasons.  Drop the 20 questions about how many, use a condom and try to play/love/enjoy or don't.


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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 4:00:23 PM   
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It is interesting to see what you think is "having their shit together". Having a car and a job is not what I would call having their shit together. For me it means someone that is comfortable and happy with their life with no issues. For me you are someone that does not have your shit together.


Life isn't perfect, therefore everyone has issues whether they want to admit it or not. Are you telling me that you would actually consider a long term relationship (one that would evolve to living together) with a man who had no income and no transportation? Are you saying that freeloaders have their shit together as long as they are happy with their lives mooching off of everyone around them? I remember you advising me on another thread not to turn men away that have no job and no transportation. I decided to ask my father for his opinion. He said and I quote "Any man in his 30's that doesn't have a job and transportation is a bum and you need to stay away from him." He isn't some rich snob that looks down on everyone that has a lower income that him and hates those who are that way. He just doesn't like freeloading bums. I'm the same way (notice I said a job......even if it's fast food).


Yes I would and did consider a long term relationship with someone who did not have a job. I am still in that relationship and yes I have funded him for much of that relationship. Do I see him as a freeloader? NO because what I saw in him was the drive to do what he has done by setting up his own business. So I funded him during the time he set up the business and worked at it to bring it to the point it is at today, a successful and growing business. Of course you would have passed him by because he "did not have his shit together" and your father would call him a bum.

You posted on another thread about baggage, well you have such heavy baggage that it is obvious to anyone that reads your posts. It will be obvious to those that are prospective partners during your chats with them. Until you get your shit together you will find it pretty hard to find that ideal of yours. 

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 4:02:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I see no point in lying about my past.  I have had a very interesting past, and it is who I am.  If you cant accept what I did before then you arent going to eb able to accept me. If you want to know if I am D&D free, the answer is yes. However, I see it like this. If the answer is potentialy going to bother you, then you had better not ask it.  I am not goingot give you the answer you want to hear just to amke you happy.  My past is a fact.  I know what I have been into and if you want to kow I wil tell you. If its a problem, well,thats your issue not mine.
On the off chance I ask, which I usually dont, then I would be anoyed if someone lied. Whats the point? You arent going to impress me by saying youve had more exp than you really have... and it doesnt matter to me if youve had less. I am with someone for who they are to me, not who they did before they met me.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 4:07:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		susie: no offense, but I would do that favour for a friend, never a lover.

If he was a lover, I would lose respect for him to be only a submissive to me from that point on. If a man had to come to me for money-he is forever a mooch, bumm, a lesser, a submissive forever to me.  I cannot look at the man the same.

Even a man who cannot afford a lunch or dinner, he is forever a bumm. It is the little things that count.


I have such harsh ideals on this subject, is just the way I am.

edit again: k it is sun night, stuff to do for monday so I'm outta here for the night.  will comment back to the lovely convo tomorrow sometime. 

unless I get fuked for my 353rd time tonight . 


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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 4:22:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

Perhaps I missed it, but did anyone in this thread ever explain why, besides the ever popular STD question, the topic even matters?



actually yes, some (myself included) have answered that very question.

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 4:22:49 PM   
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Even a man who cannot afford a lunch or dinner, he is forever a bumm. It is the little things that count.



* bum.  Forever?  He can never have a starting point?

My parents used to talk about how when they were first married, they were happy to have chicken once a week.  As a graduate of Annapolis, he later supported his wife and five children with a large home in the suburbs and a beach house, in a Maximum Level Security Clearance position for the Federal Government, as a specialist in Russian satellite reconaissance.

I'm glad my mom didn't think he'd be a "forever bumm" or I'd have never been made!  (Then again, that may have pleased some people...heh).

It is your right to hold your opinions, but your words disply a rather closed mind to me.  It seems with you, people will always be what they are today...unless I've misunderstood?

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RE: Are you honest about your sexual past? - 9/16/2007 4:23:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

Perhaps I missed it, but did anyone in this thread ever explain why, besides the ever popular STD question, the topic even matters?



actually yes, some (myself included) have answered that very question.


Ditto

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