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TakenPet -> Too Busy (9/22/2007 8:22:58 PM)
I have a little worry. At this point Master and I are living apart for financial reasons. Master is working midnights and is taking some classes at the college to better himself, this I understand. I am doing the same, but this will not leave anytime for me. I am not sure what to do, he is my life and I feel so forgotten because we went from talking everyday all day and so on, to once a week for half an hour. I am not sure what to do? I feel worried about being forgotten and I am not sure what to do with myself right now. Any suggestions? tp

RRafe -> RE: Too Busy (9/22/2007 8:36:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TakenPet I have a little worry. At this point Master and I are living apart for financial reasons. Master is working midnights and is taking some classes at the college to better himself, this I understand. I am doing the same, but this will not leave anytime for me. I am not sure what to do, he is my life and I feel so forgotten because we went from talking everyday all day and so on, to once a week for half an hour. I am not sure what to do? I feel worried about being forgotten and I am not sure what to do with myself right now. Any suggestions? tp Write him some porn?[;)]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Too Busy (9/22/2007 8:54:16 PM)
Ask him what he intends to do? Make a set phone call for every other day? I mean everyone has to eat, even if it's just a 15 minute call during lunch.

chellekitty -> RE: Too Busy (9/22/2007 11:15:55 PM)
i was just talking about this earlier in the context of a long distance relationship...(my Dominant friend's girl's husband is in the military) and they are coming up with some really good ways...cause sometimes, no matter how much you communicate (though that is the first step, and that can't be left out, you need to do that, did i mention you need to communicate) sometimes you need a concrete, kinesthetic activity to "remind" you of your submission....

BaronSamhedi -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 12:13:34 AM)
I'm in a similar situation with my pet. I'll send you her collarme profile link if you'd like to talk with her about it. Send me a message, though. I'm not likely to remember to check this later.

onlyHisgirl -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 12:18:13 AM)
Wow...sounds exactly like Daddy and me...W/we talked almost everyday and then for awhile once a week and then nothing (due to His *crazy* schedule) and now at least every other day.

iammachine -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 12:44:56 AM)
Find a time to have a discussion about it. It sucks when your schedule is busy and the time you have available to connect with the people you care about is limited. If you need to, maybe work out some sort of routine or schedule. You probably still won't be able to interact as much as you'd like to, but at least then you'll have something to look forward to. Some things that I have done, is I might send a short note to someone in the morning when I get up, or before bed. I might make a phone call during a break. Another thing that I do is I have a little nightly ritual that I call "tuckins". That is, I'll take a time out to connect with someone over the phone for however long I have available, as you might suspect, just before I sleep (long distance tucking in [:)]). It's not much, but having something stable to look forward to can be really helpful.

michelleryder -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 5:07:20 AM)
Awwww surely he can make a little time for you even if it's only a quick call to say hi etc.

SirCache -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 6:24:14 AM)
Finding ways to connect is a two-way street, so please do remember that while you find new ways to make time for one another. Also, is there a limit as to how long this will go on? A semester? A year? Having a definitive end date can help give you both a goal to work towards. Other than that, school and work cannot occupy him 24/7. Do whatever you can to sync at least one day a week for one another.

feastie -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 6:47:15 AM)
Cell phone call in the car between work and school or from school to work or whatever. Are you willing to have your sleep interrupted for a few minutes of connection? You need to discuss this with him.

Rule -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 7:11:41 AM)
Inform your master of your concern.

breatheasone -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 3:46:57 PM)
Talk to your master... i'm sure he'll understand...and I agree with some others here...he CAN make the time to call, and say "Hey". I hope you feel better soon...

KatyLied -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 4:18:51 PM)
quote: I am not sure what to do with myself right now. Any suggestions? Live your life for yourself while he is occupied. Or better yet, live your life for yourself regardless.

chellekitty -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 4:21:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied Live your life for yourself while he is occupied. Or better yet, live your life for yourself regardless. ditto...what did you do before you got in this relationship? warning bluntness ahead did you not exist before? go ahead...when he gets back, things will be much better if you're not a needy messed up basket case...

Celeste43 -> RE: Too Busy (9/23/2007 9:53:16 PM)
You may not have much phone time but you don't need to be awake at the same time to email. Two quick emails a day from both of you will help you feel connected while only taking ten minutes out of your time. But if he can't be bothered writing twice a day, then you need to reconsider the relationship.

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