I want a Dom who wants only one sub. Why do Doms seem to think just because this is not a vanilla relationship they can have their cake and eat it? Whats wrong with being a normal one on one couple or do all men have to hide under the cloak of bdsm, as in the vanilla world how many women would put up with this poly crap. I never have and never will. Is it selfish to want my man all to myself? Or are all men more interested in adding notches to the bed post.
Ps, This was meant to be in reply to the thread starter and not pineapple sub!!!
There's that word 'normal' again. Why is a non-hetero-non-monogamous relationship NOT 'normal'? I beg to differ with the labeling of Poly as crap. I'm not a man and I'm not a dominant and I have Poly wiring. Poly is not the same as swinging. Nor is it the same as having an open relationship. And nothing is wrong with any of them, they're different and work equally well for different people.
What makes me Polyamorous? I'm not interested in casual intimate relationships, as it's almost an oxymoron to call anything remotely intimate 'casual'. I believe that I can love more than one person. LOVE being the key word. I could fuck just anybody, but I don't want to. I could play with just anyone but I don't want to. I prefer to have a deeper, committed relationship with the people I'm intimate with. If there is one more person in this world who truly loves me and has my best interest at heart, better for me. I know I'm capable of offering that same love, caring and consideration in return. It's not easy to get 2 people on that same page, let alone 3 or 4. But if you can......there are no words.
While you may not be poly wired - there are many people who aren't - please don't automatically relegate Poly to the realm of misogyny, adultery and deceit. You can want a man all to yourself, as it's your right. Just make sure you find the one who wants to be that - just yours.
BRAVO! Give the lady a TeddyBear. Well said. (Putting my two cents back in my pocket for a later date)
Awww, thanks....can I have the blue one?
As an update: recent events have cemented these ideas into my head. I know without a shadow of a doubt that any secondary relationship I have must be based on more than just play/sex. I've seen firsthand how enjoyment of the physical coupled with NRE can lead people seeking poly to making bad decisions. Polyamory basically translates to 'many loves'. I need more from a loving relationship than just great sex or intense play.
< Message edited by luvdragonx -- 11/13/2005 1:22:31 AM >
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