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ORIGINAL: BruisedHick
If you go somewhere, stay in public.  Taxi, public transport, whatever.  He can't hijack the subway.

If he tries raping you in line at Starbucks, you'll have a whole group of hippies for you.

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ORIGINAL: daisymae03

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ORIGINAL: BruisedHick
If you go somewhere, stay in public.  Taxi, public transport, whatever.  He can't hijack the subway.

If he tries raping you in line at Starbucks, you'll have a whole group of hippies for you.

well thats true except that where i live there arent taxis or subways ( the perils of living in a rural community with lots and lots of small towns and farm land) and i dunno about the hippies at my local starbucks if someone was getting raped in there i think half of them would jump in and help the bad guy

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

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ORIGINAL: daisymae03

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ORIGINAL: BruisedHick
If you go somewhere, stay in public.  Taxi, public transport, whatever.  He can't hijack the subway.

If he tries raping you in line at Starbucks, you'll have a whole group of hippies for you.

well thats true except that where i live there arent taxis or subways ( the perils of living in a rural community with lots and lots of small towns and farm land) and i dunno about the hippies at my local starbucks if someone was getting raped in there i think half of them would jump in and help the bad guy

LOL aw.. come on Branson's not that bad.
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ORIGINAL: daisymae03

well thats true except that where i live there arent taxis or subways ( the perils of living in a rural community with lots and lots of small towns and farm land) and i dunno about the hippies at my local starbucks if someone was getting raped in there i think half of them would jump in and help the bad guy

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ORIGINAL: BruisedHick

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ORIGINAL: daisymae03

well thats true except that where i live there arent taxis or subways ( the perils of living in a rural community with lots and lots of small towns and farm land) and i dunno about the hippies at my local starbucks if someone was getting raped in there i think half of them would jump in and help the bad guy

Then don't meet there.

It comes down to playing it safe.  Mace is not a deterrent, it may allow for an escape, it may lead to him picking up a tire iron and smashing around randomly. 

Once you are in private with someone intent on harming you, you cannot really prevent it.  All you can do is try to get out.  Why put yourself in that situation????

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ORIGINAL: ClubMix

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

don't take the note with you...leave it at home....wait...what am I saying... I guess I dont carry mace because I spend ALOT of time talking to people before I meet them and then I meet them in public at least once before being alone with them.  Is that absolutely foolproof, no, but then again, my odds of using mace successfully against a man aren't either.  I think your best precaution is patience and really taking the time to get to know the person as well as you can before meeting.
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Well talking to them a lot is fine and dandy. But not all rapists are foaming lunatics who will crack under the pressure of a few questions. A lot of them are really just average-seeming people.

Approximately 28% of victims are raped by husbands or boyfriends, 35% by acquaintances, and 5% by other relatives. (Violence against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994)

You can`t really tell someone`s a rapist until they are.

Obviously you can't tell if someone is a rapist, that's true and I guess we take risks meeting people all the time even in vanilla life. 
Since the person you are meeting isn't a husband, boyfriend, aquaintance or relative, how do your statistics help?  They don't.
The bigger reality and fear for me is the person will be unbalanced and a stalker.  Talking can filter out many of these types of personalities.  I have a very good idea of who they are, where they live, where they work and many other various details about their lives that I check out before meeting them as well.
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