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RE: How does one know if he/she needs to control themse... - 7/22/2005 9:21:46 AM

spateful

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

I think you need some professional help before this gets out of hand. If it affects all aspects of your life then id get help fast.

It doesnt effect my life other then my sexual encounters. And if I dont want to do this to anyne I can stop cold turkey. I have gone a year without any sexual encounter of any kind. I think the communication asspect of the relationship is lacking. It sounds about right. I also dislike that fact that a few people told me to seek professional help. Why does one need to seek professional help? Its mainly do to an action or feeling a person has. I am told to seek help cause I in its plainest form likes to hurt people. I am no different then anyone on here(except the sub and slaves). People would look at any dom's or domme's action and cleanly say you needed help yourself.

Lets take my piercings and tattoos. Hell I even hang from hooks. I am inflicting pain upon myself and cutting my flesh. Why do I not need help for this? I know kids who cut themselves in school to relieve pain and many were sent to professionals and hospitals. None of them wanted to die. It was a way to release. What I am doing with piercing and tattooing is no different. I do it to relieve pain and fustration.

So before you tell me to seek professional help clearly think what you are about to write and see that there isnt two sides.

< Message edited by spateful -- 7/22/2005 11:13:34 AM >

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RE: How does one know if he/she needs to control themse... - 8/3/2005 3:59:19 PM

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Compos sui.... One must master themselves before they can master another.

R/S,

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RE: How does one know if he/she needs to control themse... - 8/4/2005 8:11:48 AM

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hmmm go to funrals alot of pain there.

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RE: How does one know if he/she needs to control themse... - 8/10/2005 4:36:15 AM

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To me, the scary thing from your original post was the "I can't stop" part.

It made me wonder if you had the most extreme pain slut/humiliation slut whether it would work for you.

I'm still inclined to side with the Pink lady - I'd seriously think about getting my head shrunk if I were you. Maybe not even for the "sadist" stuff - you may find other causes of stress in your life that you would benefit by working on.

I know it's trendy not to criticize, but this is my community too, kids, and yes, for now, I'm the BDSM Police...

Your second post helped clarify what you like, and gave a good, hopefully representative example of a play scene for you. It seemed mean, more like a nasty mind fuck as they call them...

So - you start with a provocative statement (as many posts do), and I can't help but feel a little played after reading your second post...

You havn't lost your touch.

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RE: How does one know if he/she needs to control themse... - 8/10/2005 4:50:04 AM

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It sounds like it bothers you that you are doing this to others, and enjoying it....
THAT is a good thing...

if this bothers you, consider going to talk to a psychologist/therapist. You don't have to change, unless you want to. If you find one that knows what they are doing, they can at least give you a better understanding of this...

Rule #1 for me is... "harm no one, let no one harm me"

You said, "I dont know if it's ok to be like this". In my opinion, it's not ok. But that's just my opinion.

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RE: How does one know if he/she needs to control themse... - 8/10/2005 12:48:43 PM

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Pink... my response wasnt directed towards you. It wasnt even related to the thread.

Though i think Faramir was directed towards you, But not me. i was directing mine towards Emerald, and a few others, because it was a convient spot to speak

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RE: How does one know if he/she needs to control themse... - 8/10/2005 12:51:29 PM

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This is shaping up to be one of those threads where some newbie walks in, drops a turd, and never comes back to see who responded, while the rest of us devolve to squabbling.

Sounds like fun, want to sit back with me LAM and watch it?

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