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RE: Why is being a Dominant exciting to a Dom? - 7/16/2004 2:22:48 PM

Lawrence111

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i know why i am submissive...i understand what it does for me to be in the submissive role...to be with someOne i trust completely with my body, my heart, my mind and my soul....to know that i am safe and controlled......but what is it about being a Dom that is satisfying for a Dominant? i would like to understand; have thought about it often...but am unable to come up with the answer....can someOne please explain it to me?

I think the reasons are as varied as the people, and many before me have posted to that end.

I would add that as submissives can become endorphin-junkies, dominants can become serotonin-junkies (there are other chemicals including testosterone, but the names escape me now). These are *some* of chemicals that are released in the body during play (see Molly Devon who has done some research on this, presentation at Living In Leather, Ct. Lauderdale, circa 1998) , and give the user certain sensations. At their normal levels, they hardly make a difference, but when the levels are high... they produce all kids of pleasant sensations.

Just my 2 cents,

Lawrence
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RE: Why is being a Dominant exciting to a Dom? - 7/21/2004 8:31:23 AM

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For me at least it is not so much wanting something as being who I am. My dominance exhibits itself in my whole world. I own a business a fine home, have good employees and I take care of my property whether it be my clothes washer or a lovely slave on my arm. So dominance, like your submission comes from within. Chosing to exercise that with a sub is another matter. Those dynamics are well covered by other doms in reply to you.

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RE: Why is being a Dominant exciting to a Dom? - 7/21/2004 8:42:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lawrence111
I would add that as submissives can become endorphin-junkies, dominants can become serotonin-junkies (there are other chemicals including testosterone, but the names escape me now). These are *some* of chemicals that are released in the body during play (see Molly Devon who has done some research on this, presentation at Living In Leather, Ct. Lauderdale, circa 1998) , and give the user certain sensations. At their normal levels, they hardly make a difference, but when the levels are high... they produce all kids of pleasant sensations.

Hey Lawrence,

I almost wrote about this in the Subspace thread in the general BDSM section.

I certainly go into some sort of chemically altered state when I play. It doesn't even have to be physical play for me. It starts with what I call my "dom tingle", which is this "charge" in my lower stomach. It progresses to subtle mental buzz, much like what you would feel after taking a first shot of alcohol. My lips then get kind of tingly. I almost never become erect when I am in this space, but it is a very sexual experience for me.

Perhaps that is too much information, but I have wondered if others have shared such experiences...

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Taggard

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