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subcheryl -> RE: Firm and tolerant (7/19/2005 4:25:57 PM)
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ORIGINAL: fastlane
I apologize for the lack of clarity in this thread and after reading it again I can see why no one understands it. The point I wanted to make is this. I have heard of many Master and Mistresses alike, putting their slaves in situations that are most uncomfortable to them. There was no negotiation, just orders, to which a potential slave/submissive, ended up totally turned off to the the lifestyle. The slave was made to eat bodily waste or perhaps do a threesome, for example. There was no negotiation, just strict orders and punnishment for not obeying. Now, I certainly understand how some prefer this and want this, but not all! The one's that didn't bargain for this type of D/s relationship often end up emotionally screwed up and many leave the lifestyle. Maybe these are rare cases, when you look at the big picture, yet I have been told of them fairly frequently. Often times when a submissive contacts me, the first thing I ask about is bad experiences and limits that you do not want to exceed. I think this builds up trust and respect from the very beginning. By saying my "sub doesn't know shiat", I am also referring to newbies wanting to break in to the lifestyle and who are looking to learn the roles of the D/s relationship. These are the ones who are also the most vulnerable....in my opinion.
I hope this helps clarify my initial post. Thanks all!
To start off with I think this post just shows that you are a compassionate Dom, yes there are many slaves, esp. new ones who find themselves in very uncomfortable situations, and mostly due to no experiences, when I first started into the lifestyle had many contact me wanting me to be poly, eat human waste, drink pee and all. I am thankful these encounters for me where all online and I was able to ignore them after I figured out what was going on and what I was really comfortable with. My Master was great, what drew me to him was the fact he didn't thump his chest and demand things of me and such, he talked about himself shared info with me and asked me about myself, I have been with my master now 7 months and must say am not sorry that I made the choice to come to him. We are still learning about each other and about ourselves, one of the things we discovered was he is more a DaddyDom type due to his nurturing nature and yet he too is firm, and I thrive in his protectiveness and guidance and his support in areas of my life. It doesn't seem like 7 months since we started our journey, in fact master says it seems like 5 mins. to him and I hope it continues to feel that way for the two of us. So perhaps you are a DaddyDom type, you think?
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