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We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little rant - 9/26/2007 10:33:42 AM

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ok, so his work's shitty he's overly tired a lot, and add to that I haven't honestly had any bdsm play time for several months, and I am lonly and I need to play, and he's the only one I can play with, and I am sick of not seeing him enough, and I am sick of him not playing with me enough,so I was a bit to needy, he makes some stupid comment, I rebutt, so he gets mad, a fight ensue's. then he's like fine if you don't stop bitching I'm not taking you to folsom fringe, I said if you don't take me I am making you repay me the 300 dollars it cost plus cancelation fee's next payday. he got even more mad. come end of the night I am tired I am wore out and more than a bit withdrawn, so I leave early, because I dont feel like talking and I want to be left alone.

Second night more bickering and bitching, stupid stuff dunno why really, but it happend and so again, bedtime was early cause I was tired and worn out and didn't wanna be on the phone.

so after about 3 nights in a row of bitching and bickering, 4th night,

It starts out good, a tiny bit rocky but we get it undercontrol, so then I am being silly and playing with him, earlier my face had itched and I said I rubbed it on him, and oh no he had my face all over him. Later I said you still have my face whatcha gonna do with it and he gets mad and starts yelling at me and then threatens AGAIN not to come to folsom fringe with me, so I state ok if you choose not to come you loose any and all rights to any say of what goes on or what I do* period* he says fine. he keeps trying to dangle this trip in my face and I am tired of it.

I just wanted a nice happy night, and he got mad and chose to start a fight over something stupid, then goes and starts spouting off how he should go kill himself then, knowing it's emotional black mail and manipulation when he does that.

So another night ended up in tears and me leaving early cause I didn't want to be on the phone any more.

I am so sick of this and I am so wore out emotionally and mentally I almost agree I sh ould go to sanjose with out him. Of course A it wouldn't be much fun with out him, and B I can't afford bus tickets and so couldn't go with out him even if I wanted to which I don't.

RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 12:51:12 PM

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Just a quickie question.........would this be a poll or random stupidity?

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 1:04:03 PM

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Tigress Random stupidity, definatly.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 1:17:14 PM

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Figures, it involves a man......heeeeerrrrre's my sign.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 1:21:28 PM

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sounds like you shouldn't go around the corner with him let anywhere else. Dump him ..

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 1:32:21 PM

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Divi we normally get along, I know it wouldn't seem like it from all the bickering we did the last four days. I am hoping this weekend is a nice relax and reconnect time, cause we both need to reconnect, and he needs to relax mondo big time,

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 1:42:16 PM

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Well for your sake I hope it finds you both relaxed. If not I suggest some meds.. Have fun !!

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 1:49:38 PM

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Divi, got any meds you wanna loan me?* grins* He's actually supposed to be going on meds once his medical insurance kicks in. A seratonin uptake re inhibitor, which would help tons in the being over tired.

Keep your fingers crossed that it'll be a good week I know I am lol, excpet that we leave in 2 days and I haven't packed I think I'll leave it all for tomorow lol. just throw a few things in and make sure the toy bags in the car lol.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 1:56:12 PM

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I wish more then you can imagine that I had some of those kinds of meds. I'm actually pretty sane( don't laugh).
Okay this is gonna probably sound mean and judgemental but lol....You are going away spending money on a weekend.. when you probably could use that money for meds.. whats up with that ?

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 2:27:13 PM

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Divi we have to wait till he gets health insurance from his company before he could do anything continous. I wanted him on pills now, but it's to expensive to do with out health care. yeah I spent 300 dollars on our tickets, but long term medication would prolly be like 500 dollars a month, something he can't afford. ok hell I dunno how much medications are with out health insurance, cause I have insurance, but mine having it dun do no good.

a trip is a one time splurge which we saved for.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 2:59:33 PM

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People don't realize it, if they have insurance themselves, but health care is distaerously costly if you don't have health / and or medical coverage.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 3:03:17 PM

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Have you tried melatonin at night? That can be very helpful. And if you cannot afford to fill a prescription try shopping around. Some pharmacies have lower prices. I've just gone from paying 1165.00 to 740.00 because I found a really inexpensive pharmacy. Some doctors too, will be happy to supply a months worth of 'samples'.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 3:33:13 PM

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camile, do you have to have a dr's prescription for the samples some companies will supply? I've thought about suggesting he try samples, he wants a specific med I can't remember the name lazapeene or something, but I also recommended he be open to try diffrent kinds of SRI's.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 3:54:32 PM

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May I also add, for others out there who may of thought, that I think feeling depressed is black mail, No. it's not. How you deal with those feelings and what you do with them and or how you use them, can however turn into manipulation.

Just didn't want any one to think I think mental problems are manipulation, cause by themself I don't think they are.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/26/2007 4:00:57 PM

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camile, do you have to have a dr's prescription for the samples some companies will supply? I've thought about suggesting he try samples, he wants a specific med I can't remember the name lazapeene or something, but I also recommended he be open to try diffrent kinds of SRI's.

Well the samples need to be given by a doctor and it's up to them and the patient as to whether they are going to try a prescription or not. Yes there are different types as well as different side effects. They can be hard to get used to and should be tried for a couple of months before deciding not to take them. The body takes time.
Aswad knows loads about them btw.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/27/2007 5:30:48 PM

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oye what a disaster james went to pick up the car and he got ambushed with a 300 dollar disposit, and he didn't have 300 to give them so he called and told me we couldn't go cause he couldn't pick up the car, but fortunatly my dad's w/illing to step in and help out. he's driving me down to Petaluma in the morning and taking us to the rental car place, and then bringing James's doggie home. NOT a good start to our week, but least we're still going.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/27/2007 7:29:21 PM

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1. Most of the SSRI have gone generic and are on the cheapy Walmart list these days (celexa, prozac, paxil, ) even zoloft is 15 bucvks for 90 days at KMart. Lexapro is still pricey, but all it is is the new and improved celexa.

2. Check out the county mental health providers- most counties have ana agency that will see people witout insurance (in Ohio they are funded by the ADAMS board through tax levies). Usually a sliding scale based on income. They should be able to hook him up with freebie or cheap meds.

3. Don't blame everything on the meds, they are not miracle pills. They do help some, but bad behavior is still bad behavior. Might be something else eating him.

4. PM me on the other side if you want to check out local agenices.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/27/2007 10:53:11 PM

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You're right not every bad behavior can be blamed on not being on meds, valkyriesdaughte However when he's not processing seratonin like he's supposed to, he don't process sleep like he posta. a 7 or or 8 hour night of sleep feels like only 4 to him. not processing sleep right is more of a cause of bad behavior than anything. There;s a therapist here who does sliding scale as low as 1 dollar, we may try getting him his prescription from her if she's qualified to prescribe those things.

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 9/28/2007 12:14:16 PM

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Meds aren't a miracle pill....this sounds more like emotional blackmail, and the part you mention about him threatening to kill himself is a HUGE red flag for me... That's emotional blackmail on a grand scale. Holding the trip over your head is childish too.

Step back, take some time to reflect, and think of how oftern you two spend time "bickering and arguing"....you may see an escalation of both things occuring. It sounds as if there is some underlying cause to this whole thing.....personally, I'd pull out, step back and review the whole situation. Blaming medications, or lack thereof, just postpnes examining the real causes.

Just my .05

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RE: We've done nothing but bicker and argue, my little ... - 10/1/2007 10:21:39 AM

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We had a wonderful weekend minus a few snags at saturday's play party and one snag at the street fair, but it was so fun, and on sunday I got to grope and look my fill of lots of sexy flesh, and I was walking in bra and panties and lots of people wanted pics, even more so when I put a bottle in between my boobs and walked about, and even more more so when I pretended to blow it.

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